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Celli
29-07-03, 04:14
I figured that once I reached 1600 it would be time for a very very long post. ;) So what better than a reflection about the forum. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

*ahem!*

When I first came here just a little over a month ago, I came looking to meet new people and have a good carefree time. Which I have done, manyfold at that too. But after awhile, it starts to see that you become obsessed with furthering that one little number we all know as the post count. Often time, you don't realize how much that begins to consume your motivations behind posting. Sometimes it becomes, "If I can just pass one more person, just one more!", but one more usually turns into 5, then 10, then trying to get the highest count possible. I know that I myself often stop and think to myself, "Is how often I post really more important than what I post?" I think I'd much rather have a lower count, but always have the posts with something worthwhile. Not to put him on the spot, but I admire Kam very much for always finding some witty comment or intellectual view on life that really can be enlightening. Kudos to Mastah Kam! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Now, the ass-kissing bit is over now. lol jk Now another question comes to mind when discussing post counts. Does there come a time when you have to ask yourself if you're really there to get a high post count or connect with people? You can post 10,000 things, but be completely clueless and insensitive to everyone else and what's going on in their lives. I know that I couldn't be any happier with having met some of the greatest people on this forum. Not to mention the Michigan militia. ;) I think what your true motives for a forum like this, emerge when you find the time (if possible) to talk with people outside the forum and really get to know them better. Like for example, I met Jess on Eidos and we've come to know each other very well and become pretty good friends through our countless daily talks on AIM. (What would we do without each other Jess? ;) ) (Oh, and Happy Midnight East Coast! lol) And thank god I have MSN so now I can talk to even more people from here outside of the forum. I know there are people who don't have YIM, AIM, MSN, or ICQ, so they're excused. lol

I guess what I'm really trying to get down to here, is that sometimes we all need to stop and think about what our true motives are, or put some other things into perspective. What is more important to you? Trying to become immortal with a high post count (to some people who in a few years may not even remember you), or the connections you make on the forum and the experiences that you get out of it? In all honesty, it was when I met my friend online who died recently, that I really broke out of my shell. I can't remember just what exactly it was that he told me, but it was like after that that I just let myself be free and I couldn't be happier. That probably sounds strange, put you never know how someone you meet on a forum like this is going to effect your life. A year ago this time, I probably didn't think I'd talk to half the people I do online right now and actually talk to them a year later without having met them in real life.

And I think that was the second time now I've gotten completely sidetracked on what my point has been. lol Oh well! That's me.....but I'm not a schizo! lol http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/whistle.gif I swear I'll just get to my point this one last time, and just let it go from there.

After being here for a certain period of time, do you realize that who you met here and how well you know them is better than reaching 2000 posts in a month without ever knowing anyone?

TRChik
29-07-03, 04:22
yikes u did post a long new post http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

ive met a lot of interesting people on the forums im at and i hope to meet many more http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif its fun talking w/ people from the forum who live near you.
also thru MSN and AIM, ive gotten to know a few people better thru that than just thru the forums. randy i have no idea what id do w/o ya hun ;) you're a good source of advice http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

i don't really care about my post count any more, i used to obsess over it! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif but now ive kinda grown outa it, and as long as i post something worthwhile, its all worth it http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Draco
29-07-03, 04:23
Hmm... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/privateeye.gif

egyptspy
29-07-03, 04:24
whats this about post counts?

TRChik
29-07-03, 04:25
he wanted to reflect http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

[ 29. July 2003, 05:30: Message edited by: TRChik ]

egyptspy
29-07-03, 04:26
O.K. I understand now. GOOD POINT! :D

egyptspy
29-07-03, 04:27
Very good point. :D ;)

Draco
29-07-03, 04:32
I

Draco
29-07-03, 04:32
do

Draco
29-07-03, 04:33
not

Draco
29-07-03, 04:34
care

Draco
29-07-03, 04:35
about

Draco
29-07-03, 04:36
my

Draco
29-07-03, 04:37
postcount

Draco
29-07-03, 04:37
.

Celli
29-07-03, 04:38
I just kind of realized it last night really, how bad it can get sometimes. And now I know Draco and Annacia can comment about this next part. ;)

When I told Rommie last night that I was finally catching up to her, I thought about it later and when did I suddenly become in competition with everyone to get a higher post count than them? *hint Draco and Annacia ;) * Things like that can tend to get unhealthy IMHO. You start to become so focused with trying to get a higher post count than someone that you start to lose out on some of the simplier beauties and kindredness (is that even a word?!? lol). And then you also become absent minded like me and forget to do a lot of things in real life. I have no idea how many things I've forgotten to do this summer.

I dunno about anyone else who might be feeling the same way, but I think I'll be fine once I go back to work on Wednesday. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

TRChik
29-07-03, 04:38
hehe sure u dont Draco ;)

[ 29. July 2003, 05:39: Message edited by: TRChik ]

Annacia
29-07-03, 04:39
4000

Genocide
29-07-03, 04:39
thats a lie

Genocide
29-07-03, 04:41
wait...no it aint!!! it's a contradiction

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:38
I

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:40
have

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:41
no

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:43
more

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:45
interest

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:46
in

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:48
post

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:49
counts

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:51
than

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:53
Draco

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:54
does

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:56
:rolleyes:

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:58
so

Annacia
29-07-03, 09:59
there

Annacia
29-07-03, 10:01
http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/pillow.gif

Annacia
29-07-03, 10:03
.

Fugitive Lara
29-07-03, 11:26
lol sure you dont annacia ;)

I dont care about my post count either, loads of people have over taken me and i couldnt care less http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

and actually talk to them a year later without having met them in real life. I know what you mean, I met a girl on a chat room 4 years ago and we are like best friends now. I still havent met her yet :( she lives in texas.
I have met alot of cool people on these forums too http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Rommie
29-07-03, 12:19
Originally posted by FuGiTiVe LaRa:
I have met alot of cool people on these forums too http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif :D http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

Isabella
29-07-03, 13:10
Originally posted by Celli:


Not to put him on the spot, but I admire Kam very much for always finding some witty comment or intellectual view on life that really can be enlightening. Kudos to Mastah Kam! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Now another question comes to mind when discussing post counts. Does there come a time when you have to ask yourself if you're really there to get a high post count or connect with people? You can post 10,000 things, but be completely clueless and insensitive to everyone else and what's going on in their lives. I know that I couldn't be any happier with having met some of the greatest people on this forum. Not to mention the Michigan militia. ;) I think what your true motives for a forum like this, emerge when you find the time (if possible) to talk with people outside the forum and really get to know them better.

I guess what I'm really trying to get down to here, is that sometimes we all need to stop and think about what our true motives are, or put some other things into perspective. What is more important to you? Trying to become immortal with a high post count (to some people who in a few years may not even remember you), or the connections you make on the forum and the experiences that you get out of it? never know how someone you meet on a forum like this is going to effect your life.

After being here for a certain period of time, do you realize that who you met here and how well you know them is better than reaching 2000 posts in a month without ever knowing anyone?Celli, Bravo. This is a very insightful thread. Quality over quantity. If it were possible, I actually wouldn't want the post number shown. The number has never been as issue for me, But Draco always seems to remind me of it's assent ;)
I agree with you on Kaminari, He gets the medal for prolific posting.
It is just a number, and as far as I can tell, The people here are all intelligent, deeply caring and individuals in their own way.

Sage
29-07-03, 13:24
I agree. When I first came here, I was a little nervous. It's my first forum of any kind. People were very helpful and nice. I couldn't believe it, a place to be myself and be heard and responded to. i am from New York originally and everyone talks over you. Thanks guys, you are the greatest people in the world. Have a great day!!! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/grouphug.gif

Annacia
29-07-03, 14:29
Believe me, if the post race started to cause any hard feelings it would end at once!. I like to razz him about his mod powers and I expect to loose but I'm not going to make it all that easy either. I'm raceing as hard as I can. When one of us reaches 5000 we'll hug and plan the pay out :D .

Fugitive Lara
29-07-03, 15:17
Originally posted by Rommie:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by FuGiTiVe LaRa:
I have met alot of cool people on these forums too http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif :D http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif </font>[/QUOTE]Yes rommie, you are one of them http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif ;)

Celli
29-07-03, 18:25
Originally posted by Isabella:
Celli, Bravo. This is a very insightful thread. Quality over quantity. If it were possible, I actually wouldn't want the post number shown. The number has never been as issue for me, But Draco always seems to remind me of it's assent ;)
I agree with you on Kaminari, He gets the medal for prolific posting.
It is just a number, and as far as I can tell, The people here are all intelligent, deeply caring and individuals in their own way.[/QB]Thank you Bella http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

The Eidos forums opted last year to disable showing post counts, and it's really been better IMHO. But the Top Ten list was never disable though. As long as I stay in the Top 10, I'm content. lol http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif But Eidos is another story though.... :rolleyes:

We should definitely have a forum Meet 'N Greet sometime. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Kaminari
29-07-03, 18:43
Celli, my friend... Spending too much time in the wine cellar lately, mmm? ;) Now if we're gonna talk philosophical, I'm outta here!! :D http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

Seriously speaking, the fact that you're kind of freaking out at your own post count simply means that you're perfectly aware it doesn't have any value in itself. You really don't need to worry. Your posts are always stimulating and informative about yourself, your interests, you're vision of the world, the care you have for people's health. You never gave the impression to 'fill up' for the sake of your ranking. What would be the point, anyway?

This forum is a wide open door to wonderful people and various cultures. It's one of its best assets. We don't measure the friendship built with others by comparing our respective rankings. Every one of us is just writing at his/her own rythme. The time we can afford ourselves to be online is an important factor too. But alchemy is definitely the keyword here. Discussions revolving around the post count are most of the time an excuse for socializing and drifting towards a new and unexpected subject http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/privateeye.gif ;)

As far as my posts are concerned, they're only of some value because the friends I have here make them valuable. Without witty, intelligent, responsive people like Gonga, Draco, Annacia, Maureen, Rommie, Gecko, Deano, Bella and you (amongst many others, but you're the ones I know the most), my posts would simply be hollow.

And to tell the truth... I am no match for the Michiganders! :D http://moix.free.fr/smileys/personnages/smilejap.gif

Originally posted by Isabella:
I agree with you on Kaminari, He gets the medal for prolific posting.Duh! ;)

Isabella
30-07-03, 00:30
Originally posted by Kaminari:
Celli, my friend... Spending too much time in the wine cellar lately, mmm? ;) Now if we're gonna talk philosophical, I'm outta here!! :D


As far as my posts are concerned, they're only of some value because the friends I have here make them valuable. Without witty, intelligent, responsive people like Gonga, Draco, Annacia, Maureen, Rommie, Gecko, Deano, Bella and you (amongst many others, but you're the ones I know the most), my posts would simply be hollow.

http://moix.free.fr/smileys/personnages/smilejap.gif

</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Isabella:
I agree with you on Kaminari, He gets the medal for prolific posting.Duh! ;) </font>[/QUOTE]http://moix.free.fr/smileys/lunettes/nerd.gif
I am merely a vessel from which your tongue in cheek witt may bounce off of and still have impact ;)

And did I not see you down there in the wine cellar as well? http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/privateeye.gif

Annacia
30-07-03, 00:32
Hmm

Celli
30-07-03, 00:46
Originally posted by Isabella:
http://moix.free.fr/smileys/lunettes/nerd.gif
I am merely a vessel from which your tongue in cheek witt may bounce off of and still have impact ;)

And did I not see you down there in the wine cellar as well? http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/privateeye.gif You probably him when you were do there too... "tasty" the wine you say..... How about guzzling? ;)

Isabella
30-07-03, 00:48
Yes barkeep, It was I who drank the Merlot. But Kaminari made me do it http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Celli
30-07-03, 01:12
http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yikes.gif

You're the one who drank my Merlot???? :eek:

Annacia
30-07-03, 01:17
It wasn't Bella, no it wasn't !!1

psst Bella stash those bottles!

I was with her every minute and it wasn't her.

really........it............. wasn't

Isabella
30-07-03, 01:20
Originally posted by Annacia:
It wasn't Bella, no it wasn't !!1

psst Bella stash those bottles!

I was with her every minute and it wasn't her.

really........it............. wasn'tWhat Merlot?
Annacia and I were leafing though some magazines from from the Pottery Barn.
It must have been Kami http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/privateeye.gif

Celli
30-07-03, 01:24
Pottery Barn? Really? Did you find anything that will make up for drinking my Merlot then? :D ;)

Isabella
30-07-03, 01:29
Originally posted by Celli:
Pottery Barn? Really? Did you find anything that will make up for drinking my Merlot then? :D ;) A sturdy hand crafted wooden lock, perhaps for a wine cellar. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/privateeye.gif

Draco
30-07-03, 05:54
Wooden locks went out of style when fire became a well known invention...

r diomede
30-07-03, 06:06
Fire went out when ovens became a well known invention……………

creativetwo
30-07-03, 13:50
Geeze...I've got a lot of catching up to do.
This is only my...20th posting since joining the forum.
Tina

http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/mischievous.gif

Isabella
31-07-03, 00:21
Originally posted by Draco:
Wooden locks went out of style when fire became a well known invention...Draco, stop stealing my thunder

"I curse the casual brilliance of your life strategy." http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

Draco
31-07-03, 00:35
Originally posted by Isabella:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Draco:
Wooden locks went out of style when fire became a well known invention...Draco, stop stealing my thunder

"I curse the casual brilliance of your life strategy." http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif </font>[/QUOTE]http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif