View Full Version : Has any of you been sexually harassed at work

17-12-04, 01:15
I work (part time) in a small office, and I have been there for a little over six months, everyone is relatively young, and I am one of only few only female copy editors. There's one guy who always crosses the line and makes blatantly inappropriate comments, I usually shrug it off, thinking he is flirting, but today he crossed the line, and of all days (like the worst ever)

This morning, I popped in the office to go over somethings (as I thought I was going on holiday tommorow), and I was wearing a white button down, with a sweater over it. Very appropriate. I was bending down to read something, and I guess he caught a glimpse of my bra, red w/ lace. And instead of just peaking and moving on, he says, "Red lace huh?" http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yikes.gif

I didn't know what to say! I just mumbled something and left...

I am leaving the office in Jan to pursue freelancing, but my friend thinks I should talk to management, I think I should just leave it as I will be gone in Jan..

How would you handle it?

17-12-04, 01:21
i'd say forget it. it doesn't seem worth it to be honost. your gone in January like you said. anyways, i can't really imagine anything happening if you do tell managment. just shrug it off like normal and avoid this guy for the last month

17-12-04, 01:22
DEFINATELY talk to your boss or management about it. that is so wrong. :mad:

a few times at work this guy in produce basically called me fat. i told my boss but he didnt seem to care. my boss of course is a guy so he doesnt think that those kind of comments hurt a girl even if they werent meant to be mean. you never tell a girl youve gained a lot of weight hu? and .. you shouldnt be eating that because youve gained wait.. etc. :mad:

also, this happened to my friend at work, a guy said to her, i like my women how i like my meat, meaty or w/e he said. but it was basically said like that and she didnt do anything about it. if a guy told that to me id FLIP out at him.

17-12-04, 01:26
Thanks! I really would like to put him in his place, but I suppose just another thing I have to deal with in my life...just let it slide I guess :(

17-12-04, 01:27
BTW TR Chik, you are hot, and definitly not fat :D *hope you do not consider that sexual harassment http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif *

[ 17. December 2004, 01:28: Message edited by: nerdalicious ]

17-12-04, 01:30
i work in a resturant, and i'd see the nasty oldest guy(bill, hate that guy) talk all dirty to Oni(greatest lady in the world who wished i was dead) heh, i almost threw him out one day.

but like TRchick said, she told and nothing happened.

17-12-04, 01:32
Originally posted by nerdalicious:
BTW TR Chik, you are hot, and definitly not fat :D *hope you do not consider that sexual harassment http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif *aw thank you http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif and no i dont http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

your boss might just brush it off but if you tell him he will at least tell the guy who harassed you, hopefully hed say something. so that could help... or if he says it again give him a piece of your mind rather than being lke http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/yikes.gif thinking *what did he just say?!?!*

[ 17. December 2004, 01:33: Message edited by: TRChik ]

17-12-04, 01:35
Maybe I will mention it in an office wide email memo just before I leave, that should burn his ass http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/violent.gif

17-12-04, 01:39
You could always return the favor.

17-12-04, 01:42
He is the all talk no action type...if I would have said, "yeah red lace... wanna see the matching thongs", he would have been like "uhhhhhhh" and likely run to the bathroom http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif

[ 17. December 2004, 01:42: Message edited by: nerdalicious ]

17-12-04, 01:44
I guarantee the men weak enough to need to resort to harassment are also too weak to be challenged.

He would either back off, run, or just make a fool of himself. Course there is the remote chance he might be intelligent, but I think that is unlikely.

17-12-04, 01:45
yeah, highly

17-12-04, 01:49
Originally posted by nerdalicious:
He is the all talk no action type...if I would have said, "yeah red lace... wanna see the matching thongs", he would have been like "uhhhhhhh" and likely run to the bathroom http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif HAHA you go girl!!!!! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/jumper.gif

17-12-04, 01:59
Lol! Ya'll Funny! But ya I think you should tell your boss ,cause if you don't then hes gonna think its ok and keep doing it. After you leave and somebody comes and if shes a girl I doubt she'll want da same thing happening to her. Well good luck with your boss!

17-12-04, 05:45
I would definitely say something. Guys like that will just keep going on their own little ignorant way, and maybe he'll get a clue. Then again, maybe not, and you could always try your idea and watch him run to the bathroom! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/clown.gif

17-12-04, 12:34
Men can be disgusting. Today at work a customer checked out my assests and commented in front of his colleagues while I was pouring his wine. I raised my eyebrow at him after they all booed at him and he said defensively "I didnt mean it like that."

And I answered: "Sir thats actually deemed sexual harrasment. If you do it again, Ill happily call the police."

And his colleagues apologised for his behaviour, they were embarassed, and I told them Im used to it from men like him. He said "What do you mean, like me?"

And I answered "Disgusting pathetic old decrepit pervets.... sir." And his colleagues laughed in his disgusting face.

Ha! Stick that in your pipe and smoke it.

My answer? I would say to the bra pervert: "And thats the closest you will ever get to it, sweetheart. I dont know what came over you to think for a second you have the right to look at me, let alone speak to me, but please, dont make that error again. Its pathetic that you think you have that right." And smile sweetly and walk off leaving him dumbfounded and out right ashamed.

Good luck! http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

17-12-04, 13:29
1: Pretend to be an martial arts expert and make him scared. :D

2: Pull down his pants in a public place, then run off quickly!

3: Accidentily spill hot coffe or something over him. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/clown.gif

Seriously, people shouldn`t behave like that at a workplace. *******. If telling your boss don`t help... I`m sure Lara would want you to get back some other way... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/clown.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/clown.gif

*Please do not attempt to circumvent the censoring software.

[ 17. December 2004, 20:17: Message edited by: Neteru ]

Capt. Murphy
17-12-04, 15:06
Part of me would say: ignore him. He's just another human-being trying to get by like the rest of us. Maybe he has bills (or perhaps ill-legitimate children http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif ) he has to take care of - and needs this job for the money/financial security, or benefits (insurance) that it offers.

Then there's the other part that says: he should be fired for his bad attitude. That way he'll learn not to be so offending and therefor become a better person by learning to respect others.

edit: And no. I've never been sexually harrassed at work. :( Not yet anyway. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/mischievous.gif

[ 17. December 2004, 15:08: Message edited by: Capt. Murphy ]

17-12-04, 16:53
Edited because I've read Rogue's thread and u've probably had too bad a day for jokes. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

[ 17. December 2004, 17:05: Message edited by: Scottlee ]

17-12-04, 17:29
I spent years being sexually harrassed at work :mad:

Me, being the female supervisor got lots of stick from an all male department.

But being a fool i let it pass over my head untill one day i was called into the office to be told that i had sexually harrased a male member of staff.

I was suspended for 6 weeks from work so they could investigate the alligations. Unfounded.
I was let back to my job but, I had been undermined so it was not long after that that I left my nasty little job to start a family with my partner.
I then decided to work for myself. Much safer I thought.

So to reply to your thread do not let one small incident pass it will lead to bigger ones on other people and that will not do.
get the nasty person sorted before he does it to someone else, I wish i had.

Bt the way sexual harassment can be anything you find sexually insulting or derogatory, words or actions.
A pat on the bottom or a sexual comment is all harassment.

[ 17. December 2004, 17:31: Message edited by: Red_Rain ]