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Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 16:44
The title says it all...
What does someone have to have to become your friend?
What kind of people do you like?
What do you do when you see there is a probelem in comunication between you and your friend?

Legend of Lara
05-09-07, 16:46
Uhhh... random much? :p

Last time I checked, the only ones who were able to make "Official" threads were mods and admins.

xcrushterx
05-09-07, 16:49
People who like your personality are good friend contendors.



Last time I checked, the only ones who were able to make "Official" threads were mods and admins.
That's never been the case. Well, not since since I've been a member anyway.

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 16:49
Wow, and not even bothered to answer, Legend of Lara.
Really mature. And no, you can make official threads, not only admins.

remote91
05-09-07, 16:52
If someone wants to be my friend then I want them to go out of their way to talk to me or do something nice :p then a bond is formed and I just build up a friendship off of that

danitiwa
05-09-07, 17:04
Wow, and not even bothered to answer, Legend of Lara.
Really mature. And no, you can make official threads, not only admins.
And you call that rude form Sarcasm you just used very mature? :p Sheesh, you can say that a bit more pleasantly right?

Maybe some people think the thread is pointless? :wve:

Jiji
05-09-07, 17:06
Everyone can be my friend! I believe that everyone is and can be a good friend! That's why I've got so many and I love them all :hug:

Mad Tony
05-09-07, 17:07
That's never been the case. Well, not since since I've been a member anyway.Actually, it has. Chris was right. Only mod and admins can make official threads.

jamieoliver22
05-09-07, 17:20
And you call that rude form Sarcasm you just used very mature? :p Sheesh, you can say that a bit more pleasantly right?

Makes the topic rather ironic doesn't it? :p

Actually, it has. Chris was right. Only mod and admins can make official threads.

And yeah, I always assumed that too.

Jacob x5
05-09-07, 17:25
It doesn't matter whether the thread is dubbed 'official' or not. There isn't a thread about friendship yet, so here one has been created. If another thread were to be created about friendship, it would be closed because this one already exists. Therefore, in a sense, this is the current 'official' friendship thread. ;)

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 17:30
Wow, all this proves my point of hostile atmosphere here. Maybe I think your lives are pointless. Keep acting like that all of you, amazing behaviour.

And talking about the RULES, almost none ON TOPIC answers, only beautiful bashing you are sooo used to.

danitiwa
05-09-07, 17:36
Makes the topic rather ironic doesn't it? :p



And yeah, I always assumed that too.
Hah, not now Jaimie. :p
Wow, all this proves my point of hostile atmosphere here. Maybe I think your lives are pointless. Keep acting like that all of you, amazing behaviour.

Please don't call me Hostile L4e, I'm just moody, and not terribly well mannered today. :p I apologize. I was a bit rough in the last post, I was defending my friend; Legend Of Lara.

xcrushterx
05-09-07, 17:36
Actually, it has. Chris was right. Only mod and admins can make official threads.
There are several other "official" threads made by members.

Mad Tony
05-09-07, 17:38
There are several other "official" threads made by members.And? As far as I know the rules still haven't changed. Obviously they're either not enforced entirely or the rules have changed (and I haven't heard anything about that).

danitiwa
05-09-07, 17:38
There are several other "official" threads made by members.

Who cares, official or not, it's just a title. :p

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 17:39
Please don't call me Hostile L4e, I'm just moody, and not terribly well mannered today. :p I apologize. I was a bit rough in the last post, I was defending my friend; Legend Of Lara.

Well, that is OK. But I just don't get all the fuzz. The thread is here, it is called official and it will stay that way, I see no point in arguing more.

Alex Fly
05-09-07, 17:39
Guys, don't start a war for this. Who cares about the 'official' word in the title ? The most important is the subject of the thread (and don't forget it's friendship). ;)

Jacob x5
05-09-07, 17:41
Wow, this proves my point of hostile atmosphere here. Keep acting like that all of you, amazing behavior.

Oh, come on Legend 4ever. If you think TRF has a hostile atmosphere, then you haven't been on many forums. :D Let me make your day by being the first here to pay attention to what you're actually saying.

If someone is approachable (i.e. if I find myself with the feeling that if I have a problem, I could talk to them about it) then I know that either they are my friend, or they are someone I could make a friend out of. This doesn't mean that you could talk to them about anything — my friends all have things in common but they differ in many ways and so I have different friends which I would find it easier to talk with about different things. So, the first key thing about a friend is that you can approach them in this way, and not feel awkward in doing so.

The second key point is that you actually have fun with them. :p You'll get talking to someone, and if you find something you both have in common then you can start chatting about it. It tends to come naturally, and when you find that you are both genuinely enjoying youselves, then you've got yourself a nice person and you could easily have a good and lasting friendship with them.

What kind of people do I like? Well, people who are nice. :ton: A sense of humour is a good idea, and I'm lucky that I've found friends who share my sense of humour. I find that friendships with boys and friendships with girls are both very different, of course. One key difference seems to be that, generally speaking, girls want to grow up. They want to get handbags and make-up and be all grown up. Us lads, however, we don't give a stuff. We'd happily running around having pretend gun fights at the age of fifteen. :D :whi:

If there is a communication problem between you and a friend, then you should try and talk to them about it. It may just be through repetition of the same old thing. You don't have to spend lots of time with them. The good thing about having a strong friendship is that it's flexible, and you can just meet up whenever and have a laugh. You should never do anything that you don't want to do, as this is usually where problems start. If you're not genuinely having a good time, then people will notice and the atmosphere will be broken. :wve:

Legend of Lara
05-09-07, 17:44
'kay, putting all "random topic" and "official title" issues aside, I don't have that many friends I PERSONALLY know but there are five or six very good friends. :) (no, they're not on TRF, except one but he doesn't post here anymore)

Then there are my forum friends. :D

danitiwa
05-09-07, 17:44
Well, that is OK. But I just don't get all the fuzz. The thread is here, it is called official and it will stay that way, I see no point in arguing more.

I don't care if it's official or not, it's just that I was a bit shaken when you said
Wow, and not even bothered to answer, Legend of Lara.
Really mature. And no, you can make official threads, not only admins.

to L O L :wve:

Mad Tony
05-09-07, 17:45
What exactly defines a friend?

Sara Croft
05-09-07, 17:46
What exactly defines a friend?
Whatever you define it as.

Mad Tony
05-09-07, 17:47
Whatever you define it as.Yes, but I was asking other people what they defined as a friend.

Joe_16
05-09-07, 17:48
Someone you enjoy spending time with.

Geck-o-Lizard
05-09-07, 17:48
*title edited*

Please don't use "official" in thread titles.

Everyone who chewed Legend 4ever out for that, keep your traps shut and just send me a PM about it next time, or you'll get warnings for spamming. Seriously, leave the moderating to the moderators.

Legend of Lara
05-09-07, 17:48
Someone you enjoy spending time with.

Plus, someone who stands up for you. :)

danitiwa
05-09-07, 17:50
Plus, someone who stands up for you. :)

Maybe I'm just way too proud, but was that post by any chance asociated to me? :D

Cord_Croft
05-09-07, 17:51
Haha, I luff my friends =3

So.. I usually get along with people whos weirdness is compatiable with my weirdness and has the time to listen and talk to me, and someone I like spending time with and vice versa ^^

Legend of Lara
05-09-07, 17:52
Maybe I'm just way too proud, but was that post by any chance asociated to me? :D

Hm, you never know. ;)

danitiwa
05-09-07, 17:56
So.. I usually get along with people whos weirdness is compatiable with my weirdness and has the time to listen and talk to me, and someone I like spending time with and vice versa ^^

Samme here, my friends are all pretty much weird like me. :D In one way or another, especially Nina. :D We're often weird together, :vlol: we're going to a Within Temptation concert next month together, YAaay! :jmp:

oocladableeblah
05-09-07, 17:59
Well if I can talk to them for like 10-30min and then the next day talk to them some more then they are my friend.

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 18:05
And what if your really good friend is becoming distant for some reason, you can see that it is not the same anymore, yet he says it is all OK, but you know that it is not?

What to do then?

Sara Croft
05-09-07, 18:09
Let it go its course? :)

Lavinder
05-09-07, 18:16
And what if your really good friend is becoming distant for some reason, you can see that it is not the same anymore, yet he says it is all OK, but you know that it is not?

What to do then?

Still stay friends with them, but be more distant and socialise with other people - spend more time with them when the friendship seems to be reforming. Always works :D

Sometimes when you do this you end up totally detaching yourself from them and finding a new niche of friends, but this is not a bad thing, you're just expanding.

CuteKittenlol
05-09-07, 18:22
I love my friends. I know loads of people say this, but I would honestly be nothing without my friends. Especially my 4 best friends, who let me actually be friends with them when I was outcasted bu my other friends...

IMO Friends are people who are always there for you, who you can always talk to, make you laugh, make you feel better and so on. YAY for friends XD

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 18:27
Still stay friends with them, but be more distant and socialise with other people - spend more time with them when the friendship seems to be reforming. Always works :D

Sometimes when you do this you end up totally detaching yourself from them and finding a new niche of friends, but this is not a bad thing, you're just expanding.

Really, that sounds like a good idea.

As oppose to my constant wining how ****ty our friendship has become.
I'll try that but still I wouldn't like that detachment to happen.

I love my friends. I know loads of people say this, but I would honestly be nothing without my friends. Especially my 4 best friends, who let me actually be friends with them when I was outcasted bu my other friends....


You? Outcasted? It is hard to believe.

CuteKittenlol
05-09-07, 18:36
You? Outcasted? It is hard to believe.
Yeah. Lol, why is it? XD They all just turned on me and started running away from me and stuff like that. Wasn't very nice =/

ThomasCroft
05-09-07, 19:23
Well I find making friends with girls quite easy because that's just my nature. At my age, on the whole in my school, they're more mature than boys, and I like to think of myself as quite a mature person.

So it goes without saying that I find making friends with my own sex really difficult. I don't really have many common interests with boys my age because, partly, they're so immature in my school. Bearing in mind the large majority of them are chavs and wannabe gangstas. Then again, though, I do get along with several boys in my year and can have conversations with them but I wouldn't class them as 'friends'.

I also find it really hard to just walk up to someone and start chatting. Especially on holiday. But this is probably because I'm afriad of open rejection and making a fool of myself. I've got to fix that.

The friends I've got currently are really supportive and I can talk to them; they're very mature. But I can't call up and go out with them really, our friendship just ... well ... isn't like that. I don't know whether that's good or bad or what it means, I just tend not to look into it too much and I understand some of the reasons behind it, which is fine. So it goes without saying I haven't got much of a social life.

Social life is absolutely crucial to a happy lifestyle, and it's something I have definitely got to improve in the future.

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 20:25
Same thing with me here. Just like you, Thomas.

Yeah. Lol, why is it? XD They all just turned on me and started running away from me and stuff like that. Wasn't very nice =/
Well, that is happening to me right now, with my best friend. And it sucks. We don't seem to understand each other anymore and I blame him for that.

Mad Tony
05-09-07, 20:27
Well, that is happening to me right now, with my best friend. And it sucks. We don't seem to understand each other anymore and I blame him for that.Why are you blaming him if you both don't seem to understand each other?

Anajrob
05-09-07, 20:28
Well I find making friends with girls quite easy because that's just my nature. At my age, on the whole in my school, they're more mature than boys, and I like to think of myself as quite a mature person.

So it goes without saying that I find making friends with my own sex really difficult. I don't really have many common interests with boys my age because, partly, they're so immature in my school. Bearing in mind the large majority of them are chavs and wannabe gangstas. Then again, though, I do get along with several boys in my year and can have conversations with them but I wouldn't class them as 'friends'.

I also find it really hard to just walk up to someone and start chatting. Especially on holiday. But this is probably because I'm afriad of open rejection and making a fool of myself. I've got to fix that.

The friends I've got currently are really supportive and I can talk to them; they're very mature. But I can't call up and go out with them really, our friendship just ... well ... isn't like that. I don't know whether that's good or bad or what it means, I just tend not to look into it too much and I understand some of the reasons behind it, which is fine. So it goes without saying I haven't got much of a social life.

Social life is absolutely crucial to a happy lifestyle, and it's something I have definitely got to improve in the future.

I've got similar problems like you. But I'm a girl. :p

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 20:58
Why are you blaming him if you both don't seem to understand each other?

Actually, it is just him who won't open up and talk to me anymore. And when I asked him what was wrong whe said that everything was fine.

CroftScionGuard
05-09-07, 21:21
To be a friend of mine, a person has to be:

loyal,
when I do something wrong, instead of telling me 'ok', (s)he says 'you did/acted wrong'
hear me, and trust me

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 21:22
To be a friend of mine, a person has to be:

loyal,
when I do something wrong, instead of telling me 'ok', (s)he says 'you did/acted wrong'
hear me, and trust me

Whoa, you differ. Generally people hate to hear the truth about what they did or do.

Legends
05-09-07, 21:22
I build my friendships on honesty and loyalty and I expect the same in return. I've had my two best friends for over 10 years now, and we're still at the beginning. Last year I ended an 8 year old friendship with a girl, and that's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.

CroftScionGuard
05-09-07, 21:24
Whoa, you differ. Generally people hate to hear the truth about what they did or do.
That can't work! IMO friendship is based on truth!

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 21:26
I build my friendships on honesty and loyalty and I expect the same in return. I've had my two best friends for over 10 years now, and we're still at the beginning. Last year I ended an 8 year old friendship with a girl, and that's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do.

Personally, I hate when someone doesn't want to go further into a friendship, but stays "at the beggining" for a long time. I know I never do it that way. I am really comitted to my friends if I reallyy like them, I can't stand when someone is making a fictional wall.

That can't work! IMO friendship is based on truth!
Oh, I really do know that. But many people don't like to face the truth.

Ampersand
05-09-07, 21:31
I tend to be very choosy about my friends. Sure, I'm generally friendly to everybody, but I have so many acquaintances and very few people I would consider a good friend. They have to have enough in common with me in their personalities and tastes, and it's hard to find such people. I've encountered too many 'friends' who've caused me nothing but trouble, and have since learned to be wiser in whom I chose to befriend closely. I can do without a lot of friends, but the ones I have mean a lot to me.

Legends
05-09-07, 21:35
Personally, I hate when someone doesn't want to go further into a friendship, but stays "at the beggining" for a long time. I know I never do it that way. I am really comitted to my friends if I reallyy like them, I can't stand when someone is making a fictional wall

I am not making a fictional wall, in fact, I am really committed to my friends and I don't know what I'm gonna do without them, and by that I meant "we still have a lot of head of us".

If you see that as negative, well, then that's your call.

CroftScionGuard
05-09-07, 21:37
Oh, I really do know that. But many people don't like to face the truth.
I understood!;)

Maybe it's just me but shouldn't we be corrected? Who's the best person to do that? A ftiend, of course! And Parents can be friends, and one of those friends!

Legend 4ever
05-09-07, 21:39
I am not making a fictional wall, in fact, I am really committed to my friends and I don't know what I'm gonna do without them, and by that I meant "we still have a lot of head of us".

If you see that as negative, well, then that's your call.


No, actually I thought your friends are doing that, making a distance, which is not good really.

Legends
05-09-07, 21:54
No, actually I thought your friends are doing that, making a distance, which is not good really.

Why would you think that?

Melonie Tomb Raider
06-09-07, 04:04
I have very few close friends. It's hard for me to open up to people most of the time.

deepbluesea
06-09-07, 05:32
I find for someone to click with me, they have to have the same sort of intelligence level as me and have a few intrests the same, we wouldn't get on if we had nothing to talk about. Takes alot of time for me to make proper friends but I suppose most of us have aquaintance friends who we talk to once in a while.

And sorry to point this out, i'm getting a little annoyed about people posting in threads stating how much they dislike the topic, If you think the thread is pointless, stay out of it, if not stay on topic and keep certains comments to yourselves please. Perhaps viewing your ideas in open chat or pm the person directly would show a little more self control.

nicola1986
06-09-07, 11:29
I don't have hardly any close friends that I trust, the friends I used to have were not my friends, they talked about me and said awful things behind my back so I just didn't bother anymore.

My bf is my best friend, he's so caring and listens to me when I need it and he's funny.

I don't think I'd get along with anyone without a good sense of humour, I love to laugh. Just someone caring, compassionate and funny would get my friendship - oh and someone who doesn't call me stuff behind my back ;)