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scoobyjo19
01-04-04, 04:44
I like this guy. We flirt around all the time but I cant tell if he likes me or if he just likes to flirt with me. Any advice?
Desperate here!!!
sigh
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[ 01. April 2004, 05:47: Message edited by: scoobyjo19 ]

justin
01-04-04, 05:02
Sorry I don't think I can help :confused:

But hi scooby http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

scoobyjo19
01-04-04, 05:04
Why not Justin? Give me your opinion.
Oh and Hi! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Webhed
01-04-04, 05:19
Scooby, just ask him if he'd like to go out. Nothing that could be deemed threatening, maybe a movie or something. If he says "Yes", and it goes ok, then you just tell him that you had a nice time, and would he like to do it again. If he says "No" to the movie, then you can just carry on as friends, and you don't look like a jerk, 'cos it was just a movie. But then you know where you stand.

If you don't try, you'll never know. Good luck.

[ 01. April 2004, 06:20: Message edited by: Webhed ]

scoobyjo19
01-04-04, 05:20
Thx Web
A close friend just said the same exact thing http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Webhed
01-04-04, 05:22
You're welcome. Anytime. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Melonie Tomb Raider
01-04-04, 05:37
Well, if you are any thing like me then I think you'd have a hard time asking him out. Not saying that you are like me lol. But I would never ask a guy out myself, I guess I am too traditional with that kind of stuff, if I liked a guy I would flirt and let him know I like him through flirting, and if he likes me too then I'd let him do the asking out because it's the guys job in my oppinion haha. But thta's just me, I think Trevor had a great suggestion, but it doesn't work for every one, nothing works for every one of course. What I'd recommend is that you continue flirting, just take it up a knotch. Without being trashy of course. Just sort of hint around that you like him. Some guys are too scared to let a girl know they like her, and rightfully so, because they don't want to be rejected. So you need to be showing him signals that you do like him.Try complimenting him a lot, now that works!! :eek: I used to compliment my friend all the time, but I didn't like him in that way and I didn't want him to like me in that way either, I just complimented him on stuff that he was good at, and obviously I complimented him too much because he almost asked me out!! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yikes.gif He never did because every time he'd flirt with me too much I'd give little hints that I wasn't into him like that, so he never asked me out, thank goodness because I'd have hated to turn him down he's a great friend lol. Any way, just giving an example on how much compliments work. As long as you don't compliment so much that it's just corny, I'm sure you understand though.Any way this is getting WAY too long. I hope I helped, this may not be your style of flirting though. You may want to stick with Trev's idea. Whatever works best for you. Good luck. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/thumb.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

the croft woman!
01-04-04, 09:01
If you wanna find out if a guy likes you, mention ONE other guy who flirted with YOU and if he startes to act or look jealous, he likes you! But dont go OTT otherwise he'll think you like this other guy and not him!
Also, my MORE magazine suggests saying your really into guys like him... So saying he's tall, say something like "I love tall men!" or summat like that. It'll drop the hint.
Also ask him out to the cinema or something like webhed said, and after that if HE asks you out again, he must like you surely! Take it from there! Good luck hun! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

Kurtislover101
01-04-04, 10:40
I have the same problem with a boy i like at school this is my own opinion is you should keep your feelings for him inside because if you guys have a good friendship is cuould mess it up... I found that out the hard way myself :(

[ 01. April 2004, 11:53: Message edited by: clorinda ]

the croft woman!
01-04-04, 10:47
BUT if you keep thinking "It might ruin the friendship" how is everyone going to get with anyone at all? All relationships have to start from friendship.. People need to take risks in life, and if the friendship is true, it wont be ruined just because the other person knows their mate likes them http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/flirt.gif

Kurtislover101
01-04-04, 10:55
Originally posted by the croft woman!:
BUT if you keep thinking "It might ruin the friendship" how is everyone going to get with anyone at all? All relationships have to start from friendship.. People need to take risks in life, and if the friendship is true, it wont be ruined just because the other person knows their mate likes them http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/flirt.gif your right :D I just was thinking about what happened to me

the croft woman!
01-04-04, 10:56
aw http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

Kurtislover101
01-04-04, 11:00
awww thx CW, How are you doing? http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

[ 01. April 2004, 12:01: Message edited by: clorinda ]

Kurtislover101
01-04-04, 11:03
oops double post

[ 01. April 2004, 12:07: Message edited by: clorinda ]

the croft woman!
01-04-04, 11:03
Bored, fed up, tired and annoyed because I've come on my "girlie troubles" early grrr
You?

Kurtislover101
01-04-04, 11:09
I'm fine thx just eatin' some oreo cookies with milk http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/clown.gif

the croft woman!
01-04-04, 11:10
hehe cool! well i s'pose I better go get dressed! bye bye!

Melonie Tomb Raider
01-04-04, 14:06
Ok scoob, if this guy likes to stand right next to you then that's a great sign, I have seen guys do that a lot to girls they may "secretly" like. So that's a great sign there. Now next time he does that I wouldn't be able to tell you what you should do. Hmm... I'll go back to that earlier post and ask because that could be important. lol, I love helping people with this kind of stuff. :D

scoobyjo19
01-04-04, 16:51
He's very flirtatious. We work together but our scheduels only meet up when he's about to get off and Im just coming in. He's been back by a couple of times to see me at night when Im working. Im taking that as a hint that he likes me. Im gonna go today and ask him to go to a movie or something. Wish me luck! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Kurtislover101
01-04-04, 16:53
Good luck http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

justin
01-04-04, 17:15
Originally posted by scoobyjo19:
He's very flirtatious. We work together but our scheduels only meet up when he's about to get off and Im just coming in. He's been back by a couple of times to see me at night when Im working. Im taking that as a hint that he likes me. Im gonna go today and ask him to go to a movie or something. Wish me luck! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif Well then i'd definately say it's a good hint http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

good luck :D http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/thumb.gif

TR3LaraCroft
01-04-04, 18:20
Hi guys http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif , I had a simliar problem recently. I like this guy at work and I thought he liked me too. Lately he had been coming up and talking to me alot. Which was really great. He would look over at me alot. Stand next to me (like Mel said...Hi Melonie http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif :D )...... You know how you can just kind of tell when someone likes you. He was giving me all the signals ........... I was sure he felt the same way. I deceided to ask him if he wanted to go to a movie with me sometime. So two weeks ago I mustered up the courage and asked him out to a movie. .......He said He was busy these days and that he has a girlfriend :( . I was totaly surprised I was sure he didn`t have a girlfriend and that he liked me. I would never have asked him out otherwise. He never mentioned a girlfriend. The week before we were talking about this practice dinner at work and who we were going to bring( you can only bring one person). He said he would probably bring his mom or dad. Then he said if not he will just bring a girl. I thought he would have said my girlfriend and not just "a girl". ..... So the whole thing was kind of confusing. I still don`t understand it :confused: . It`s a little awkward around him now , but I`m hoping it works out and we can still be friends. It`s really hard to know what to do in those kind of situations. I think if I had it to do over again I would have waited on asking him out( and double checked on that girlfriend thing).

[ 01. April 2004, 19:27: Message edited by: TR3LaraCroft ]

the croft woman!
01-04-04, 22:37
I had something similar happen to me once! When I was working at woolworths, there was this really fit guy who always worked on the till next to me.. His name was Richard, and I really fell for him! We got chatting, and I got the hint he was single! Then... as im getting ready to ask him to come out with me to the cinema with a couple of mates it all crumbles away... I asked "So what you upto this weekend after work" he says "Staying in with Amy" I panic, wonder who the hell is amy? he never mentioned her before! "Oh right... who's amy?" he says "My GF" thats it, im crushed! Its really horrible when that happens! Luckily 2 months later i finished at woolworths, and i only see him about now and again!

galaxia2999
02-04-04, 23:13
you shouldn't go too deep cause it's easy to get hurt...well i gotta say that's how i do things...i put a barrier in front of me so only my closest friends can understand me and this way it not only strenghtens your self esteem(not being crushed easily) it makes you stronger, just don't show him that u are weak or need dependence.