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nerdalicious
28-11-04, 20:35
I need some opinions from the intelligent females on here :D

I have been seeing this guy over the last week, not really dating, but casually going out, twice since last Sunday, but talk everyday....met through a mutual friend

So We were driving to this mutual friend's house, who lives 2 hours away, and we were using one of those GPS devices to make sure we didn't get lost, he has this huge huge gas guzzling SUV! :mad: And he just bought it like 2 weeks ago!

It has a voice that tells you when and where to turn. He was getting annoyed because he thought the volume was pretty loud, and asked me to turn it down (he was driving). I looked in the manual and didn't see "volume" in the index or table of contents. I tried pressing some buttons on the GPS itself. One button said "menu" on it, and another said "speaker," and in between the buttons was written "Vol." but there was no button next to it.

He was getting annoyed because I didn't know how to turn the volume down. He pointed to a button and said, "What does this one say?" I said, "menu." He said, "No, below that," so I said, "speaker." He got mad and said, "No, STUPID, it says 'volume' right here in the middle. Don't you think that has something to do with it?"

I wanted to make a snippy comeback but I didn't want to escalate things, so I just said, very calmly, "When I pressed the menu button I got the menu, and when I pressed the speak button it just made the voice repeat itself." Well, he somehow figured out that if you press the "speak" button twice it changes the volume. I didn't say anything to him for the next half hour because I was very hurt over him calling me stupid.

I know that this isn't a big deal but he has never been anything but sweet over the last week and I felt very hurt. He knows I'm not stupid because I have a master's degree. About a half hour later he made a comment about one of the cars driving by us and I didn't say anything. Then he made a few more conversational-like comments, so I guess he was trying to get me to talk to him again, so I did.

We visited with our friend and had a good time, but then when it came time to drive home I started thinking about what had happened before. I felt that he should at least apologize for calling me stupid, and I was annoyed that he was just acting like nothing had happened. (I could see him calling me stupid if I made some really huge mistake, but I don't think that having trouble with the volume control on a GPS is something to get so mad over.) Except for this he is great http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/love4.gif

So ladies, should I continue to see him or tell him to go play in traffic http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/whistle.gif

97jenn
28-11-04, 20:59
I think if he called you "stupid" once, he'll probably do it again. My best friend was dating a guy that did that in between some really sweet things -- like taking her to see "Phantom of the Opera" for her birthday. After they got married he started doing it all the time.

You could just wait to see if he does it again, but I say let him play in traffic! ;)

tazmine
28-11-04, 21:28
I think you already know the answer to this yourself, Nerd. If he gets upset about little things, what on earth is he going to be like when it is about something that matters?

Ditch him, & enjoy your stay in England over the holidays.

There are lots more nice guys in NS. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

nerdalicious
28-11-04, 23:09
Taz :D He is actually from Kentville!

I have decided to kick him to the curb, he still did not apologize and that is what bothers me the most! *sigh* another one gone, oh well maybe I can snag an English guy http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/whistle.gif

andromeda_eats
28-11-04, 23:33
English guys are sexy.

I think you should give him a break. No-one is perfect and if I was dumped everytime I said something negative to someone I would be single forever. Dont take it so seriously. I tell my partner to get f***ed all the time. :D

nerdalicious
28-11-04, 23:39
I agree Andro, but I just met him and it was his tone, to me it is all about first impressions, a guy that calls me stupid on the second date is just not cool with me, and I am used to assholes, I have an ex husband http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/c-3.gif

My best friend also told me to hang onto him, she said he was likely just ****ed about the GPS and not me, oh well....

tazmine
29-11-04, 00:25
I guess what bothers me about this is, if he treats you like that after just a few dates, what will it be like after a few hundred? If he was just annoyed about the GPS, why would he take it out on you; & why would he not apologize? I'm big on "I'm sorry", if it is meant sincerely.

Once you have been with someone for a whiile, you can tell them off, & they'll either know you are really pi**ed at them for something, or you're just having a bad day. Either way, you can choose to deal with it or not in a long term relationship.

Kentville's not all bad, Nerd: my son-in-law is from there. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

Draken8300
29-11-04, 01:25
When it comes to women I vent more than St. Helens, they are a more complex equation to solve than any known mystery in the universe.

On another note, if adam gave eve a rib, why is it that us men are not missing a rib.

Neteru
29-11-04, 04:56
I don't even know why you're questioning this nerdalicious. One week and such a snap at you? Bye bye mister. Personally I take that as a warning sign of a certain personality type that's most undesirable.