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andromeda_eats
06-10-04, 02:33
who always comes into work, and only when Im working. He comes by himself, and at first he was nice, asking me what I did at Uni and all that type. Which isnt weird, because Im a people person and chat to all the customers. But over the past few months it has been getting creepy... he keeps dropping hints about taking me out to dinner or staying with him in Sydney... and he keeps asking Sarah (my housemate who works with me) where exactly we live and he is always reading this book called "How to get a girlfriend" and asking me what I think....

Anyway the other day he bought me a present? How weird is that? I dont even know him. I said that I couldnt accept it, that would be wrong of me and unproffesional and made him take it back. But I'm really creeped out.

Im sorry, that is going too far. Despite the fact that he is like 50 years older then me and could be my father, and that he is a customer and that he knows about my boyfriend? Ew what a total freak.

The world is so sad sometimes.

Draco
06-10-04, 03:03
Report him for harassment.

TombRaidingJenn42
06-10-04, 04:53
Originally posted by Draco:
Report him for harassment.I agree completely....if youve made it clear you're not interested and he still is bothering you and your housemate, the defintely report him.

SpArKy
06-10-04, 11:37
OMG, that is nothing compared to the **** i get, i get blokes aged 18 - 45 saying really rude things to me.

I.E last satuday i was woriking, this man aged 30 i would say, thought he was a rapper, and was rapping very sexual and stomach churning things to me (like how and what he wanted to do to me sexually, ya get the picture), i felt sick. And not only that, he was ACTUALLY saying, i am coming round to your house later to see you, messing about, BUT HOW DO I KNOW HE WAS MESSING ABOUT.

Best thing to do love, is keep your house keys in your hand upon leaving work, so if ya get any nasty suprises as i have,( some physco bird was waiting for me after work to walk me home) you can poke there eyes out! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/whistle.gif

SpArKy
06-10-04, 11:40
Originally posted by Draco:
Report him for harassment.You say that, but i have had friends who have done that, and the situation has esculated unbelievably, this one man screwed off her front door, and sawed it in half on new years eve when she got home, and am not even joking! He turned from nice to nasty, becasue she reported him.

mattioz
06-10-04, 11:48
there are some idiots around who do it because they can't get a girlfriend

Thorn
06-10-04, 19:05
AE I hope this helps your situation. You need to be upfront and tell him you don't like him. If he keeps botherings you, then tell your boyfriend and maybe he can get rid of him verbally or physically... Or you could report him to your manager/boss. If those don't work then the best way to deal with that is job changes or police. I hope you take care. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

Draco
06-10-04, 19:56
Originally posted by SpArKy:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Draco:
Report him for harassment.You say that, but i have had friends who have done that, and the situation has esculated unbelievably, this one man screwed off her front door, and sawed it in half on new years eve when she got home, and am not even joking! He turned from nice to nasty, becasue she reported him.</font>[/QUOTE]That is when you excercise your right to defend yourself and welcome him with the barrel of a shotgun.

Marcus T
06-10-04, 20:27
Originally posted by andromeda_eats:
he is always reading this book called "How to get a girlfriend" and asking me what I think....
You should inform him that he won't learn anything by reading a book. In simple terms - what's needed is charm. Secondly, common interests. If he has neither, chances are low. A charm course would be a better option than a book.

The world is so sad sometimes. It's only people, the world has a lot of beauty too. There is more to life than meets the eye at a first glimpse. With such an approach, I've discovered it's easier to get through a tough situation http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

New-Raider
06-10-04, 21:53
Originally posted by Draco:
Report him for harassment.Before you take this advice (although you probably have already) tell me what you have done so far.
It sounds to me like your protests are too unclear, and you must make it clear to him that all physical or sexual innuendo must cease.
Any verbal contact must not be of a sexual nature.
At the risk of sounding like I'm coming to his defence, think back to those geeky Junior High days, when nobody would be your friend because of the way you looked and acted.
Maybe this guy really does want just a friend.
I would suspect this most in the elderly who are either homeless, poor, or in a home.
In any case, I would not take chances and call up one of those history checkup services.
Don't fall for Internet scumware like Net Detective.
The Yellow Pages should list a good service for you.

Don't send a possibly innocent man to prison.

andromeda_eats
07-10-04, 01:50
Hey guys thanks for the advice. I dont feel sorry for him: he has a lot of money and is just a sleazy old guy who preys on younger women. I wouldnt be surprised if was married with kids.

Its not that easy to report the guy.... its a very classy resturant and he is wealthy, and unfortunately my word against his wouldnt go down to well. But my boyfriends family owns the resturant and I talked to his father about it and he said if he didnt leave me alone then there would be words. Strong words.

He is just so creepy. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yuck.gif

New-Raider
07-10-04, 03:19
Keep us updated.
I'm sure he'll get the message soon.

Marcus T
07-10-04, 10:41
Originally posted by andromeda_eats:
I wouldnt be surprised if was married with kids.
Well, money does attract a certain kind of women. But if he is reading a book called "How to get a girlfriend", it seems unlikely..

Draco
07-10-04, 15:46
Originally posted by New-Raider:
Don't send a possibly innocent man to prison.An innocent man wouldn't be trying repeatedly at an already hopeless endeavor.

Marcus T
07-10-04, 17:32
We're all guilty of something, Draco ;)

Draco
07-10-04, 18:19
Some of us are guilty of everything. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

Lemmie
07-10-04, 18:28
Actually I think he's being completely pathetic! I agree, show him the door and if he holds onto the doorframe, get a hammer! :mad:
Definitely report him!

galaxia2999
08-10-04, 21:38
what you could do is to purposely show him your bad/unwanted/annoying side and make yourself look as imperfect and as bad as possible(but to an extent) to make him realize he doesn't like you at all. Find out what he expects from you and do things that'll really annoy him. For example, if he likes you because he thinks you're beautiful, make urself look ugly; if he likes you for you kindness, make urself look mean and hateful in front of him. but once again if you do this do it to an extent because you don't want to affect other things around you.

Draco
08-10-04, 22:03
Originally posted by galaxia2999:
what you could do is to purposely show him your bad/unwanted/annoying side and make yourself look as imperfect and as bad as possible(but to an extent) to make him realize he doesn't like you at all. Find out what he expects from you and do things that'll really annoy him. For example, if he likes you because he thinks you're beautiful, make urself look ugly; if he likes you for you kindness, make urself look mean and hateful in front of him. but once again if you do this do it to an extent because you don't want to affect other things around you.Want to know what happens when a guy discovers that? It further encourages him, because you are acknowledging his presence.

Solange
08-10-04, 22:39
It is difficult, especially if he is a customer, then you might feel the need to keep things on a friendly basis.

If he hasn't really done anything harmful, it is very hard to take legal actions, and it also might not be what you want to do.

This has happened to me several times in my life, as I've worked for so many years in places where I had an "attendant-customer" relationship to people. What I have done, mostly with a great deal of success, is telling the person everything about my boyfriend. And make it believable. It helps if you can actually think of someone when you say this. Make it sound as if you are just getting back together or something.

Might not be the most honest approach, I agree. And I hate to lie! But it is an easy way out.

croft28
09-10-04, 06:48
I dont think you should communicate with him at all.

I understand that you have to be nice to customers, but at the same time you have rights too, and you dont have to put up with anyones ****.

I think you should tell your boss about the situation, just so they know whats going on JUST incase he tries to do something, he most probably wont, but you never know.
It wouldnt be a problem if you made a complaint to your boss, even if this weirdo is making you slightly uncomfortable, you shouldnt have to go to work a be worrying about some anoying guy who wants to get into your pants.

Next time he approaches you, tell him your not interested and that you dont like him repeatedly harrassing you. Dont be weak about it though, but dont rude be either, just be firm, look him straight in the eye when you say it and after you finish telling him just walk away. If he still wont go away i advise you ask your boss to speak to him, by law you have the right to report it and have something done about it!............dont take anyones ****!, you can stand up for yourself without being rude or violent.

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[ 09. October 2004, 07:52: Message edited by: croft28 ]

SpArKy
09-10-04, 08:31
Originally posted by Draco:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by SpArKy:
</font><blockquote>quote:</font><hr />Originally posted by Draco:
Report him for harassment.You say that, but i have had friends who have done that, and the situation has esculated unbelievably, this one man screwed off her front door, and sawed it in half on new years eve when she got home, and am not even joking! He turned from nice to nasty, becasue she reported him.</font>[/QUOTE]That is when you excercise your right to defend yourself and welcome him with the barrel of a shotgun.</font>[/QUOTE]Draco, i live in the UK, guns are illegal, so thats why i said poke his eyes out with your house keys......well. You have to compromise! I would rather he was blind for the rest of his life then dead!

Apofiss
09-10-04, 08:35
Originally posted by Draco:
Some of us are guilty of everything. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif :D :D Good one! :D

And about that freak - do he knows that you already have a boyfriend? If so, then he is really a freak..and and 50 years olderI?&lt;&gt;call 911 if he keeps going that way! :eek:

[ 09. October 2004, 09:39: Message edited by: Apofiss ]

Apofiss
09-10-04, 08:41
Originally posted by Lemmie:
...onto the doorframe, get a hammer!A hammer!? :rolleyes: Playin' MANHUNT?! :D

Lemmie
09-10-04, 09:03
Very possibly! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif

Apofiss
09-10-04, 09:11
Better...most possibly! :D (@ moment I'm in DOING TIME level... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/whistle.gif ...and yeah...very violent game! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yikes.gif so only from 18 - I would say from 40! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/privateeye.gif )

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