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Hairhelmet12
16-08-08, 07:53
Ok so i awase talk to my friends on msn and my mom and dad think im alwase talking to random pedos on there to but its frends from here so one night i had to go to bed becus my parents were going to bed but i wasent tired so thayere just yelling at me and telling me to shut up and go to bed, so not my moms just thinking everyone i talk to is a pedo! its so annoying i cant have any privacy! or anything! so then tonight i was talking to a friend on msn and my mom got her camcorder out and from the other room she sat in her chair and was zooming in and watching what i was doing! :mad::mad:

and i cant even sleep in a room by my self with out being scared! let alone sitting in a room thats dark with out bein scared! cus i sleep in the same room as my parents so thay make me go to bed when thay do and its not fair so i alwase get scared when im in the dark sitting alone, so am i messed up or what?

RAID
16-08-08, 08:02
You're still young, so it's normal that they look after you like that. I wouldn't let my kids talk to people online either. You never know what sick *******s are out there...even MSN in case a stranger gets your email and adds you to the contact list. I once was added by a woman who wanted to sell me something apparently, and kept sending links to a website to fill up my bank accounts.

The thing is, in your case, it's perfectly normal. Sure you might see them as a pain for now, but when you grow up, you'll appriciate them.

Sleeping in their room...OK that's a little weird for a 13 year old...

remote91
16-08-08, 08:45
They seem overly protective and probably don't want you spending too much time on the computer when at your age you should be spending more time outside with people that arent virtual.

Really I think they're just looking out for you and doing whats in your best interest, even though it might not seem like it now, you'll probably do the same to your kids.

Ikas90
16-08-08, 10:12
Your mother sounds like an annoying one, lol. Parents always jump to conclusions, without any proof. But the reason they do so, is because they are trying to be protective of you, and they have the right to be concerned; they are your parents. If it's really bothering you, you could tell them that they are being a little 'over-protective' and that you really do have something called 'personal space'. My parents were all over me too, lol. They don't know, they are just concerned.

You're still young. If your parents keep doing this to you when you're older, then it'll become ridiculous. At this stage, they know what's best for you, and they want you to spend more time outside socialising. I meant once you are mature and can make your own decisions, you start being responsible for yourself and can do whatever you want. Your parents can assist you, but they can't stop you from doing anything you want to do.

Woop Legend!
16-08-08, 13:04
Eww you share a room with your parents? Are you amish or just quite sheltered?

Wow, to be 13 and to be deprived of even basic privacy. Kudos to you, I would have eaten my right hand off out of pure stress (and because we all know have every young hormonal teenager uses their right hand!) haha

Draco
16-08-08, 13:31
You parents seem overprotective which can actually be worse than underprotective imo.

dcw123
16-08-08, 13:37
You think thats bad... I'm nearly 18 soon and my mum STILL thinks she can rule my life:ton:
I can't even spend my own money without her whining about saving it up...well I have a car so I can see her point but still:p
Apart from that though, she isnt that over protective..

Endow
16-08-08, 14:09
You need to get a camcorder and start filming them whenever you get the chance and see how they like it. Assuming you have already talked to them about this.

rowanlim
16-08-08, 14:12
Try being 21 & have your mom tell you it's time to go to bed :D

But seriously though, I think your parents are being protective, you can't blame them with all the crimes happening directly/indirectly through the Net. While I didn't think they need to yell at you, I guess you've to understand where they are coming from.

About sleeping in the same room with your parents because you're afraid to sleep alone, I think there's nothing wrong with that, but unless you are able to face your fears & sleep alone, you will have to follow the bedtime rules set by your parents.

I would suggest not to defy your parents, sleep early, minimize your time on the Net, show them that you're not talking to just any pedo, these are your friends, it'll take time but hopefully you will gain their trust & confidence :)

irjudd
16-08-08, 14:18
Is this a joke? I mean really.

Melonie Tomb Raider
16-08-08, 15:04
Well you are only 13, so I can understand them being concerned about who you talk to online at your age; however, one thing I find weird is that you don't have your own room to sleep in. :/

tombfan91
16-08-08, 15:11
your 13 correct? idk it sounds like your going through the im finally a teenager stage and i want to do my things. i think your parents are a lil too overprotective, but i think it's the whole "they can't except that your growing up thing." but your parents mean well except for the cam corder thing i would totally break that lol. ^_^. but i feel for you though.don't get too mad at your parents cause you still need them when you get older and have to go to collage, car, or buy a house or something along those lines lol.

if all else fails just tell your parents that you wish to have a lil more privacy and work things out with them. talking usually helps. although i see you already tried that.

Night Crawler
16-08-08, 15:23
WTF, you sleep in the same room as your parents? You're still scared of the dark at your age? How are you ever gonna get over that if you don't sleep in your own room? If you don't do something about it, you'll still be sleeping with mummy and daddy at 30 years old!

Lara Croft!
16-08-08, 15:43
First of all, remember to capitalize and punctuate, it was a bit hard to read your post. Secondly, you are not messed up, you are still very young and your parents are obviously over protective of you. You should remember each time they yell at you or spy on your Internet activity, they do it because they love you and care about you deeply. But if you think you can't stand up with some things they do, you should talk to both of them, some moment that they are not angry at you and explain in a calm and logical way why you feel they should do some things differently.

thanatos
16-08-08, 16:07
I don't think I ever slept in the same room as my parents since I was a baby, that sort of over protectiveness and lack of faith and confidence in you from your parents is dangerous, not to mention the lack of independence may be damaging as you grow up and have to do things for yourself.

rickybazire
16-08-08, 16:09
My advice, is to tell your parents that the people you talk to are friends from school.

Now everyone has been going on about weirdos adding you to their list and start talking to you. THIS IS NOT TRUE!! You have to personally accept them first before they can talk to you. So basically, anyone you don't know, you decline them.

Tell your mum and dad that.

jackles
16-08-08, 16:30
Ok so i awase talk to my friends on msn and my mom and dad think im alwase talking to random pedos on there to but its frends from here so one night i had to go to bed becus my parents were going to bed but i wasent tired so thayere just yelling at me and telling me to shut up and go to bed, so not my moms just thinking everyone i talk to is a pedo! its so annoying i cant have any privacy! or anything! so then tonight i was talking to a friend on msn and my mom got her camcorder out and from the other room she sat in her chair and was zooming in and watching what i was doing! :mad::mad:

and i cant even sleep in a room by my self with out being scared! let alone sitting in a room thats dark with out bein scared! cus i sleep in the same room as my parents so thay make me go to bed when thay do and its not fair so i alwase get scared when im in the dark sitting alone, so am i messed up or what?


Okay from this I take it that you have anxiety issues about sleeping in your own room. ask your parents for a night light. But if my kid had to share a room with me then I would be making sure they went to bed the same time as me too. Plus perhaps they ae getting a little stressed and want a private bedroom of their own too!

The best defence is a mature one. If you act in a sensible mature manner your parents will react better...if you sulk and get antsy then it will confirme what they believe....that you are still young.

I would guess though that both you and your parents are getting stressed out by things.

Benguitar
16-08-08, 16:57
They are being very very protective.

But that isn't a bad thing, from what you have shared shows me that they love and care for you beyond belief! :) :hug:

Now about the camcorder.. Well I would say that is a little odd.. And a bit disrespectful to your privacy. But how old are you may I ask?

And do your parents trust you?

If you haven't gained their trust then they will go to those measures.

So I suggest respecting them and being responsible and gaining a lot of trust with them.

:);):hug:

I hope I could help!

-Benguitar

Tthe Spirit
16-08-08, 18:41
Nothing is as good as truth...

Parents remain your greatest gift in life...

Dont know if you are religious or not, but have a look at this...

Helps a lot...



http://www.chowk.com/articles/4176

Geck-o-Lizard
16-08-08, 18:47
Nothing is as good as truth...

Parents remain your greatest gift in life...

Dont know if you are religious or not, but have a look at this...

Helps a lot...



http://www.chowk.com/articles/4176

Let's keep preaching and religion-peddling out of this.

Tthe Spirit
16-08-08, 18:49
Let's keep preaching and religion-peddling out of this.

If religion has the answer to problems, why must we exclude it from the dictinary...

Geck-o-Lizard
16-08-08, 18:49
Keep your preaching to yourself please. Not all of us agree with your religion's answers.

Mr.Burns
16-08-08, 18:54
Take a page out of the Jewish rule book.


We don't preach or push our beliefs on others. We believe everyone must find their own path. So let's keep preaching out of here.

Feather Duster
16-08-08, 20:27
My dad was the same when I was 11. He was always saying, " Are you sure that E-mail is from your friend? Maybe someones monitoring what you're doing "

TR93
16-08-08, 20:30
My parents are like that,
I am not alowed MSN because of them,
My mum even thinks that on TRF is like that,that there are bad people on here,
so I let her see for herself how nice everyone is here, she calmed down;)

Feather Duster
16-08-08, 20:33
I'm not allowed on MySpace, still. That's what you get for not getting a dorm.

TR93
16-08-08, 20:34
It's horrible-I feel like my parents don't even trust me sometimes,:o

Feather Duster
16-08-08, 20:36
Mine trust me, it's just lot's of teens commit suicide because of death threats on MySpace.

And today at the library, I saw this guy in front of me checking out a book of the title: ' How to Hack MySpace ' While I was checking Lemony Snicket and HP :rolleyes:

wth? Get a life. MySpace stinks

Hairhelmet12
17-08-08, 00:03
Well its not there choice for me to sleep in there room and its n ot mine eather we have a house thats 2 bedrooms and thay gave my sister a whole bedroom to her elf and i got to sleep in there room!so its n ot my fault and its not that weird to me, well yah but i have no choice...and yes myspace does stink i have one but thats only to keep in touch with old friends, i hardly get on anywase, thanks for all the comments guys!

Crayons
17-08-08, 00:16
Hairhelmet12 you should listen to your parents, they know what's best for you. They're only trying to keep you safe. Your lucky. I remember I lost everybody close to me when I told I was gay..

Larson_1988
17-08-08, 00:19
Hairhelmet12 you should listen to your parents, they know what's best for you. They're only trying to keep you safe. Your lucky. I remember I lost everybody close to me when I told I was gay..

That has nothing to with the subject. :confused: But anyway, your parents are way to overprotective in my opinion. I of course understand that they are worried about what you are on to and not on the internet, but installing a camcorder just to spy on you is too much.

dream raider
17-08-08, 00:19
It's horrible-I feel like my parents don't even trust me sometimes,:o

It's not a matter of trust. One can be easily fooled on the internet.

I'm glad to see that parents are protective over that matter.

Hairhelmet12
17-08-08, 00:24
, but installing a camcorder just to spy on you is too much.

well she was just sitting in the other room useing the camcorder and zooming in to see the screen closer >_<

Crayons
17-08-08, 00:25
That has nothing to with the subject. :confused: But anyway, your parents are way to overprotective in my opinion. I of course understand that they are worried about what you are on to and not on the internet, but installing a camcorder just to spy on you is too much.

I thought somebody would say something like that..
It's actually very relevant to the topic, I wanted to leave out details because it would get personal.

dream raider
17-08-08, 00:31
well she was just sitting in the other room useing the camcorder and zooming in to see the screen closer >_<

That's so weird...

Maybe she's got reasons to be suspicious about what you do on the internet? But still, it's very strange...

Feather Duster
17-08-08, 00:32
Okay, actually, and in no possible offense to you Crayons, it does have nothing to do with the topic. We're talking about internet safety, trust, and hairhelmet's issue. Not the subject of people replying to ones sexual differs.

:hug:

Lenochka
17-08-08, 00:53
Hmm, the being worried about pedos is normal but actually sitting there with a cam just to zoom in on your convos is a little creepy, if she is going to be check she might as well be honest with you and let you know that its for your own safety and all that.

irjudd
17-08-08, 01:40
Just get over it. Unless your parents are criminals, you have to deal with it until you're old enough to live on your own.

silver_wolf
17-08-08, 01:48
Ok so i awase talk to my friends on msn and my mom and dad think im alwase talking to random pedos on there to but its frends from here so one night i had to go to bed becus my parents were going to bed but i wasent tired so thayere just yelling at me and telling me to shut up and go to bed, so not my moms just thinking everyone i talk to is a pedo! its so annoying i cant have any privacy! or anything! so then tonight i was talking to a friend on msn and my mom got her camcorder out and from the other room she sat in her chair and was zooming in and watching what i was doing! :mad::mad:

and i cant even sleep in a room by my self with out being scared! let alone sitting in a room thats dark with out bein scared! cus i sleep in the same room as my parents so thay make me go to bed when thay do and its not fair so i alwase get scared when im in the dark sitting alone, so am i messed up or what?
yeah, my parents seem to think I talk to complete strangers on the internet. Convicted felons and rapists, that sort of thing. What your parents do sounds over-protective to the point of creepy, especially the cam-corder thing. If you don't learn to depend on yourself early on you'll have trouble later in life. Maybe you should remind your parents of that and, while still being respectful, let them know that you need your space.

wmcintosh
17-08-08, 01:57
Well, I am 43 and my parents drive me nuts sometimes, yes I live with them, past troubles led me back to live with them.

silver_wolf
17-08-08, 02:06
so long as you have a job....:p

Benguitar
17-08-08, 02:21
Isn't it driving not driveing?

;)

-DaNnEe..
17-08-08, 03:07
Oh god, my parent's are like this too, tbh. They alway's ask me who I'm talking too! They also try to make me go to bed when they go because they believe all the perverts are on MSN during the night, even though on my MSN I only have my friends on it. Mehhh, parent's just worry to much!

Tihocan9
17-08-08, 03:11
My parents have similar habits. When I am on the computer at night they come ask me what I am doing...and then start giving me a lecture on how there are a lot of perverts online and to not give out any of my info online. I know they mean well and its their job to do that but I am old enough to know what is right and wrong to do on the internet.

But honestly, most people are annoying a lot by their parents its just part of growing up and soon enough we can move out and then we'll probobly realize how much sense they made and how we miss them paying all the bills :p

Quasimodo
17-08-08, 03:16
Solution:

The Internet Privacy Sock!
http://i199.photobucket.com/albums/aa212/quasiraider2/sock.jpg

Hairhelmet12
17-08-08, 03:18
Solution:

The Internet Privacy Sock!
http://i199.photobucket.com/albums/aa212/quasiraider2/sock.jpg

:vlol: i tryed that with blanket..dident work so well

Quasimodo
17-08-08, 03:22
:vlol: i tryed that with blanket..dident work so well

When I was your age, I had my friend and I use bright yellow text on a pale yellow background. Then you could either squint to read it or just highlight new messages to read them quickly. Or learn a language your parents don't speak.

Feather Duster
17-08-08, 04:52
Nice pic Quasi :vlol:

Umm, can't you stay home alone? I stayed home alone when I was like, 10. If not, your parents are mega strict.

Dia2blo
17-08-08, 04:57
I thought somebody would say something like that..
It's actually very relevant to the topic, I wanted to leave out details because it would get personal.

I'm guessing you were trying to say that no matter how annoying your parents can be, just appreciate them anyway, because not everyone has the chance? thats what i got out of that anyways...

Feather Duster
17-08-08, 04:59
True Dia2blo and Crayons. Maybe hairhelmet should read a Series of Unfortunate Events.

takamotosan
17-08-08, 04:59
Solution:

The Internet Privacy Sock!
http://i199.photobucket.com/albums/aa212/quasiraider2/sock.jpg

i'd be afraid of being murdered with this over my face... :yik:

but anyways, yes. this has happened to me before. i hate when my mom reads my ****.

Feather Duster
17-08-08, 05:02
The one on the park bench is so hilarious! :vlol:

Domino
17-08-08, 10:44
Gotta say when I was younger, my parents were very protective. I guess it's because you're so young, your parents just want to protect you. You may feel frustrated, but you need to do something to get your parents trust. That's what I did and my parents don't even worry who I talk to now.

LaraCroftSK
17-08-08, 19:09
Yeah my parent are like yours... They are controlling EVERYTHING in my room and they just cant understand that I am not that type of girl who will do sports and be in the nature :mad: and they cant understand that I like to be alone and draw, or listen music and so on... They talk about school all the time and they are not interested about my hobbies. AND THEY DONT UNDERSTAND THAT I WANT TO BE AN ARTIST!!! :mad::mad:

rickybazire
17-08-08, 19:26
Yeah my parent are like yours... They are controlling EVERYTHING in my room and they just cant understand that I am not that type of girl who will do sports and be in the nature :mad: and they cant understand that I like to be alone and draw, or listen music and so on... They talk about school all the time and they are not interested about my hobbies. AND THEY DONT UNDERSTAND THAT I WANT TO BE AN ARTIST!!! :mad::mad:

Just keep at what you want to do, in your case, Art. And it should get through to them. It was like me and my compositions. I kept at it, and they realised that I wasn't doing it to get at them.

Kerrigan
17-08-08, 19:43
Whose parents aren't annoying sometimes? But trust me, you'll eventually live with it.Maybe develop some method of keeping your conversations private.You might be on some track to get there - even I could barely decipher your post due to typos and lack of capitalization.
Or simply be more cautious, don't get into much detail in your conversations if you know they're watching, though I know it's uncomfortable to have others watch what you chat with your friends.
You could also try talking to them.Plus, maybe if they actually see a bit of your conversations they'll be convinced that they're harmless.After all, they're not interested in the actual content of your discussions.

Larapink
17-08-08, 19:45
It's only because they care.

tranniversary119
17-08-08, 20:00
I know parents that dont care, there kids smoke and drink and skip school. Trust me youll thank them one day.

Archetype
17-08-08, 20:21
It's only because they care.

yup :/ be grateful