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violentblossom
16-10-09, 14:46
The topic is just like what the title sounds like... do you feel that your likes/dislikes/values/opinions are often affected by the opinions of those around you?

James_Rutland
16-10-09, 14:47
Yes. :wve:
I try not to go with the sway, but i tend to go along with games that have low scores and i lose respect for the game once i hear that other people don't like it.

trXD
16-10-09, 14:49
Im actually pretty good at avoiding peer pressure, simply because its easy for me to put on a i-dont-give-a-****-what-your-talking-about attitude. Practically all my friends smoke, which doesn't make any sense to me, why and how would someone choose to start smoking?

Opinion's and ect don't affect me either, my group is always arguing over why this is good and that is bad so its kinda fun. Although sometimes when something is so loved by my friends i look for something wrong with it...

Keir_Eidos
16-10-09, 14:53
I can be swayed pretty easily by friends, although I don't like to admit it.

It's something I've accepted is a fact but with my advancing years I'm finding I'm able to stick by my guns which is a nice part of getting older.

James_Rutland
16-10-09, 14:53
Im actually pretty good at avoiding peer pressure, simply because its easy for me to put on a i-dont-give-a-****-what-your-talking-about attitude. Practically all my friends smoke, which doesn't make any sense to me, why and how would someone choose to start smoking?

Opinion's and ect don't affect me either, my group is always arguing over why this is good and that is bad so its kinda fun. Although sometimes when something is so loved by my friends i look for something wrong with it...

I agree with that, most of my friends smoke, and tried to persuade me to smoke. I of course turned it down, i'm more mature than them. :tmb: (We was 12 at the time)

Spong
16-10-09, 14:55
Do you feel that your likes/dislikes/values/opinions are often affected by the opinions of those around you?
Nope. That's a sign of no individuality and weak constitution.
Unless you're talking about a like/dislike/value/opinion that's altered through the course of discussion with peers. That's different.

snork
16-10-09, 14:55
a question - even though i did look it up, I am not clear :

Does "peer" mean just "equals", friends, buddies or does/ can it include people who are not exactly my buddies, but I respect them / their opinion much ?

Reggie
16-10-09, 14:56
Interesting question Rae. :tmb:

I suppose peer pressure to conform to a certain mindset doesn't really affect me very much because I don't base my indentity on conforming (at least not consciously). If there's a lack of common ground between myself and someone else, the chances are that the friendship just won't progress much. I tend to go with a smaller group of like-minded friends or at least friends who are understanding enough to not expect me to be dishonest with myself or conform for the sake of it.

trXD
16-10-09, 14:58
Do you feel that your likes/dislikes/values/opinions are often affected by the opinions of those around you?
Nope. That's a sign of no individuality and weak constitution.

Now that's a little harsh, its normal for people to get pressured its hardly a sign of no individuality or weakness.

@James_Rutland: Dear me, 12?!? My friends started around 14. Although i suppose 2 years is nothing compared to the years and years of smoking piled on to most of them.

violentblossom
16-10-09, 15:02
Does "peer" mean just "equals", friends, buddies or does/ can it include people who are not exactly my buddies, but I respect them / their opinion much ?

By peers, you can include friends, but I basically am referring to the people that one generally finds themselves around on at least a semi regular basis.

And thank you, Reggie. :) I found myself wondering about this, and saw it as a fitting topic.

LaraCroftRox
16-10-09, 15:03
The topic is just like what the title sounds like... do you feel that your likes/dislikes/values/opinions are often affected by the opinions of those around you?

No way, just really...no. :p

Encore
16-10-09, 15:06
Nope. I've always had a very independent mind, probably a consequence of not being a sociable person.

]{eith
16-10-09, 15:07
Not at all. I can certainly understand it - totally. Peer pressure can be extremely overwhelming or so subtle it's hardly noticeable but I never find myself under it's influence. I think it's because I'm far too opinionated and stubborn to care really. Which is good, most of the time. :p

Spong
16-10-09, 15:07
Now that's a little harsh, its normal for people to get pressured its hardly a sign of no individuality or weakness.

It's fine to mould an opinion through a course of conversation or experience, but to allow your opinions to be swayed purely to be part of a crowd or clique is idiotic and is exactly the things I said; no individuality and weak constitution. It's also a sign of low self-esteem in my opinion.

violentblossom
16-10-09, 15:11
It It's also a sign of low self-esteem in my opinion.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I did this alot as a kid.. someone in school would be like, "Oh, that cartoon is GAY!" so I'd be all, "You're right, who'd ever watch that?!" when I did exactly that when I got home. :p I felt like my opinion was stupid and uncool. I tried to keep the mindset of the "in" people.

After a while, I just figured, "What is the point? My opinion is my opinion.. anyone who doesn't like it will get over it." Remembering all of those false opinions can be tough, and it's pointless.

Paddy
16-10-09, 15:16
Quite often now my likes are never based on others opinions unless something really is good.
But in terms of negative opinions by peers, I couldnt care less since usually when people do give negative opinions, its usually something I like that they give it to.

LaraCroftRox
16-10-09, 15:20
Do you feel that your likes/dislikes/values/opinions are often affected by the opinions of those around you?
Nope. That's a sign of no individuality and weak constitution.
Unless you're talking about a like/dislike/value/opinion that's altered through the course of discussion with peers. That's different.

I totally agree with this btw. :tmb:

touchthesky
16-10-09, 15:23
Oh totally, and I'm thankful for it...I don't start hating things/loving things because of the folk I hang around with (none of them are TR fans lol) but certainly my friends at college made me more aware of my appearence and looking good. When I first started college I wore no make-up (or ridicolous ammounts of eyeliner and that was it lol) and now I am very make-up aware :), I've also started dressing more maturely and I bought my first bottle of perfume when I met them and never looked back!

Rivendell
16-10-09, 15:23
No, I don't think I do get easily swayed. If someone holds an opinion I disagree with, and questions my opinion on the same matter, I won't pretend to agree with them.
Everyone has their own views.
:)

ThatNorskChick
16-10-09, 15:25
Nah, I'm a stubborn *****. :)

Ada the Mental
16-10-09, 15:42
I believe that to a certain extend everyone is susceptible to some kind of peer pressure, the question is just how much. Do you manage to maintain your individuality or allow other people to dominate your life?

For example, when I was 15-ish I used to be paranoid that if I openly liked something very popular people would think I was compromising and was no different from anyone else. Isn't that a form of peer pressure in itself? Now I just do whatever I want.

I'm not swayed easily from my opinions (especially on serious matters I feel strongly about) and I'd rather socialise with people who accept me the way I am, whether we're like-mided or not, than change just to fit in.

My siblings are the exact opposite: my brother would anything to look cool in front of his friends, and my sister and her friends are freaking identical in their beliefs and the way they behave and dress. It annoys me, I hope it's just a phase they'll grow out of.


(Damn, I hate it when my post is first on a page!)

CerebralAssassin
16-10-09, 15:44
nah,if I had succumbed to peer pressure, then I wouldn't like the things that I like and dislike the things I dislike!!:)

Paddy
16-10-09, 15:45
nah,if I had succumbed to peer pressure, then I wouldn't like the things that I like and dislike the things I dislike!!:)

You just dont succumb to mind games :p

scoopy_loopy
16-10-09, 15:46
Not at all. Perhaps on the surface, rarely.

CerebralAssassin
16-10-09, 15:50
You just dont succumb to mind games :p

well I'm more of a "play the board,not the man" kind of guy...(if that made sense):p

Paddy
16-10-09, 15:51
well I'm more of a "play the board,not the man" kind of guy...(if that made sense):p

Or play the game :D

CerebralAssassin
16-10-09, 15:53
Or play the game :D

lol...sort of like "play the game while you play the game"...

lol...that sounded wrong!!:hea:

Nerd For Life
16-10-09, 17:28
Rarely.

Laralissa
16-10-09, 17:34
Deffinitely not... the complete opposite infact. I voice my opinions, which usually leads to me being rejected by my so called friends :p But to hell with it, Id rather be myself and speak my mind than follow everyone like a sheep.

Lavinder
16-10-09, 17:36
Not really - I tend to nod and agree with people who I don't agree with just to humour them :p.

SamReeves
16-10-09, 17:37
Nope. Obstinate, and proud of it! :D

toxicraider
16-10-09, 17:39
Absolutely not! My judgement is entirely independant (either that or I'm just inclined to disagree with everyone).

Obviously there are exceptions; I might want to do something that all my friends are doing, but that's just because it would probably be more enjoyable if they were.

interstellardave
16-10-09, 17:39
The opinions of my peers could, under certain circumstances, make me re-evaluate my own position, but that just makes me a rational, reasonable, person. Anyone should do the same.

Still, I would not change my views unless, upon further reflection, I found that my original view no longer suited me. In other words, I can be "won over" but not "run over".

violentblossom
16-10-09, 18:15
Rarely.

That's not what you said last night. :mis:

irjudd
16-10-09, 18:18
Only if my peers present a logical argument that makes me question my original opinion of something. But definitely not just because their opinion is different and makes mine seem less cool or reasonable.

Nerd For Life
16-10-09, 18:19
That's not what you said last night. :mis:

Damn it, you got me. :(

violentblossom
16-10-09, 18:19
Damn it, you got me. :(

You said that last night, too.

Draco
16-10-09, 18:21
Not really, quite the opposite actually.

Nerd For Life
16-10-09, 18:21
You said that last night, too.

:vlol: Win.

Rachel Croft
16-10-09, 19:25
Never have been swayed by what my peers say/think. That's what makes me an individualy independent person. :)

LaraLuvrrr
16-10-09, 19:37
Not really... but i must admit i get sick of people trying to convert me and get me to do things their way. I cant stand that..

patriots88888
16-10-09, 19:59
I would say I am the anti-swayed! Just because someone is a friend and/or peer doesn't mean I feel I have to always agree with them about everything. I like the fact that friends may differ in opinions on things. It makes things much more interesting and I can learn more about them and their viewpoints because of that.

The world would be a very boring and predictable place otherwise.

Nerd For Life
16-10-09, 20:03
I would say I am the anti-swayed! Just because someone is a friend and/or peer doesn't mean I feel I have to always agree with them about everything. I like the fact that friends may differ in opinions on things. It makes things much more interesting and I can learn more about them and their viewpoints because of that.

The world would be a very boring and predictable place otherwise.

Agreed. Just because you're friends with someone doesn't mean you always have to agree or like everything that person likes. :)

patriots88888
16-10-09, 20:11
Agreed. Just because you're friends with someone doesn't mean you always have to agree or like everything that person likes. :)

Yup. Respect, honesty and open-mindedness is the key to healthy relationships IMO.

AmericanAssassin
16-10-09, 20:25
Yes and no. Yes, when it comes to the way I look. No, when it comes to the way I act. ;)

Dustie
16-10-09, 22:10
Not really.


And I hate that feeling, that awkwardness when somebody who you think is nice, cool and enjoyable to be around starts sharing some ridiculous or ignorant views...

larafan25
16-10-09, 22:51
I can be swayed pretty easily by friends, although I don't like to admit it.

It's something I've accepted is a fact but with my advancing years I'm finding I'm able to stick by my guns which is a nice part of getting older.

will you give in if we pressure you to tell us about the next tomb raider?:D

anywho, I can be taken easily SOMETIMES by peer pressure, but most of this time I am a ram with horns or something like that.

I will butt heads with that person if I am not their friend or if I have sat beside them in math class and all they say is super stupid ignorant things that are just plain rude and disrespectful, while the person sits their and judges every single person that walks in the door of the room and bla bla blah.....ya :)

patriots88888
16-10-09, 23:04
I will butt heads with that person if I am not their friend or if I have sat beside them in math class and all they say is super stupid ignorant things that are just plain rude and disrespectful, while the person sits their and judges every single person that walks in the door of the room and bla bla blah.....ya :)

Wasn't sure if I wanted to get into this... but I just had to ask! :p

What if they were your friend? Would you just let it slide on by and stay quiet without speaking up about it to them? Just curious!

Melonie Tomb Raider
17-10-09, 04:09
My friends' opinions never sway me in the slightest. On the other hand, if my family doesn't approve of something, I have a very hard time following through with it. Their approval means so much to me, maybe even too much. More so my brother's than my parents, though.

Sgt BOMBULOUS
17-10-09, 04:21
Someones opinion will sway me if it makes sense... I've also always been a natural skeptic, so that's helped keep me out of trouble (most of the time).

Tommy123
17-10-09, 04:41
Yes, unless it is rediculous then i try to sway them back:mis:

Big Matt
17-10-09, 07:44
Nope. I know what I think about things and I am completely unwilling to pretend that my opinion is something other than what it is. Strangely enough though, when I give my opinion to people who disagree with me, often they will start stammering and become almost apologetic for their own opinion. As far as others trying to change my mind on things -- people simply don't mess with me.

Ikas90
17-10-09, 09:03
Sometimes I can be swayed easily into having the same opinion about something. I listen to what they say, and take it for granted. It depends on the topic though.

Croft_Original
17-10-09, 11:33
Do you feel that your likes/dislikes/values/opinions are often affected by the opinions of those around you?
Nope. That's a sign of no individuality and weak constitution.
Unless you're talking about a like/dislike/value/opinion that's altered through the course of discussion with peers. That's different.

^This. I suppose it may sound a bit strong but this is how I feel too.:)

Croft.

xXhayleyroxXx
17-10-09, 11:36
i can be swayed but overall i stick to my own opinion
i am swayed to consider their opinion in every aspect however

Tomb-Dude
17-10-09, 12:36
All depends my work seems to drop sometimes due to friends which causes me to get a lower grade if that counts :\

But i try to keep all of my opinions on things my own and try not to listen to people too much. Probally due to the fact my views are normally different to me friends completly :D

Elmer
17-10-09, 13:44
It depends on a few things:)
First of all I measure ones knowledge about the subject, and then reflect how much I know about it. If I know a lot about something I'm able to weigh the given arguments on their plausibility. If not, chances are that I get swayed by the arguments more easily:)
Then something to take in account too is: How much do I like the person?
If I dislike someone, I tend to disagree with them more.

I won't just take ones word for truthful:)

Dennis's Mom
17-10-09, 13:52
Nope. Too old. :D

mike-d
17-10-09, 14:38
Sometimes I can be swayed easily into having the same opinion about something. I listen to what they say, and take it for granted. It depends on the topic though.

This is exactly what happens to me if my brother says his opinion. We tend to agree on everything because we change each others' opinions.

But I never let my friends affect my opinion. They're too stupid to do so :D

Nannonxyay
17-10-09, 14:48
Me and my friends are a very mixed group of indivuals. I hang out with people who you'd call "emo" kids, "sporty" kids and "class clowns." We all have different interests and I don't feel pressured at all to like something just because my friends likes something. Two of my friends love Twilight. I hate it. I like Lady GaGa's music. They hate her music. It doesn't matter because we have much better things to talk about and do. Like the things we have in common due to our own opinions, not each others.

Draco
17-10-09, 15:13
i can be swayed but overall i stick to my own opinion
i am swayed to consider their opinion in every aspect however

That isn't being 'swayed', that is being open minded. There is a distinction there.

Super Badnik
17-10-09, 15:39
No. But if they say something i disagree with i sometimes just act as if to agree without actually saying i do.

BlackRainbow
17-10-09, 15:43
No. I always speak my own mind.

xXhayleyroxXx
17-10-09, 17:18
That isn't being 'swayed', that is being open minded. There is a distinction there.

hehe okay im open-minded :) xx

rowanlim
17-10-09, 18:10
I'd say I'm not easily swayed. I generally have a definitive idea/opinion about stuff so it's not easy for me to change it. Of course when it comes to situations when I'm indulgent, or ambivalent, I suppose they can get their way :p

jackles
17-10-09, 18:15
Good grief no! Most of my workmates already think i am crazy. Usually if I hold a strong opinion, that is that. If I change it, it is because I have observed/considered things myself. I am not very good at being swayed at all.

erosan
17-10-09, 18:28
Nah, I'm a stubborn *****. :)

This. It takes a lot to influence me into liking/disliking etc something.

JRod2208
17-10-09, 18:34
No, my friends actually avoid arguing with me because my opinions and such are usually more formed than their's. Makes me extremely bored at times and makes me wish I had one friend that I could debate with....