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IceColdLaraCroft
15-05-11, 04:52
Do you think there's anything wrong with doing something alone?

Going to the movies, a concert, an outdoor activity.


There are always other people there with you, but if you don't go with your friends or if they don't want to go....do you still go?


Do you think there's a stigma to going somewhere alone? Is it sad? or just doing what you want to do?

ajrich17901
15-05-11, 04:55
Do you think there's anything wrong with doing something alone?

Going to the movies, a concert, an outdoor activity.


There are always other people there with you, but if you don't go with your friends or if they don't want to go....do you still go?


Do you think there's a stigma to going somewhere alone? Is it sad? or just doing what you want to do?

I don't think there's anything wrong with doing things alone, personally I prefer it. Unless I'm going to a concert or a movie I usually end up doing stuff alone, because I prefer it that way. I just look at it as doing what I wanna do.

TRNation
15-05-11, 04:57
I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You don't have to go with your friends all the time, but you don't want to alienate yourself altogether, either. It's all a matter of knowing when to take time with others, and when to take time for yourself. Time management. :)

SoupCard
15-05-11, 04:58
I don't usually tend to do things alone since I simply prefer the company of others. However I have always been the type to not really care about others opinions, so it doesn't bother me when I'm seen alone.

Legend 4ever
15-05-11, 05:06
Do you think there's anything wrong with doing something alone?

Going to the movies, a concert, an outdoor activity.


There are always other people there with you, but if you don't go with your friends or if they don't want to go....do you still go?


Do you think there's a stigma to going somewhere alone? Is it sad? or just doing what you want to do?
OMG, I go out alone all the time. I love people but when it comes to movies I prefer to go alone. Everyone looks at me weird when I say I went to the movies alone, generally people think it's weird I think.

This issue always reminds me of Sex and the City episode in which Carrie goes to the movies alone and Charlotte says "You went out alone. On date night. I would just think that all the people would be looking at me thinking "That poor pathetic girl..."And then Miranda says "Kinda like the way I'm looking at you right now?" I love that scene.

Alpharaider47
15-05-11, 05:10
Nope, I do all sorts of stuff by myself because I don't have anybody to go with(anymore). I recently went up to visit a friend in Vancouver, but due to a number of circumstances spent most of that time by myself. I go to the movies myself too quite often. There's nothing wrong with flying solo from time to time, sometimes you can have a much better time than if you were to do something with someone else.

Ikas90
15-05-11, 06:18
I usually travel on my own - that's probably one of the very few things I do alone, because there aren't that many people that would go with me. Besides, being alone gives you more freedom.

As for anything else, like going to the movies, or outdoor activities, I'll go with someone most of the time. The only time I've been to the movies on my own, was when I was overseas and really wanted to see a movie. Of course, in that situation, I had no one to go with.

And if I really feel like it, I'll even take a hike through the mountain on my own.

So it's kind of depends. Either I don't have someone to go and do stuff with, or I just feel like doing something alone to have some time to myself. Or I have no other choice.

Admles
15-05-11, 06:41
I've done them all alone.

Movies, concerts, theme parks, international travel, work. Nothing wrong with it at all.

Of course, doing those things with my girl is also great too :)

Nephili
15-05-11, 07:08
I do enjoy my own company. I often go shopping alone, and have eaten alone before as well.

I don't see anything wrong with it!

!Lara Croft!
15-05-11, 07:43
I do everything by myself... But if i could, id go everywhere and do everything with friends...if i had some over here in NZ.

So yeah, im alone all the time...

pEhouse
15-05-11, 08:05
There's lots of stuff I actually prefer doing along. Like shopping, or doing sports, for example. Having someone else with me means I have to adjust to their pace which annoys the hell outta me, but when I'm by myself I can just do whatever I like. My mother said I am not a team player :o

Tyrannosaurus
15-05-11, 08:10
I've gone to concerts and movies by myself, and also to areas of particular interest to me, like museums, libraries, woods, botanical gardens, book store readings, lectures, malls, porn stores, etc. It's worth going if you would want to anyway. Obviously, the company can help create a richer experience, but going by yourself is better than not going at all. I almost never prefer to go alone, but I rarely have a choice.

Minty Mouth
15-05-11, 08:58
A nice poem.

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A little sad, but nice.

ShadyCroft
15-05-11, 10:30
I dont see anything wrong with doing any of that stuff alone if you want to. There's no rule that says you cant or its wrong or oooooh unnatural.

Personally, I'd rather go out do those things with someone, not alone. I have done these things alone like once or twice, but usually when nobody wants to go I just cancel it.

Snazabaz
15-05-11, 10:32
I've never done anything alone, cause I always think people would be looking at me and taking the mick. It's obviously a really stupid thing to think, but still :p

TombOfRaiders
15-05-11, 10:38
Almost everything I do is done alone. I just can't stand being around people or with friends. >.< I prefer it that way, loner I am. :o

lara c. fan
15-05-11, 10:43
I do pretty much everything alone.

toxicraider
15-05-11, 10:52
I feel really sad when I see someone eating in a restaurant on their own, even though they're probably having a perfectly good time. I definitely prefer to have company most of the time.

Tomb-Dude
15-05-11, 10:57
I like to have company, i mean I can be by my self. But I get bored i've gone to town to do a few things by self.
I just find company better having mates around to have laugh, go and have a meal with mates, go to the cinema with mates and afterward talk about the movie and then go and do stuff afterwards. But I wont deny a bit of alone time just to get a break but there is only so much of being by my self i can stand.

Jolivhanna
15-05-11, 13:08
I say not at all - particularly with outings, there's nothing wrong with going alone :) I've been to movies both alone and with friends, and I personally prefer seeing them alone but I've never been to concerts alone and I think it's very enjoyable when friends are there for that one. Same for outdoor activities :D Movies are mainly the better-to-go-alone things in my book. Interesting question, kudos! ;)

cezy rockeru
15-05-11, 13:22
If you feel like doing something on your own,why would it be a problem? :D

jackles
15-05-11, 13:49
I think for some things there still seems to be some stigma to women doing them alone. I first went to the cinema alone at the age of 11 but I got some very odd looks. I am quite happy to be on my own but not every one sees a woman on her own as just being independant

FloTheMachine
15-05-11, 13:50
I prefer doing things on my own tbh. :)
I don't think it's sad either, it's not that I don't have friends or anything, but I just go to concerts, and stuff along those lines by myself.

I'd definitely go to a concert by myself, no one else likes my music. :p

Encore
15-05-11, 13:58
I'm an IRL, female version of Forever Alone guy. I do a lot of stuff by myself, including usually social things such as concerts, cinema, going for a walk, shopping,etc. I have done so for many years (since I was a teenager) and now I am simply more used to it.

Nerd For Life
15-05-11, 14:12
I've travelled alone, gone to the cinema alone, went to concerts alone, went to walks alone. Does it bother me? No. I love peace and silence. Shopping alone is the best!

FloTheMachine
15-05-11, 14:24
I've travelled alone, gone to the cinema alone, went to concerts alone, went to walks alone. Does it bother me? No. I love peace and silence. Shopping alone is the best!

<3

larafan25
15-05-11, 14:25
People may think you are a loner or creeper.

However Tyra said you should.

Ada the Mental
15-05-11, 14:30
It depends on my mood and what I'm doing. I'd rather go with friends to the cinema and concerts but I definitely prefer shopping alone (no one's trying to make me buy clothes I wouldn't be caught dead in!) and I often go for coffee or a walk on my own.

the ancient
15-05-11, 14:32
I don't like doing things alone.
I prefer (good) company when I go out.

CerebralAssassin
15-05-11, 14:34
If you feel like doing something on your own,why would it be a problem? :D

it'd be a problem cause people are gonna stare at you....lol

the ancient
15-05-11, 14:36
it'd be a problem cause people are gonna stare at you....lol

This and I find that highly annoying

EDIT: ow white text

CerebralAssassin
15-05-11, 14:38
This and I find that highly annoying

EDIT: ow white text

yup...people are gonna stare...but you shouldn't give a ****.that's the point of the white text:p

TRfan23
15-05-11, 15:14
I prefer to do things alone such as going out rather then having company, but I'm quite a sensitive person so I feel uncomfortable doing it :o

I detest people staring at me, doesn't mean I hate them or dislike them though... I keep thinking that they think I'm some retard :o


When I was a lot younger I didn't mind doing things alone so much, but now I'm older it's different. I think it comes down to awareness?

EmeraldFields
15-05-11, 15:25
I'v tried going out to eat on my own, but it was just really awkward because all you do is just sit there and eat. I like to be able to talk to someone if I go out. It just makes it more enjoyable.

But to answer the OP's question, no there's nothing wrong with it. I just don't like to.

Jester Head
15-05-11, 15:27
Depends on the situation, but, mostly, going out alone is the best.

pEhouse
15-05-11, 16:17
Why would people stare simply because a person is all alone? I never encountered a single person anywhere and stared at them simply because.. well, because they were by themselves. That seems like a very immature assumption to me.

mikhail
15-05-11, 16:48
I am always alone and there sometimes that I don't have great company and I feel more alone than anybody, but I don't give a :cen: because I am still alone without specifically needs from somebody or anybody. :cool:

Besides that if I want to go to the cinema I really don't need to go because my friends they are bored and they are waste of money to see a movie. :rolleyes:

If I go for drink in the club or bars you see the same people every saturday and you can't feel to go with your friends because they choose their place that they wanted to go, and at the end you take some beers to your home to see a movie or take a bottle of whiskey, you drink it alone with some music and doing like nothing happened. :cool:

The coffee thing is the greatest part that I am not feel alone even if I drink it myself or with company because I drink it to my home and I am explaining to myself that I have a coffee and also some friend if he feel usually bored he or she want me to join for a cup of coffee or a frappe(In Greece) and I am feeling much better from loneliness and I don't have to fooled myself that I didn't go anywhere. :cool:

The coffee is the only thing keeping me alive for dates and for myself of course and I have no worries from all that :cen:. ;)

moodydog
15-05-11, 17:12
its all a matter of balance. If you do stuff alone because you have no friends and it bothers you, then I would encourage you to do something about that, so you dont alienate yourself (unless you dont mind). If you usually do stuff with friends, and you want to go out on your own, nothing wrong with that. My mate went to a gig alone because I had too much work, but he said it didn't bother him, he said he wanted to see the band soo much!
It all depends on the situation really.
I HATE shopping with other people, so I go into town alone a lot, but because I prefer it that way. Though if I were going for a bit of leisure/ fun or going to the cinemas, I would allways go with friends... though my friends list is a bit short atm :o Just been out rock climbing with a few mates actually.

Why would people stare simply because a person is all alone? I never encountered a single person anywhere and stared at them simply because.. well, because they were by themselves. That seems like a very immature assumption to me.

I think it is normal to feel a bit insecure when out alone, I used to feel like people were asking the same thing. The only thing now if people I know see me alone, which has never actually happened... yet. But that wouldn't worry me too much now. I have seen loads of people out alone in Town, and I never question it :)

Keir
15-05-11, 17:22
Nothing wrong with it, if it makes you happy.

I usually travel on my own - that's probably one of the very few things I do alone, because there aren't that many people that would go with me. Besides, being alone gives you more freedom.

This! I love travelling on my own. It's such an adventure. Also, it means you end up meeting cool people and making new friends (which I suppose ends up taking away the alone bit).

Admles
15-05-11, 18:25
I have to agree, I love travelling alone, setting my own hours, doing what I want, when I want, it's great.

But I did some travelling recently with the love of my life, showing them around, and that was great too :)

xMiSsCrOfTx
15-05-11, 20:31
Going to movies or to dinner alone just shows you're confident, in my opinion. I've always wanted to go to dinner or something by myself. I have yet to do so. :p I see nothing wrong with it!

Simochka
15-05-11, 20:36
I don't think it's wrong!

I hate people I don't know so I can't even go and buy some schampoo without someone I trust. But I wouldif I could.
I have to be with friends everyday :p

SamReeves
15-05-11, 23:48
Nvm.

Shark_Blade
16-05-11, 00:09
It's nice going out with friends, but doing it alone is enjoyable as well.

Like when I went to the gym or library, it's so nice having a "Me Time" once in a while.

coolaideonfire
16-05-11, 00:13
I don't think there's anything wrong with doing things that are usually perceived as social on your own. I've been to the cinema and to a couple of concerts by myself because I couldn't find anyone interested enough to go with me. I'd rather enjoy the experience by myself than with someone who doesn't want to be there!

Aphrodite22
16-05-11, 00:20
i dont think theres anything wrong ,... IMO theres something wrong with the people who think its wrong.


I love doing things alone, but i dont usually do them....

innocentvenus
16-05-11, 00:46
Nothing wrong doing things by yourself! Sometimes it's better to do things and have alone time. :D

I love going shopping alone since I take a really long time to look at everything. It drives everyone nuts and they get bored quickly.

Mikky
16-05-11, 03:29
I'd never do any of those stuff alone. I mean, going to the cinema by yourself? That's just kinda sad. :/

xXhayleyroxXx
16-05-11, 07:43
I don't like going out alone :p I feel too shy and vulernable >.<

scremanie
16-05-11, 07:57
The title makes me think of masturbation.

Autolycus
16-05-11, 08:10
^
LOL.

I don't think anythings wrong with doing things on your own.

jajay119
16-05-11, 08:35
I don't mind doing things on my own apart from 2 things; Going the cinema (which in the UK isn't socially done) and eating alone in a restaurant. A fast food restaurant doesn't bother me, I mean a proper one! But I'd have no problem travelling along or anything like that!

blufan
16-05-11, 14:12
The title makes me think of masturbation.
:eek::vlol:!

i always do stuff alone. actually prefer it. and it never bothered me too.

sandygrimm
16-05-11, 14:52
As much as I don't like to go to fun events alone, I often end up alone since I can't depend on others, or canceling all together :p

Nenya awakens
16-05-11, 15:30
I do most things by myself, been to the cinema a couple of times on my own as well, I'd much rather go shopping alone so I can just get it done.