View Full Version : One of my Best Friends was killed last night.

Soma Holiday
13-03-05, 01:47
He was 17 and was in a car accident with 2 of his friends.

He was the nicest guy I've ever met. :( I feel so sad right now, I've been crying all day. It's too much. :( :(

13-03-05, 02:15
Im sorry to hear that, it must be horrible for you. Just greave as much as you need to ok. :(

13-03-05, 02:58
God it's hard being a teenager. I remember my teens and the number of friends I lost during that period. It's a sad fact that more teens die in car accidents than any other age group. I remember getting ready to go to the Movies one Saturday listening to the radio whilst putting on my make up only to hear over the news that my boyfriend had been killed the night before. I was meeting him at the movies. I really hope in a strange way that it was your friend that was driving as if it was one of the other 2 and they survived they will find it very hard to cope with having been responsible for their mates death.

Soma you have all my best wishes. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

Soma Holiday
13-03-05, 05:17
Thank you so much guys, and Tramp, I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you, and regretfully Matt Wasn't driving the automobile. He was in the passenger's seat when the driver lost control and hit a bridge. The car fell into a creek, and I'd heard rumors that he'd drowned, which made it even harder, but I then learned that he was killed on impact which helped the pain a little more, but it still hurts so bad.

And thankfully, the other 2 are alright, but it is really upsetting to know that they were only 1/4 of a mile from his house. :(

[ 13. March 2005, 05:20: Message edited by: Soma Holiday ]

Precious Bass
13-03-05, 05:23
I am really sorry that happened. I cannot imagine how bad it must be to lose someone close under those circumstances. Best wishes to you and his family.

13-03-05, 05:23
That's just...

Dunno what to say...

13-03-05, 05:56
Soma it was an awfully long time ago now. (I'm 53) I was only just into my teens. But I can tell you it was a god awful way to find out. He was a really lovely guy and he also was the innocent party, the other driver was at fault. In Australia they are looking at bringing out laws that restrict the power of the cars that Learner and Provisional drivers can drive. In New South Wales we have just had a spate of deaths in car accidents for Provisional Teenage drivers. In nearly every case speed was the cause. Most were driving high powered cars. We already have it for motor bikes that they can only ride bikes up to a certain cc capacity. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/wave.gif

Mark Garcia
13-03-05, 10:34
Soma, I'm sorry to hear that. :( http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

13-03-05, 10:37
Hope you'll feel better soon.

13-03-05, 10:38
:( http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

13-03-05, 10:43
Poor thing. Hope you'll be ok.. Remember we're all here for you http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

13-03-05, 11:27
Hope you are okay Soma. (people should be more careful about what they are doing!)

13-03-05, 13:15
I'm completely crushed by the news, Soma :( .
All my best wishes go out to you and your friend's love ones.
I'm so very sorry for your loss.

tlr online
13-03-05, 13:19
Sorry to hear about that.

13-03-05, 14:45
Oh that is sad Soma Holiday. :( Your friend will be in your heart forever.

Take care of yourself. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

13-03-05, 16:10
Thats aweful, its like someone mentioned more teens die in car accidents now-a-days. I had a friend who died in a stolen vehicle when i was 14 and it was his brother that was driving. I also new his mother.. and she was devistated for years, she moved away but still kept a bedroom for him when she moved, i guess that was just her way of dealing with things.

I hope are ok, and may your friend rest in peace.

13-03-05, 16:36
I'm sorry to hear that Soma. Be strong http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

13-03-05, 17:20
Don't worry Soma. As long as you remember him, he'll live in your heart as before... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

13-03-05, 18:21
My father died of a car accident as well but don't worry. Take it easy and try to stay strong.

[ 13. March 2005, 18:21: Message edited by: THORN ]

13-03-05, 18:34
I'm really sorry about that Somer. Its terrible to lose someone you were so close to.

[ 13. March 2005, 18:36: Message edited by: Lemmie ]

Soma Holiday
13-03-05, 18:55
Thankyou everyone so much, http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif and I am SO glad I had a chance to know him, but I went to the site of the accident today, and it wasn't even a 1/4 a mile from his house, more like 300 feet, if that much. It was right at the end of his drivway, in walking distance. I feel so bad for his mother. She'll have to look out her window and see the bridge everyday. :(

Melonie Tomb Raider
14-03-05, 03:04
Oh Soma, that is so sad!!! I got all teary-eyed just reading this topic! I'm sure he was a very sweet guy, and I'm sure he's in Heaven right now. Soma, I will definitely keep you in my prayers, and of course, I will be praying for his family. I can't even begin to imagine the pain they are feeling right now. :(

14-03-05, 03:24
I lost my closest friend in January.. strange though, how often a life only seems like it is worth a few weeks of sadness.

Then it is all alright again.

14-03-05, 14:58
Soma, really sorry to hear about your friend.

Soma Holiday
15-03-05, 01:23
Thanyou everyone, and thankyou Mel. His funeral was today, and I am such a wreck right now. I would give anything to switch places with him, and I know that this is going to effect me years to come, because no one should have to bury their children, and I witnessed it today. It just seems so unreal, and I haven't accepted it yet. I loved him so much.

15-03-05, 02:23
Dude, im sorry for your loss, i know how you feel, my friend died in september when a truck hit his car when he was broken down (i still dunno if he died instantly or was burnt to death when the car went up in flames before exploding)
The pain of your friends passing, will diminish within time, but will always remain locked away inside.
Im sure your friend would like you to start a new chapter in life by living life it to it's fullest, as that is what you'd want if your places were reversed.
Always remember that while you keep him in your heart, he's not really gone, his spirit shall remain with you

15-03-05, 02:57
Soma the funeral is always the worse part. You know it is really goodbye. I remember my mum's funeral it was so stressful. I still have difficulty listening to "Wind Beneath My Wings", which was one of my mum's favourite songs and mine to. We played it at the funeral. It always did make me cry. Things will start getting easier now the funeral is over, very slowly at first so it's hardly noticeable. You will never forget, but the pain does ease. Sometimes you will just remember things and start crying (like my memories are doing to me now).

15-03-05, 16:57
I am so sorry to hear of your loss Soma. I know things seem awful now but I promise it will get better. I lost my grandad last January and I was grieving for ages, but you do learn to accept it in time. Just look back on your memories of your friend and keep his spirit alive. At least you know he is heaven and will always be at peace.
I wish you all the best.

Soma Holiday
15-03-05, 21:54
Thankyou so much, and today was only slightly better, but I think I have a way to cope with it now. I might be insane, but I've decided to write to Matt everyday like he were still here. I have so much I want to say to him and I know that I've lost the opportunity. But maybe if I write to him, my pain will slowly heal, and who knows, maybe he'll even get the message.

The biggest thing I am regreting is that he was so perfect for me. I felt like we were the same person, and now I regret not acting on it. I didn't realize how much I loved him until he was taken from me. :(

15-03-05, 22:03
Soma I think writing to him is a very good idea. I think it is great grief therapy. Any way that you can find and feel comfortable with to express your feelings is good. Bottling things up is never good and in the end things explode. You have to let those emotions out and if writing letters works for you then more power to you. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

15-03-05, 22:14
...and who knows, maybe he'll even get the messageI think he will, cos everything (even thoughts) has some very tiny part of energy (talking of science -> phantom of elementary particle) which never (at least as far 'we' know) disappear.

15-03-05, 22:29
I'm really, really sorry for you :( The most important thing now is to believe and to be happy that you had a chance to meet such a great person... He will be in your heart forever and nobody can take him from there...

Soma Holiday
15-03-05, 22:52
Thanx Apofiss and Tramp, I feel better about it now, and you've given me hope. http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/hug.gif

And Jenx, I'm trying.

16-03-05, 03:34
Soma - *giant hug*

Two years ago, a senior at my school committed suicide. I went to his funeral, and his aunt said something that I'll never forget - "The only thing harder than sending a child to college - is not sending a child to college." It's truly tragic that so many lives are taken so young. But keep your head up. Things will really suck for a while, you know that, but they will get better. Trust me. And make sure you give yourself proper time to grieve. If there's a morning that you just don't feel like you can get up and go to school and all you want to do is sit at home and eat chocolate ice cream, then, by all means, do it. Don't let that happen too much, but people will fully understand if you need a day every once in a while. Don't push yourself - I pushed myself too hard after my mother died and ended up very sick. Just take your time, do what you have to do, and eventually you'll be able to smile when you think of him instead of cry.

~*p.m. me if you want to talk*~

Lots of love,
Yours in Darkness

16-03-05, 15:53
Sorry to hear that :'(

16-03-05, 20:32
Oh, that's horrible! :(