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So does playing hard to get ever really work? I'm curious to know when it doesn't work...
just go for the outgoing stage but not too outgoing
that might work
I'm not a great fan of the 'hard to get' thing. If someone acts like they don't like me I just assume they really genuinely don't like me and move on.
If I like someone, I usually let them know :D But I am very outgoing and I understand not everyone is like that!
Flirting always works, dropping subtle hints, exchanging smiles...
Some guys like the chase, others do not..each guy is different, men are confusing ;)
Well I don't want to seem like I'm pursueing him too much even though he knows I like him and he likes me.
Originally posted by rogue_eclipse:
Well I don't want to seem like I'm pursueing him too muchWho not? You see, that way you end up getting together, probably.
[ 13. December 2004, 18:04: Message edited by: Scottlee ]
well we were sorta together and now there is this kinda 'break'...so now we're supposed to be like 'friends'
Oh, sorry Rachel. I forgot.
if you were together then now you are just friends, it might be that that is the way it is going to be.
You can't push people into wanting more of you, you just have to sit back and take it slowly if it is going to happen it will, if not it wont..
But dont look desprate as men hate desprate women.
And being eays will gain you no respect.
Rachel? :confused: haha
Ok well thanks...I think time will tell. Yes that was the word I was looking for- I don't want to seem 'desperate'.
I think it works to an extent... after too much the guy gives up and moves on. But the thrill of the chase is undeniably exciting. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/mischievous.gif
guys are so hard to understand sometimes.
my friend at work has been trying to get the attention of this other guy who used to work with us. after a few weeks of trying she gave up. NOW when shes already moved on hes trying to get her attention and shes doesnt care now. :confused: doesnt make any sense.
thank god i dont deal with that anymore http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif im very happy with my boyfriend http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif
Hey TRChik http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif
What I want in life, I get, and that applies to men. I just have to get inside their heads to figure out how to get them. Roguish sweetie, do you know what this mystery man wants, aside from you of course? Like a relationship? Has he got issues with previous relationships? http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif
hey andromeda http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif
Originally posted by TRChik:
guys are so hard to understand sometimes.
Yes, because you girls have us completely confussed :confused:
To be honest, women are more complex then men. Sorry, Im a traitor to my chromosomes. But its true. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif Men are simple creatures.
The male chromosone is an incomplete female chromosone. In other words the male is a walking abortion; aborted at the gene stage. To be male is to be deficient, emotionally limited. Maleness is a deficiency disease and males are emotional cripples - Valerie Solanas
[ 13. December 2004, 23:26: Message edited by: Scottlee ]
Well a kinder way of putting it is that maleness is imposed on the female neutral state.
But Im happy saying that men are emotionally and mentally crippled. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/silent.gif
side note :
God gave men brains larger than dogs so they wouldn't hump womens' legs at c0cktail parties
http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif had to throw that in
[ 13. December 2004, 23:34: Message edited by: TRChik ]
Originally posted by andromeda_eats:
But Im happy saying that men are emotionally and mentally crippled.Generally speaking, where men are mentally and emotionally 'crippled', it is because they are raised to be so (often, but not exclusively, by women - their mothers). It is a socially inflicted falsehood not inherent in the male gender. In short, it's a learned feature. The psyche's inherent condition is both male and female, whatever body it is 'contained' in. Anything which seems to differentiate the sexes in that regard, is a forced, and as such, unnatural division.
[ 14. December 2004, 00:10: Message edited by: Neteru ]
Me just jokey. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/bash.gif
PEOPLE are difficult. Not male/female.
It`s all about chemicals. ;)
Some are easier, some are more difficult.
I know you just jokey AE http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif But it is a joke based upon a distorted notion (that most of Western [and South-Eastern]) societies have of what males and females are, or should be. Not that I need to tell you this, because I know you know (if those psychology lectures seeped in and you weren't on a skive http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif ).
To answer your question Andro: he wanted a serious relationship and I said he was moving too fast. Now I want him to want me... but not to the point that he'd try to move things up a level again.
I think that women are known to be just as emotionally and mentally crippled as guys. Like think of the the whole 'dumb blonde' persona. People ACT a certain way to fit the roles that society sets up for them...whether that is in the family or whatever...they are learned characteristics in most cases and lots of time people either pretend they know more than they really do or they pretend they know less. Is there anyone out there who is ever completely honest? I think that is a rarity in itself.
ME?! SKIVING?! I am shocked you would make such outrageous claims! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yikes.gif
(The lectures were at 9 am... nobody went.... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif )
Roguish, sweetie, does that mean that you want to lead him on? He cant get what he wants from you, but you dont want him to go elsewhere for it? Thats naughty.
Originally posted by rogue_eclipse:
...they are learned characteristics...Exactly Rogue.
LOL AE http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif
Net its 5.30 am. What on earth are you doing up? http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yikes.gif
Just one of those things AE. Was busy reading and I just couldn't concentrate, so I logged on again. Now I'm playing Shadowman and there's no point in going to sleep as I've things to do.
Always so profound Draco. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/mischievous.gif
I was going to go into a long diatribe, but I think 'Blah' is more clear, to the point, and a much better read.
Well it certainly resonates with considered force. Well said :D
I think people pay too much attention to what one does and forget what one is.
People worry about what to do to get the person, what the person is making to get/keep us... it's all futile, in my opinion. We don't have to live with the person trying to get us, we have to live with it with us. What really matters is who one is.
Things are simple, people tend to complicate them. Each one is who one is, if the other person likes it, fine, if doesn't, someone else will, eventually. That whole how to get, how to play is all useless, if you ask me. It only serves pleasant moments, not happyness. One is not supposed to act in a determinated way to get a person, the person is supposed to like us as we are, no matter what we do, if meant to be ours.
I agree Eric, http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif
Ok then...uh-oh I AM naughty...I guess this whole time it might very well be 'leading him on' ooooh that is soo cruel :( Great :rolleyes: so now what? should I back off?
Andro...I really hope those lectures haven't kept you up too late.
Maybe I will just say a simple "meh" (likened to Drac's "blah") and finish this once and for all
Hard to get works 90% of the time. :D
Roguish, Im just as gulity. Just because I dont want a guy anymore, I still dont want him to stop wanting me. But that is selfish and cruel. You gotta let him go if he's not for you. He has to go out there and find the second best girl in the world to crush on. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif I know you will do the right thing.
You dont need male baggage, babe. Male handbag maybe, but not baggae. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif
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