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MattTR
24-08-10, 03:55
Now days I just don't know what to do anymore, and this isn't directed at Tomb Raider Forums directly, but it can certainly be used as an example.

I usually stay quiet and try to be on everyone's side, but that logic failed. Recently I've been wanting to get my thoughts and ideas thrown on the board more than ever, and not just online, but in real life as well. Sometimes I think it's not a good idea, I guess it all depends on the situation.

Let's take the forums, would you say it's better to stay out and watch the shows, or do you want your opinion to be heard regardless?

Just to throw in the curve ball, I suppose this thread will be voicing my opinion on the matter. :ton:

tranniversary119
24-08-10, 03:57
It usually depends on the situation. But most of the time I just stay quiet and watch everything from a distance, rather than jump on in and voice my opinion.

Evan C.
24-08-10, 04:02
I never shut up on opinions,and when someone say something wich I consider wrong,I make them know.Not matter who,where or when,I always give my point of view,always with respect.

Alpharaider47
24-08-10, 04:02
I agree, for me it's more dependent on the situation. But there are some things that I used to kinda stay quiet and neutral about that now I'm starting to take sides on.

Tombraiderx08
24-08-10, 04:02
I try to state my opinions very very vaguely, so that people wont holler as much if they dont agree, like "Ew racists!" as opposed to a long elaborate opinion as to why I dont approve of racism. I usually don't voice my opinion a lot either, usually just when I think I have something valuable to add to a conversation. But, that's just my opinion ;)

t-raider26
24-08-10, 04:05
I'm not usually very opiniated on the forums (at least i dont think so) But certain topics I just cant hold back, and I'll say whatever's on my mind. I think it depends on how strongly I feel about the topic

NemesisxAngelus
24-08-10, 04:14
It usually depends on the situation. But most of the time I just stay quiet and watch everything from a distance, rather than jump on in and voice my opinion.

James Dean! HWYEGUAYWQGYQGYW, okay moving on fangasm. :pi:

I only voice my opinion when I'm really certain about what to say, I often think too much through on about what to say. But when a discussion's going downhill and people start making false assumptions and, when I know a good deal that might put it back on track I'd say something. Otherwise I'm a pretty quiet bird.

MattTR
24-08-10, 04:15
James Dean! HWYEGUAYWQGYQGYW, okay moving on fangasm. :pi:

I only voice my opinion when I'm really certain about what to say, I often think too much through on about what to say. But when a discussion's going downhill and people start making false assumptions and, when I know a good deal that might put it back on track I'd say something. Otherwise I'm a pretty quiet bird.

That's my problem, I think about what I want to say too much but don't really think about if it should be said at all.. confusing right?

Well regardless, thank you for your replies guys, I can admit I'm learning something. :ton:

NemesisxAngelus
24-08-10, 04:18
That's my problem, I think about what I want to say too much but don't really think about if it should be said at all.. confusing right?


Yeah and when you made up your mind with: "Okay. I'm going to say it." They've moved already on to a gazillion new subjects. :o

MattTR
24-08-10, 04:21
Yeah and when you made up your mind with: "Okay. I'm going to say it." They've moved already on to a gazillion new subjects. :o

Why yes, absolutely right. Got to love lightspeed internet connections. :vlol:

Well at least I hope that's what you were getting at. :pi:

Johnnay
24-08-10, 04:21
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, if you dont like it...dont respond to it:D......

t-raider26
24-08-10, 04:23
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, if you dont like it...dont respond to it:D......

This forum would be a very boring place if that were the case. The occasional debate is pretty fun

MattTR
24-08-10, 04:24
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, if you dont like it...dont respond to it:D......

Or respond and stand your ground! :pi: :ton:

NemesisxAngelus
24-08-10, 04:25
Why yes, absolutely right. Got to love lightspeed internet connections. :vlol:

Well at least I hope that's what you were getting at. :pi:

Well online I'm less restricted to myself in that sense, still restricted but not as much I'm in real life. I've often been asked in real life I actually have a tongue for being so quiet. But when an interest really moves me -- causing me to know a great deal about it, I just won't shut up. :D

Drone
24-08-10, 04:25
If one knows something true and important, they should share their truth/experience as much as they can because it can help others. Spreading the truth that can help is very important, staying quiet equals to crime in that case, because you could help but you didn't. But anyway most likely either your truth will be ignored or in the worst case you'll just get some lame reply and nothing more.

MattTR
24-08-10, 04:27
Well online I'm less restricted to myself in that sense, still restricted but not as much I'm in real life. I've often been asked in real life I actually have a tongue for being so quiet. But when an interest really moves me -- causing me to know a great deal about it, I just won't shut up. :D

It seems sometimes I have more of a mouth online than I do in real life because, well.. it's not as scary! :p

The downside, I can't picture everyone in the underwear as well. :vlol:

Just kidding, that never worked for me anyway. :whi:

Tommy123
24-08-10, 04:27
It depends usually. But most of the time i tend to stay quiet for the sake of not getting bashed.

lunavixen
24-08-10, 04:29
it depends on the subject for me

Uzi master
24-08-10, 04:31
well, debate's are kinda fun, anyway I just voice my opinion, but at first I do try and be polite but if people get *****y and moany about it, well then:cln:.

NemesisxAngelus
24-08-10, 04:31
If one knows something true and important, they should share their truth/experience as much as they can because it can help others. Spreading the truth that can help is very important, staying quiet equals to crime in that case, because you could help but you didn't. But anyway most likely either your truth will be ignored or in the worst case you'll just get some lame reply and nothing more.

Dad, is that you? :p :hug:

It seems sometimes I have more of a mouth online than I do in real life because, well.. it's not as scary! :p

The downside, I can't picture everyone in the underwear as well. :vlol:

Just kidding, that never worked for me anyway. :whi:
Same here. Even though I still stay on the pretty quiet side, even online. Regardless how well I might know this person.

It only worked for me to cause me have terrible giggles, mostly in the most entire serious conversations. Getting looks I've been interrupting a very serious subject and being rude. And hell, do seem to explain you've been trying to picture such thing. No thanks. :D

Drone
24-08-10, 04:32
Dad, is that you? :p :hug:

Ghm, they have McDonalds in Tibet y'know :p

Lara_Fan_33
24-08-10, 04:33
If i have something to say, I'll say it, but most of the time ill stay quiet :p if someone says something incredibly stupid or ignorant i usually lose all self control and respond anyways. One of my least favourite lines ive ever heard on this forum is "if you dont like this forum, you can leave" incredibly ignorant and stupid IMO

NemesisxAngelus
24-08-10, 04:35
Ghm, they have McDonalds in Tibet y'know :p

And Pepsi in the Andes. :whi:

MattTR
24-08-10, 04:37
Same here. Even though I still stay on the pretty quiet side, even online. Regardless how well I might know this person.

It only worked for me to cause me have terrible giggles, mostly in the most entire serious conversations. Getting looks I've been interrupting a very serious subject and being rude. And hell, do seem to explain you've been trying to picture such thing. No thanks. :D

Sometimes you can't help but laugh a bit, but hopefully it's a laughing matter. :whi: And no, I really don't picture people in their underwear to help me.. at least I haven't tried that yet. :ton:

tranniversary119
24-08-10, 04:37
James Dean! HWYEGUAYWQGYQGYW, okay moving on fangasm. :pi:

I only voice my opinion when I'm really certain about what to say, I often think too much through on about what to say. But when a discussion's going downhill and people start making false assumptions and, when I know a good deal that might put it back on track I'd say something. Otherwise I'm a pretty quiet bird.

:tmb: :D

NemesisxAngelus
24-08-10, 04:45
Sometimes you can't help but laugh a bit, but hopefully it's a laughing matter. :whi: And no, I really don't picture people in their underwear to help me.. at least I haven't tried that yet. :ton:

Don't. That's all the advice I can give out, just, don't. :pi:

:tmb: :D

Recently I've found my JD t-shirt back and now I catch someone with an avatar of him. Awesome. :cool:

MattTR
24-08-10, 04:47
Don't. That's all the advice I can give out, just, don't. :pi:

Advice take. :tmb:

:vlol:

NemesisxAngelus
24-08-10, 04:49
Advice take. :tmb:

:vlol:

Well you can still do if you like to do for giggles. But don't say I didn't warn you. :p

silver_wolf
24-08-10, 05:38
To the absolute shock of everyone on this forum, I must admit that I usually voice my opinions.

Tonyrobinson
24-08-10, 05:54
I give opinions but again respect others and let them know if they don't agree with my opinion they can if they want because I know everyone has different view points. Some members get more defensive about my opinions but it's those people who are often the ones who start riots on the forum. But I both voice and respect them. I'd like to think if anyone had a problem with what I said in an offensive way that they would tell me so I could apologize. But on the most it's fine. :)

scoopy_loopy
24-08-10, 05:56
I don't know what's wrong with my prose today. This post didn't even make sense to myself; I might come back to it later! :p

Melonie Tomb Raider
24-08-10, 05:57
Depends on the scenario.

Online and on forums, I voice my opinion. As well as at home. However, if I'm at work, or even just outside of the house where I'm communicating with people, I tend to keep my opinions to myself.

Alpharaider47
24-08-10, 05:59
Hehe, in some cases it really depends on how many people you'll potentially **** off :p

Aranara
24-08-10, 09:28
On the Internet I usually stay quiet and watch from the shadows...in real life it depends on the situation. :)

xXhayleyroxXx
24-08-10, 09:33
I'm very very very opinionated and I like to get involved with debates (as long as they don't turn nasty, but hey; we're talking about tombraiderforums here :pi:) so yes, I do voice my opinion a lot. I have become more caustious in posting however because people tend to shoot me down :/

Andyroo
24-08-10, 10:06
If it's about something I feel strongly about, then yes.
But most of the time now it just doesn't really seem worth it.

CuteKittenlol
24-08-10, 10:35
I stay quiet unless someone really ****es me off whether it be with ignorance or pure stupidity..then i'll say something.

Ampersand
24-08-10, 10:41
I usually keep myself to myself unless it's something of really personal interest that I can discuss properly. Or until someone says something monumentally stupid.

scoopy_loopy
24-08-10, 10:48
I usually keep myself to myself unless it's something of really personal interest that I can discuss properly. Or until someone says something monumentally stupid.

Pretty much: this.

I really hate people asking for my opinion on things I don't feel I know enough about, a few law student friends of mine always bring up the most intense worldly issues and make me feel so incredibly un-informed about the world :p Although usually I can get away with deflection.

Shark_Blade
24-08-10, 11:18
Depends on the situation.

If I can contribute in a discussion, I'll post. If I feel so strongly about a topic, I'll post. If someone post something funny, I'll post.

But if it's something not in my interest at the moment, then I probably won't.

Ikas90
24-08-10, 17:03
I stay quiet. I don't bother voicing my opinions, because I know I am right, and that everyone else is wrong.













Just kidding lol. :p I voice my opinion when I feel the need to. :) I like to participate and learn from other people's perspectives.

Catracoth
24-08-10, 17:14
I usually always give my opinion, but it depends on the situation, as it's been said before me. There are times where some things may have been said in a thread that I might want to touch on, but if the topic is long past discussed, it's best to just leave it alone instead of going back to dig it up. There are other times where if something is being said that I don't like, I'll give my two cents, regardless of whether or not it was asked for or if the scene had anything to do with me.

Often times, it gets annoying when you give your opinion and someone comes off with the "Who asked you?" attitude. It's times like this where people need a slap in the face and realise that this is a public forum - there are no limits as to where you can and cannot post publicly, unless a staff member tells you otherwise.

domina
24-08-10, 17:28
I used to be pretty outspoken with my opinions, but I've come to the conclusion that with few exceptions, I'm likely not changing anyone else's mind nor is anyone changing mine. Amongst friends or on more "personal" outlets, like Facebook, I'll still share a lot, but in more public arenas with more people who want me to "debate" or explain myself, I'll stay quiet.

Avalon SARL
24-08-10, 17:48
I would always like to give my opinion, but it gets difficult at many points
no one is willing to hear both sides of the story... so keep what you believe in to yourself and your lover if that is possible :)

So STAY QUIET :)

Encore
24-08-10, 18:25
If I'm faced with people that I know will not listen, if their beliefs are completely opposite of mine, and if absolutely nothing positive can come from discussing with them, then I can't be bothered and I prefer to be a diplomat. If I'm talking with someone I trust, that I know is smart enough to share a discussion, then I might go to the trouble.

In TRF, however, I try my best to not say my opinions when they involve more personal beliefs and ideas. Of course, sometimes I'll "slip" and say something and, while it may be nothing, it may also turn out to seriously offend another member. And I hate that. It makes me feel like ****.

So yeah, IRL it depends; in TRF, I try to avoid it as best as I can.

Ward Dragon
24-08-10, 18:31
Depends on the scenario.

Online and on forums, I voice my opinion. As well as at home. However, if I'm at work, or even just outside of the house where I'm communicating with people, I tend to keep my opinions to myself.

That's a good point. If I'm in a real life situation with people I don't know that well, I usually keep quiet on anything that might be controversial because I don't feel like arguing or taking the risk that the other people might hold a grudge over having a different opinion.

However on the forums, I usually voice my opinion. I try to always be polite and not attack anyone, and if someone takes offense anyway I didn't mean it. The only time I really censor myself is if someone starts getting personal attacking me and I realize that I'm about to attack them back. Then I decide that it's not a friendly argument anymore and it's not worth the energy arguing with someone that's going to attack me. I won't let that stop me from saying what I want to say, but I will no longer reply to that person's posts. I like friendly arguments though as long as no one is taking it too seriously and people are debating the ideas without getting personal.

[Xmas]
24-08-10, 18:43
I always voice my opinions, especially when it comes to Xbox exclusive exclusivity.

lara c. fan
24-08-10, 18:46
My opinion gets me a lot of ridicule and hate most of the time, so I don't give it much.

t-raider26
24-08-10, 19:05
My opinion gets me a lot of ridicule and hate most of the time, so I don't give it much.

D: What do you mean? Can you think of an example?

Ward Dragon
24-08-10, 19:19
My opinion gets me a lot of ridicule and hate most of the time, so I don't give it much.

We didn't realize this was happening that much, but a lot of people have complained in the past few days about being attacked just for voicing their opinions. We're going to be a lot more firm dealing with people who attack someone else. We want everyone to be able to freely post their opinions, and if there are a few people who are ruining it for everyone else then they need to stop right now because we take this very seriously and we will deal with any issues of bullying that we find.

ajrich17901
24-08-10, 19:20
I'm a very blunt person, If I have something to say no one is gonna stop me lol. I don't hold back when I got something to say, I've had a couple moments on this forum >.> haha. If someone can't handle what I have to say then ignore it, or grow a pair already.

Draco
24-08-10, 19:21
I think everyone knows where I stand on this.

lara c. fan
24-08-10, 19:22
We didn't realize this was happening that much, but a lot of people have complained in the past few days about being attacked just for voicing their opinions. We're going to be a lot more firm dealing with people who attack someone else. We want everyone to be able to freely post their opinions, and if there are a few people who are ruining it for everyone else then they need to stop right now because we take this very seriously and we will deal with any issues of bullying that we find.

I wasn't just talking about here, mind you :p

I do view things rather coldly, though, which probably adds to my opinion not being liked :p

larafan25
24-08-10, 20:05
I jump in.:)

Love2Raid
24-08-10, 20:10
Depends on the situation. Usually you will hear me, unless I really feel I donīt have anything to add or I just donīt care. :)

larafan25
24-08-10, 20:11
My opinion gets me a lot of ridicule and hate most of the time, so I don't give it much.

Oh god, I question people's opinions A LOT and get into debates, I hope they don't think I hate them! D:

I think hate is different than having opposing opinions.

Catracoth
24-08-10, 20:15
My opinion gets me a lot of ridicule and hate most of the time, so I don't give it much.

That shouldn't stop you.
Everyone has the right to speak their mind, and if some people can't disagree in a civilised fashion, then some classes need to be taken on Socialisation 101.

larafan25
24-08-10, 20:18
That shouldn't stop you.
Everyone has the right to speak their mind, and if some people can't disagree in a civilised fashion, then some classes need to be taken on Socialisation 101.

Your kidding right?

Only post your opinion if it is right, otherwise don't bother as I don't want to hear it. It ****es me off so much when people post stupid ideas and opinions, there is right and wrong and some people just do not understand!

Of course I am totally joking...hehe...

SkyPuppy
24-08-10, 20:19
it really depends on the situation.

Dennis's Mom
24-08-10, 20:19
Now days I just don't know what to do anymore, and this isn't directed at Tomb Raider Forums directly, but it can certainly be used as an example.

I usually stay quiet and try to be on everyone's side, but that logic failed. Recently I've been wanting to get my thoughts and ideas thrown on the board more than ever, and not just online, but in real life as well. Sometimes I think it's not a good idea, I guess it all depends on the situation.

Let's take the forums, would you say it's better to stay out and watch the shows, or do you want your opinion to be heard regardless?

There's nothing wrong with voicing your opinion, just don't expect too much. The idea of being "heard" on the internet is a bit like wanting to be "heard" in the front row at a rock concert. You'll have better luck in RL. ;)

Tommy123
24-08-10, 20:20
Your kidding right?

Only post your opinion if it is right, otherwise don't bother as I don't want to hear it. It ****es me off so much when people post stupid ideas and opinions, there is right and wrong and some people just do not understand!

Of course I am totally joking...hehe...

lmao i didnt see the white at first and i was like

"DAMN!" :p

Catracoth
24-08-10, 20:26
Your kidding right?

Only post your opinion if it is right, otherwise don't bother as I don't want to hear it. It ****es me off so much when people post stupid ideas and opinions, there is right and wrong and some people just do not understand!

Of course I am totally joking...hehe...

What the ****?

EDIT: Oh, white text. :vlol:

DgoOdz94
24-08-10, 20:44
It depends in the situation. But mostly I would stay quiet.

lara c. fan
24-08-10, 21:56
That shouldn't stop you.
Everyone has the right to speak their mind, and if some people can't disagree in a civilised fashion, then some classes need to be taken on Socialisation 101.

I also tend to be a non-confrontational person as well. Unless it's something extremely important, I just tide along.

coolaideonfire
24-08-10, 22:17
It depends really. I'm definitely too nice for my own good. I tend to stay quiet and try to see things from all angles and side with everyone... show a bit of empathy for all considerations. But if it's a serious issue, or it imposes on my own well being, I'll be sure to voice my opinion. Sometimes you can't stay quiet as easy as it probably would be to do so!

corey01
24-08-10, 22:22
I alwas voice my oppinion, I couldnt stand to just sit there and let others blab on if I disagree with something.

StefanJ94
24-08-10, 22:29
it really depends on the situation.

this :tmb: :hug: :D

Catracoth
24-08-10, 22:32
I also tend to be a non-confrontational person as well. Unless it's something extremely important, I just tide along.

Honestly, I've seen a couple of instances where you were confrontational. :o

lara c. fan
24-08-10, 22:33
Honestly, I've seen a couple of instances where you were confrontational. :o

That's why I put "tend to" :p

I think I am a different person on the internet to what I am in real life. I'm incredibly shy and a little bit meek.

xXhayleyroxXx
24-08-10, 22:37
Honestly, I've seen a couple of instances where you were confrontational. :o

Just what I was thinking :p

SkyPuppy
24-08-10, 22:57
That's why I put "tend to" :p

I think I am a different person on the internet to what I am in real life. I'm incredibly shy and a little bit meek.

you seem shy on the internet as well, silly. :p

i think everyone is atleast alittle different on the internet

patriots88888
24-08-10, 23:00
Depends on my mood. Right now, really quiet.

Catracoth
24-08-10, 23:01
That's why I put "tend to" :p

I think I am a different person on the internet to what I am in real life. I'm incredibly shy and a little bit meek.

Of course. :p
Honestly, I'm not as confrontational as I am on the Internet.

lara c. fan
24-08-10, 23:12
you seem shy on the internet as well, silly. :p

i think everyone is atleast alittle different on the internet

And I'm even shyer in real life :p

MattTR
25-08-10, 01:54
A lot of people are voicing their opinions in this thread, I adore that. :tmb: :pi:

Sir Croft
25-08-10, 01:59
I mostly express myself, I just feel like my opinion needs to be heard. But sometimes, I'd rather stay quiet for a number of reasons.

Carbonek_0051
25-08-10, 02:11
I always voice my opinion in real life and on the forums. It's something I need to work on. :p

miss.haggard
25-08-10, 02:17
I keep my opinions to myself in public. I will talk to them with close friends or family, but outside that I let people think whatever they want to think. Sometimes I do open up about random things though.

Drone
25-08-10, 03:55
I'm a very blunt person, If I have something to say no one is gonna stop me lol. I don't hold back when I got something to say, I've had a couple moments on this forum >.> haha. If someone can't handle what I have to say then ignore it, or grow a pair already.

That's just how I am :D

Draco
25-08-10, 11:10
I keep my opinions to myself in public. I will talk to them with close friends or family, but outside that I let people think whatever they want to think. Sometimes I do open up about random things though.

You accidently say things like:

I wish a zombie would rip your face off.

Or

I hope your next poo is a hedgehog.

Or even

If you were any uglier, I'd be the star of Resident Evil: Extermination.

miss.haggard
25-08-10, 15:05
You accidently say things like:

I wish a zombie would rip your face off.

Or

I hope your next poo is a hedgehog.

Or even

If you were any uglier, I'd be the star of Resident Evil: Extermination.

Exactly, accidental slips are the worst!

I just don't like pushing my opinions on people, so I'll keep to myself. You can have your opinions and beliefs, just don't question mine.

Catracoth
25-08-10, 15:05
I think what people need to realise is that while you're free to state your opinion, there is a time and a place for it. If your opinion adds nothing positive, it's best to just say your opinion to yourself and move on. It's what I try to do, and it's beneficial for everyone.

Jo269976
25-08-10, 15:31
I'll say what I think if do so feel inclined.

Tough titty.

nick styger
25-08-10, 15:40
My opinion changes depending on whether i@m in a good mood or a bad mood. :mad::)

EDIT: That's just rubbish

EDIT 2: No it's not.

Catracoth
25-08-10, 15:45
I'll say what I think if do so feel inclined.

Tough titty.

:vlol:

Encore
25-08-10, 15:50
I think what people need to realise is that while you're free to state your opinion, there is a time and a place for it. If your opinion adds nothing positive, it's best to just say your opinion to yourself and move on. It's what I try to do, and it's beneficial for everyone.

Exactly what I think.

I don't like it when people justify their rudeness and their blatantly aggressive and offensive remarks under the premise that everyone is free to say whatever, whenever. Well no ****. But there's something called "being civil". For one, the way in which you speak your mind makes a world of difference. Instead of saying "Crystal fans are morons"... why not just keep the focus on the arguments themselves, instead of the people that support them.

And if you don't know how to properly word your opinions without insulting someone, maybe the smartest thing would be to just shut up, as obviously the only thing you're getting back will be a flame war.

I learned this from my own personal mistakes, but let's consider a recent episode: people that for whatever personal reason, disagree with homosexuality. Now tell me - what exactly do these people hope to accomplish by stating it out loud, among a group of homosexual people, and in a completely unrelated discussion? To they think their whining will somehow make the gay people suddenly realize that they're all wrong?? Frankly, there's using your right to free speech, and then there's just being plain provocative.

To these people, all I say is: if you're so eager to start the fire, don't cry when it burns you back.

pinklaralover
25-08-10, 15:51
I did. I should, but all I seem to be getting Is negativety back. Dont know why I bother. :rolleyes:

nick styger
25-08-10, 15:51
Exactly what I think.

I don't like it when people justify their rudeness and their blatantly aggressive and offensive remarks under the premise that everyone is free to say whatever, whenever. Well no ****. But there's something called "being civil". For one, the way in which you speak your mind makes a world of difference. Instead of saying "Crystal fans are morons"... why not just keep the focus on the arguments themselves, instead of the people that support them.

And if you don't know how to properly word your opinions without insulting someone, maybe the smartest thing would be to just shut up, as obviously the only thing you're getting back will be a flame war.

I learned this from my own personal mistakes, but let's consider a recent episode: people that for whatever personal reason, disagree with homosexuality. Now tell me - what exactly do these people hope to accomplish by stating it out loud, among a group of homosexual people, and in a completely unrelated discussion? To they think their whining will somehow make the gay people suddenly realize that they're all wrong?? Frankly, there's using your right to free speech, and then there's just being plain provocative.

To these people, all I say is: if you're so eager to start the fire, don't cry when it burns you back.

wow. nice one

pinklaralover
25-08-10, 15:55
Exactly what I think.

I don't like it when people justify their rudeness and their blatantly aggressive and offensive remarks under the premise that everyone is free to say whatever, whenever. Well no ****. But there's something called "being civil". For one, the way in which you speak your mind makes a world of difference. Instead of saying "Crystal fans are morons"... why not just keep the focus on the arguments themselves, instead of the people that support them.

And if you don't know how to properly word your opinions without insulting someone, maybe the smartest thing would be to just shut up, as obviously the only thing you're getting back will be a flame war.

I learned this from my own personal mistakes, but let's consider a recent episode: people that for whatever personal reason, disagree with homosexuality. Now tell me - what exactly do these people hope to accomplish by stating it out loud, among a group of homosexual people, and in a completely unrelated discussion? To they think their whining will somehow make the gay people suddenly realize that they're all wrong?? Frankly, there's using your right to free speech, and then there's just being plain provocative.

To these people, all I say is: if you're so eager to start the fire, don't cry when it burns you back.


I officially love you.

Catracoth
25-08-10, 16:15
Exactly what I think.

I don't like it when people justify their rudeness and their blatantly aggressive and offensive remarks under the premise that everyone is free to say whatever, whenever. Well no ****. But there's something called "being civil". For one, the way in which you speak your mind makes a world of difference. Instead of saying "Crystal fans are morons"... why not just keep the focus on the arguments themselves, instead of the people that support them.

And if you don't know how to properly word your opinions without insulting someone, maybe the smartest thing would be to just shut up, as obviously the only thing you're getting back will be a flame war.

I learned this from my own personal mistakes, but let's consider a recent episode: people that for whatever personal reason, disagree with homosexuality. Now tell me - what exactly do these people hope to accomplish by stating it out loud, among a group of homosexual people, and in a completely unrelated discussion? To they think their whining will somehow make the gay people suddenly realize that they're all wrong?? Frankly, there's using your right to free speech, and then there's just being plain provocative.

To these people, all I say is: if you're so eager to start the fire, don't cry when it burns you back.

Not only did I quote this for truth, but because I couldn't agree more if I tried.

Antonio
25-08-10, 16:34
It usually depends on the situation. But most of the time I just stay quiet and watch everything from a distance, rather than jump on in and voice my opinion.

Pretty much I doing the same way, but sometimes I ran in to people who say the same opinion so I usually stepping back and move on. Sometimes I'm keeping opinions for myself.

just*raidin*tomb
25-08-10, 22:33
I will voice my opinion of neccessary, but if things are getting silly and immature I walk away. Totally not worth my time.

Tonyrobinson
26-08-10, 03:37
Meh, I don't know what to do anymore. No matter if I voice or not there's still gonna be someone who takes it a tad offensive. :vlol:

MattTR
26-08-10, 03:40
Meh, I don't know what to do anymore. No matter if I voice or not there's still gonna be someone who takes it a tad offensive. :vlol:

Of course, and remember there's two sides to every story. :pi:

QiX
26-08-10, 03:40
I have a lot to say here, but I'm waiting for at least 100 replies to this thread :p

Tonyrobinson
26-08-10, 03:43
I just like to agree to disagree as to avoid confrontation but my God if you don't bring up reasons for you're agreeing there's still drama. Either I'm getting too old and mature for the forums or the members are getting younger or immaturer. :p

Lara_Fan_33
26-08-10, 03:55
as i posted i another thread :p
lol well ive learned not to be so soft anymore, i am always the nice guy in thread arguments and try to agree with both sides, but people have been so ignorant and such drama queens lately that i have lost pacience very quickly and post my opinions regardless of whether people like it or not. People dont like opinions around here and people are VERY quick to point the finger and judge people based on their posts, its a bit disgusting if you ask me, some poeple need to grow up. That stupid Drama begets Drama thread a couple nights ago was a perfect example of what i juts said