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Anti-Polar Bear
16-06-03, 14:12
Alright, this may seem out of the blue, but I'm a little... Concerned.. ;)

How obsessive would you be over your wedding?

For the last 48 hours, all my fianceť can talk about our upcoming wedding (July 5). She's done nothing but plan and plan. Not like she's being some sort of control-freak person about this, she's not designing Barbie's Magic Dream Wedding for herself either, she's just incredably obsessive about it. It dominates her mind in every way I can think of..

So my question to the female members out there is.. Would you be incredably obsessive over your wedding? Am I not just being paranoid? Are all females like this? ;)

Annacia
16-06-03, 14:25
Sounds like a perfectly normal girl who is in love and excited about the biggest day in her life. Relax and enjoy her excitement! It's all about you .

Another wedding, yipee!! can I talk to her?? whats her dress look like? Is it a big wedding? how many bridesmaids??????

There's not a thing wrong with hre!!

laracroft8290
16-06-03, 14:32
I'm not female, but if I were I think I would be very obsessive about my wedding. Most of all because it only happens ONCE! You never get to do it again, so why not have everything perfect?

There was a comic on Comedy Central awhile ago, and she said, "you know my wedding is only gonna happen once, so i want things to be my way, i want it to look like a music video. My bridesmen, (laughs from the audience) yeah that's right my bridesmen, are going to have black slacks and nothing else, and look like they just stepped out of chipendales. After they're done I'm going to have this little black dress, with my glowing tan skin, hair all put up just so, then I'm going to use that aisle like a runway, go up and down at least four or five times, striking a pose at each end. Then I'm going to go back to the start, and my bridesmen are going to carry me to the stage, and set me down next to my soon to be husband. I couldn't remember this part, but in the end she wanted her grandmothers head lit on fire, and she wanted the classic music video finish with water coming from all sides of the church and putting out the fire...lol

i agree completely, its only one day, have it how you want it. :D

Scottlee
16-06-03, 14:49
Well I know I'd be fretting over it, and I'm a bloke.

It only comes around once, dude.

Ocean-Sirius
16-06-03, 15:03
I personally think that wedding is just a tradition. If I ever do fall in love, I would be more flattered if he showed his love by taking me on a long hike or an adventure holiday. I'm not your typical "feminine woman" and I am in fact a hell bent lady wanting nothing but sweet nerve candy (that means something full of adrenaline/highly stimulating)and to fulfil dreams of having the career I want. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

As I tell my mother, I'll play the game of love when I see a good enough reason to pick up the game pad. I also say that I'd play the game of love but two player isn't really my thing. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

I don't care if I die celibate as long as I have done open water diving, white water rafting, caving, dog sledding, snow mobiling and a few other joyous things. :D

I know it's crazy to most people but:
GIMMME SWEET NERVE CANDAAAAAAYYYYY!!!!!! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif

Isabella
16-06-03, 15:41
The wedding day is one of the most important days in most women's lives. Someday when I get married, I know that I will want everything to be perfect. I think it's natural for her to obsess. It's only one day in her whole lifetime. I don't think you are the only groom to be who is going through this. Good luck and congtatulations. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Ocean-Sirius
16-06-03, 15:46
I'm not against weddings and I'm happy for those who are getting married, just that it won't be the most important day in my own life if it does happen. Congratulations if it's YOUR big day! :D

Anti-Polar Bear
16-06-03, 16:06
Thanks guys!

Yes, I do know it's the biggest day of her life, but I guess just wasn't thinking about it enough myself to get why she's being this obsessive!

Another wedding, yipee!! can I talk to her?? whats her dress look like? Is it a big wedding? how many bridesmaids??????Yes, yippie! Talk to her? Well, maybe, she's so into the wedding all she talks to is her wedding plans! Her dress? Well.. It's white, obviously. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif . It's not poofy. She specifically did not want poofy. It's um... Hmm.. I hate describing clothing. It's strapless, ankle length, etc... White gloves, all that wedding stuff.... Oh I have no idea, women's clothing are so confusing http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif . It is a big wedding, very big, outdoor, so no problems with space. There are.. Four bridsmades, I think.... ;)

:D

Annacia
16-06-03, 16:10
Thanks Bear, I don't need to talk to her. And I think you'll be a very happy man!

Anti-Polar Bear
16-06-03, 16:12
Thanks!

Maureen Errant
16-06-03, 16:44
I think weddings are nice. It's the one day when the two people concerned are totally commited to each other and totally happy. ( which leaks over to everyone else). As for my wedding? I don't think that I would get obsessive over it. It's a very special day yes, but hopefully my life will continue to be full of special days! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Isabella
16-06-03, 16:55
Good point Maureen http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Maureen Errant
16-06-03, 17:40
http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif Annacia knows that you're back and she is champing at the bit. Besides I need another coffee. Three cups are not enough to jump start my day. Talk to you later.. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/whistle.gif

Kaminari
16-06-03, 17:41
Originally posted by Anti-Polar Bear:
Would you be incredably obsessive over your wedding?Sure! I'd freak out like if there was no tomorrow!

Isabella
16-06-03, 17:45
:D
Bye Maureen, have a nice day. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Annacia
16-06-03, 18:14
Hi Isabella (had to go cook).

Kam that sounds like a defeatist attitude if I ever heard one!

Kaminari
16-06-03, 18:46
Or: I'd enjoy this day to the fullest without thinking about tomorrow!

Do you like it better, Annacia? ;)

laracroft8290
16-06-03, 18:53
Originally posted by Ocean-Sirius:
I personally think that wedding is just a tradition. If I ever do fall in love, I would be more flattered if he showed his love by taking me on a long hike or an adventure holiday. I'm not your typical "feminine woman" and I am in fact a hell bent lady wanting nothing but sweet nerve candy (that means something full of adrenaline/highly stimulating)and to fulfil dreams of having the career I want. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

As I tell my mother, I'll play the game of love when I see a good enough reason to pick up the game pad. I also say that I'd play the game of love but two player isn't really my thing. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

I don't care if I die celibate as long as I have done open water diving, white water rafting, caving, dog sledding, snow mobiling and a few other joyous things. :D

I know it's crazy to most people but:
GIMMME SWEET NERVE CANDAAAAAAYYYYY!!!!!! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif Sounds like Lara Croft incarnate to me :eek: very cool :cool:

Maureen Errant
16-06-03, 19:03
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Kaminari:
[QB]Or: I'd enjoy this day to the fullest without thinking about tomorrow!

Especially considering on the morrow you would probably have a raging hangover.....could add a few other things but this is a site open to children of all ages. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/clown.gif

Kaminari
16-06-03, 19:18
http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif

Maureen, you naughty cook http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/mischievous.gif

(I have to leave for a while, I'll be back later http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif )

Ocean-Sirius
16-06-03, 19:22
Lara Croft 8290-I was like this long before TR. It was an adventure holiday that got my taste for nerve candies, as did my love of riding roller coasters. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif I am neophillic, meaning I like trying out new things and also foods. Adventure eating is one of my great loves and I'll never have a figure quite like a model due to it but to hell with it-life's for living! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif

Many people frown upon my attitude to life, especially my peers. I have something in common with Lara in that I rejected a way of life I was "supposed" to live for something that was closer to my instinctual drives. There again, my area is a tad on the intolerant side in my view. I'm "supposed" to live the life of drinking, clubs and dating but I find it really suffocating and stuffy. I have a strong belief that one is better off disowned than owned. Besides, I'm a lover of solitude. :cool: However, there's no aristocracy in my family and no Croft Manor! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

Geck-o-Lizard
16-06-03, 21:56
I think I've finally found a "kindred spirit", Ocean-Sirius... Most of my friends who know about Tomb Raider know that I'd like nothing better than to be given a lightweight tent, few pounds, a compass and a map, then to be just chucked out into the Egyptian desert or an Indian jungle, then left to find my own way back. I love roller coasters too, but it sucks when all your friends chicken out and you don't want to go on alone...
I can't remember what sex I am, but if I was defenite I was female I wouldn't get excited about a wedding... Too much bother and stress over a loved one.

Draco
17-06-03, 03:46
I never actually figured I'd fall in love...go figure... :rolleyes: :D

the croft woman!
17-06-03, 08:28
I would make a big fuss over my wedding, its a special day and my parents had a pretty rubbish wedding, they got married in a registry office,and thats my nightmare! Id like a themed wedding, like celts or egyptians or romans, or if it was a traditional wedding Id love an outdoor wedding, and nice flowy dress, 6 bridesmaids, lots of flowers and just such a happy environment to be in!

I would make a fuss over it, my wedding day is a time id want to have one of the happiest memories for.

Congratulations btw http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

pault
17-06-03, 09:09
Me and my girlfriend arent really bothered about marriage too much, but if we did, we're gonna make it fancy dress.

at the moment, the options are :
[a] Star Wars
[b] Austin Powers

pault
17-06-03, 09:11
... and my girlfriends mum is the Vicar, and her dad is the organ player!!

...and he looks like the organ player from Monty Python (naked with mad hair)

Ocean-Sirius
17-06-03, 14:38
Here's something I told some friend in The Netherlands who got married:

My parents hope to see me married eventually but I don't care one iota-I have my true love in life and that is my ambitions. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif I bet you all, like everyone else who knows me wonder about what a marriage would be if I got married and got my way. Well here goes...it would firstly depend on how much my partner was into tradition. I don't care how much anyone I would end up with would be into wedding tradition. You will most certainly disagree with me on this point but whilst I don't condemn marriage I do see it just as a tradition and would probably never bring it up in a relationship unless the partner did.

If the partner was up for a bit of weirdness like I'd be, I'd arrange to be married near a source of water and for a few members of the congregation to bring their dogs. Nowadays you can write your own vows but I don't know if I'd tamper with that or not but I'm no way saying I'll obey my other half. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif I have without doubt an idea for the soundtrack and I'm sure you would expect nothing less. I think that U2's "Stuck In A Moment" would be brilliant to walk down the aisle to, as "you got stuck in a moment you can't get out of" can be taken two ways. ;)

When my second eldest brother got married, he had the song at the reception as Celine Dion's "My Heart Will Go On." I cannot stand that song but my other sister-in-law and my mother love it. I dislike anything TOO slushy and most extremely slow songs annoy or depress me. It also reminds me that one phrase I can write in Dutch is "de liefdes boot zinkt" (the love boat is sinking). http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif If the man I was with had a sense of humour like myself, I would have perhaps the Jaws Theme, the scary music from Psycho or something else with comedy value.

However, if the partner insisted I put my parodying ways away and have to be serious, perhaps I could pick Flip and Fill's "True Love Never Dies" (a dance song I like), Robert Mile's "One and One" (I love my dance! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif or if he isn't into dance, maybe I could pick a love song with a bit of bounce that isn't dance. "Love Buzz" by Nirvana perhaps or what about "One" by U2, since it does have a lot of truth in it.

Maybe I could honour the tradition of lyric games with my mother and pick "Crazy Little Thing Called Love" or "Play The Game"* by Queen-I'm sure it'd do my mother so proud and isn't nostalgia great sometimes? ;) Jaws is still my first choice! =)

Annacia
18-06-03, 05:10
Blessed be to those who love.

Maureen Errant
18-06-03, 12:29
Amen, Sisters http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

claireandchris
19-06-03, 10:36
Hey Anti-polar-bear!

It is totally normal for your fiance to be obsessing about your wedding, firstly cuz its in like less than a fortnight! scary! Secondly cuz there is loads to organise for a wedding, and, with no disrespect to you I expect she feels like she has done a lot of the organising herself. (I know I too am tying the knot this year). You have to sort out stuff like outfits, flowers, church, reception, photographer, hair, make-up, rings, honeymoon, the list goes on! Do something nice for your fiance, pay for her to have a facial, or a professional massage. It will help her relax and make her feel special.

claireandchris
19-06-03, 10:40
PS. You are not supposed to know what the dress is like, you don't really do you?

stephaniedp
19-06-03, 12:04
I know that these days many people shrug the idea of a wedding off, because they have no religion faith perhaps, because they don't care, because they think it uncool or whatever, there are loads of reasons out there. But the truth is that our society is totally imbued with the idea of marriage and no matter how many people can turn around and say 'we love each other just as much' the truth is that legally it's like you don't. Legally you should be married, marriage is a true contract and it is here to stay forver.

So my boy, to your obsessed girlfriend...what can I say? I understand that many women go beserk about marriage and it isn't up to me to say whether they do cool or uncool by acting so but, hey, as someone else said it is an important day and it is only gonna come once in your life (or so one would hope!), hence I suppose lots of people want it PERFECT. Or in fact P-E-R-F-E-C-T.

At times I wish I could understand this hype, I for one thing got married while on holiday in New York last year and it was done like you see in certain movies, with random witnesses, 2 ministers and not even flowers or candles (but I was at the Waldorf Astoria!!!). The more I read about the stress of marriage, the more I am delighted I did it this way!

Enjoy your day and best wishes to you!

Steph http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Dorothy
08-07-03, 12:48
Hello Anti-Polar Bear,

My classmates and I agreed we would not marry before we were thirty.

Having a special partner in your life is very important, but this marriage - fever in general (don't know your fianceť well enough to say) puts to much emphasis on becoming a "full" and socially accepted woman by often destructive traditional standards.

I hope some lady has a great day soon when she becomes president of the United States and another one becoming Chancellor of the Federal Republic of Germany. ;)

Beast witches,

Adventurer

Maureen Errant
08-07-03, 12:52
Well, it would depend on your budget. For Austin Powers youc ould probably find a lot of retro clothing fairly inexpensively. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Dorothy
10-07-03, 08:59
Do you mean I'm a relict of the seventies, those "old-fashioned" ideals and alternative thinking?
Yeah , you bet!

My feet are firmly on the ground of reality, but I won't let go of of using my mind instead of the "Zeitgeist" (spirit or fashion of the time).

I'm just one of those lost ones that just can't be helped... :D