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groovy_nub
06-08-03, 04:00
I just need to vent, so I hope nobody minds, I know it is early morning! You do not have to respond, I just need to get this off my chest!

I spent most of last night driving around looking for my best friend who had told my flatmate that she was going to kill herself and than took off :eek: and who left me a message saying the same thing.

I've dealt with this since we became freinds - she's never seriously tried anything, but has threatened it as long as I can remember.

On top of that she tells both me and her boyfriend that it's our fault.... We don't love her enough or care for her enough WTF!!! She is mad that I went away and did not offer her to come with me, but I offered my flatmate, who has never travelled before!

I'm so tired - we've been playing this game forever. She's chronically unhappy and refuses to get help. I literally live my life trying to keep her happy - I put her before my other friends, work and family.

I spend all my free time with her, usually canceling whatever other plans I have. Honestly, I do everything I can. She has a very low self esteem and projects her insecurities onto us, telling us that "we" make her feel dumb/crazy/ugly, all that. She probably needs to be on mood stablizers (her mom was before she died, and her sister is). Whenever things are going well for her she sabatoges them and picks fights with people, she just can't be happy.

When she finally came home last night she told me that she now thinks her boyfriend is gay and that's why she's unhappy (all because she had a dream about him being gay). She was having a bad weekend so I went out and bought her some really good chocolate, flowers and a stuffed animal, and dropped them off for her as a pick me up and stuff I got her from my trip.

She tells my flatmate what a loser I am and how mad at me she is for doing that, bringing her gifts. I can't ever get it right.

I really don't know what to do anymore. I feel terribly bad for her, but if she refuses to get help, things won't change. I guess that's enough venting! Sorry - just needed to get some stuff out so I can move on with my day and be happy I know that the beat will go on and we'll all deal with things, some times it just gets really exhausting.

I love her and she has helped me through some rough times!

I feel better just typing this, thanks for reading if you do!

~Kasia http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/cutie.gif

Celli
06-08-03, 04:10
That is just awful Kasia! :( {{{{{hug}}}}}

I think some day soon, you should get all her friends together and try an intervention with her. Kind of like what alcoholics and drug addicts do, but this can be more of a time for everyone to sit down with her and tell her how worried they are about her, and then also make her open her eyes. You should tell her that if none of you cared for her, you wouldn't still be friends with her after having to put up with so much **** from her like that.

groovy_nub
06-08-03, 04:24
Thanks Celli,

She has a lot of issues, her mom died recently, she binge drinks on the weekends and is very promicious(sp)!

I am really upset about this, because what if she really does kill herself, I would feel so guilty!
I am going to meet with her boyfriend tommorow and hopefully we can figure something out before it is too late :(

~Kasia http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/cutie.gif

Celli
06-08-03, 04:31
An intervention really sounds necessary now that you said that too. I think she may need to go to grief counselling.

Have you tried telling her that you want her to get help because you're all seriously worried about her?

Draco
06-08-03, 04:32
Promiscuous...

I'm sorry to hear you are in such a situation, but it sounds to me like she needs security...

I'd have to meet her to tell you anything other than that...

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groovy_nub
06-08-03, 04:36
Well, when we talk to her about it she is all happy, like she is sorry and wants to change, blah, blah... I assume it is because she is getting what she wants, which is attention!

And when we start ignoring her behavior, she starts up again :confused:

I am so upset, I must go and try to sleep, thanks Celli http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

~Kasia http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/cutie.gif

groovy_nub
06-08-03, 04:40
Draco, other than being a nutcase, she is so wonderful, she is smart, beautiful and very caring, she would do anything for me~except help herself of course, but all I want is for her to be happy and safe!

It is so complicated :(

~Kasia http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/cutie.gif

Isabella
06-08-03, 04:46
Kasia, It sounds as though you are doing all that you possibly can. There is only so much you can do. Just continue being there for her and encouraging her to seek help.
Don't let it bring you down, You are only one person and it sounds like she needs professional help.
Good luck with everything.

Celli
06-08-03, 04:50
Well, good luck with everything Kasia. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif