View Full Version : My mom died tonight

15-12-04, 05:40
December 14, 2004, approx. 8:20 pm Mary Grace Rahn entered into rest.

Cancer 4, us 0.

She fell asleep and passed peacefully soon after.

Goodbye Mommy, I love you.

15-12-04, 05:52
My deepest regret and sympathy for you and her other loved ones. You all will be in my prayers. My heart breaks for how you must be feeling. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-12-04, 06:12
I am so sorry for your loss! You and your family will be in my thoughts. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif again, I am so very sorry.

15-12-04, 06:34
I know how it feels to lose a loved one i am so sorry http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-12-04, 08:24
that's why i am a pesymist...be strong :(

15-12-04, 08:32
I'm so sorry Yours in_Darkness

It's such a terrible time of year to lose a loved one. My first Christmas without my mum last year was terrible as was my birthday early in December. Mum was always the first to ring me and wish me happy birthday and merry christmas. The pain eases but it never goes away. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Cathy http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/grouphug.gif

15-12-04, 10:45
A big hug for you http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif
Stay strong and remember she is out of pain now.
I fully unserstand how you are feeling and nothing anyone may say to you will make you feel better.
But you have your family around you and i'm shure they will help you to cope through the next few weeks and months.
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15-12-04, 10:51
I'm really sorry for that. You have my sympathy http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif Be strong now.

15-12-04, 11:42
Ohh,may your Mother rest in peace.
And you will be in my Prayers also.

I also want to wish YOU all the best to.

15-12-04, 11:52
I am so sorry, Yours. I know how difficult this has been for you. She is at peace now. Remember the good times, & how much she loved you. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-12-04, 11:52
I know how it feels to lose someone you love.
So here's some advice that will get you trough.
Cry if you want to becouse it will make you a lot stronger.
You don't have to forget her keep her in yout heart.
The final one is think of the good memmories you had with her those memmories can be painful but makes it easyer to lock her in your hearth.
that's all i can do to get you trough those hard times.

15-12-04, 12:55
Words cannot express your loss, I had been praying for your family, I will contiue to pray that God will give your family the strength during this very difficut time!

Your mother is now in a wonderful place*, her suffering is over.

I'm so sorry, with all my heart http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

*(depending on your religuous beliefs)

15-12-04, 13:27
I am so very sorry. I can't even imagine the pain you are going through. Take care and be strong. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-12-04, 14:30
I feel so bad for you! Cancer is such a horrible disease to watch as it takes over someone you love. I will continue to pray for you that the people surrounding you will be a comfort, especially during Christmas. I wish I could make you feel better, but even if all of our words don't help too much right now, remember that we're all here for you. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

tlr online
15-12-04, 14:36
Really sorry for your loss.

Melonie Tomb Raider
15-12-04, 15:16
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, that is so sad. :( I will keep you in my prayers, every day. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif If you ever start feeling bad and need some one to talk to, just remember that I'm here and so is everyone on the forums. Like I said before, you will be in my prayers. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-12-04, 16:47
You are in my thoughts http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-12-04, 17:13
Originally posted by mattioz:
wit i noticed the title of my mum died TONIGHT! do you mean this evening or last night or can you see into the future?Look at the date of the post and at the date of death. They are both there.

There's nothing one really can say that can make it better. But it will get better. Time does it. It doesn't make it go away, but it teaches us to live with it. I'm sorry. :( http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-12-04, 18:29
I feel sorry for your loss, i know what you are going through. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif
But your mother is in peace now.

15-12-04, 18:32
I was so shocked when I read this! I'm really really really sorry! Ohhhh...
if it helps, they say that good people pass away peacefully, like your mom.

15-12-04, 19:49
omg i am so so sorry :( http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif i cant comprehend what you have been going through these past few months and now. cancer is a horrible disease. i too have lost many family members to cancer. one day there will be a cure. i sure hope it comes in our time.

i know this isnt a time to be happy, but be happy that she passed on in her sleep and that she is now free from her pain and cancer. even though its hard to say, i kept telling myself that when i lost my nana and my aunt to cancer. their pain and suffereing is gone, and even though it doesnt seem like it, its for the best for them and everyone.

if you ever ever ever need some one to talk to please dont hesitate to send me an email or pm.

you and your family are still in my thoughts http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

and as everyone else has pretty much said, be strong!! we can also be strong for you if you need someone for support.

Mark Garcia
15-12-04, 20:14
My more sincere condolences. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif :(

15-12-04, 21:28
:( my condolences from my deepest of my heart,i always feel bad when i am listening about cancer,i lost many people in my life, friends, relatives,so i really i am sad!
have courage life is difficult for everyone so keep going,stay alive to remember people you lost!

15-12-04, 21:39
I honestly felt and still do sadness, even though I don't know you in real life, I feel the least of your pain because it is something awful no one can feel except the unlucky person. I'm truly sorry. Cancer and other diseases all human enemy which will be treated soon hopefully, but till then we have to suffer. :( :( :( :( :( :( :( :(

[ 15. December 2004, 21:43: Message edited by: Anubis_AF ]

15-12-04, 23:36
very sad to hear of your loss - may she rest in peace and you and the rest of her loving family strive forward for your respective futures... - i know christmas might be hard to handle - but be brave and know that your friends here are thinking of you and sending you their love - even if its small - hopefully it will ease your heart...

take care and be brave in this time http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

16-12-04, 01:38
I'm really sorry to hear that, be strong, and remember that you have us as your friends, that you are not alone. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

16-12-04, 02:25
I'm so sorry for your loss Yours_in_Darkness!... I'll keep you in my thoughts. You hang in there and take it easy, for me at least, ok? :( http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

16-12-04, 03:45
I can't imagine loosing my mommie, as well as the pain you and your family are going through.

16-12-04, 03:53

16-12-04, 06:30
Thank you everyone, for your thoughts and prayers. It means a lot to us.

I must say, although some of your posts made the tears spill over, right now the only thing I feel is tiredness racking my entire body and mind. The past six months have been full of worrying and stress, and now that it's all over. I haven't been able to get much sleep - sleeping is easy but actually getting to sleep is much harder than I ever imagined. Thus is why I'm online at midnight-thirty.

I know I still have a long way to go, and the funeral in three days will be exceedingly hard, but it'll get better after that. Right? It has to.

Again, I'd like to thank each and every one of you for everything these last couple days and the last six months. By doing such a simple thing as caring, you've all done more than you could ever know.

Yours in Darkness,


16-12-04, 07:08

I don't know if it gets easier it's more an acceptance of what cannot be changed. I still find it hard to believe that my Mum has gone. Every Friday night I wait for her to ring me but the phone doesn't ring. Crying is good, it really does help. If you are having problems getting to sleep please go to the doctor and get something to help you to sleep. Sleep is so important, I know I suffered the same way. I have suffered from insomnia for many years.
I take a drug called temazepan, it's not a heavy barbituate but a very gentle sleeping aid that helps you to get to sleep, and if you wake during the night it just enables you to fall back to sleep again easily.
It's easy for people to give platitudes at a time like this, but the truth is it hurts so bloody much, but you know she was in pain and now that has gone, it's the people left behind that are now in pain and we have to cope with it. There are some good online grief counselling services. I turned to Grief Relief and it really helped to let go of the anger I felt at having my mother taken from me. And that is a lot of what you feel ANGER.
Please pm me if you want to talk or send me an e-mail, I am more than happy to listen and help if I can, often you get the most help from people you don't really know rather than the people closest to you that are suffering the same pain.

Wishing you all the best in the world

16-12-04, 12:24
I'm sorry for your loss.. We are here for you http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

17-12-04, 18:36
This comes a bit late, but still...
Im so, so SO sorry for that.. And i cant believe it, tho i dont know u at all, Yours_in_Darkness, i actually cried when i read the first post..and all the posts here..
Now i finally stopped cryin but i still feel awful. I know ur mom is in the best place ever and she's got rid of all that sufferin... but it must feel so awful, if i cry, i cant think how u pull it thru YID... I prayed for ur mom when i read about the cancer for the first time, but seems it wasnt enough. I will still pray tho, so that u'd get over it. ALL the best to u and ur family, YID. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

17-12-04, 18:40
My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. :(

18-12-04, 08:31
Very sorry to hear that, i feel sad knowing that you are going through this. May she rest in peace.

18-12-04, 09:23
Yours in_Darkness we all are with you in thoughts http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

18-12-04, 09:45
My heart goes out to all of your family http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

18-12-04, 10:39
My deepest sympathies. It can't be easy for you. If you need a virtual shoulder, we're all here. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

[ 18. December 2004, 10:40: Message edited by: Foamy ]

18-12-04, 11:42
Still thinking of you http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

18-12-04, 20:37
http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif Hope u'll feel better soon.