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the croft woman!
01-03-03, 13:08
I have a friend at school, she wants to end it with her boyfriend, he's done nothing wrong, she's just lost that feeling for him. She's asking me for advice how to finish him without hurting him, because he's crazy about her.

I've said to her just give it to him gently, but she dont know how. Any advice?? :(

tlr online
01-03-03, 13:14
Just be honest.

the croft woman!
01-03-03, 13:58
Yeah, shes going to be honest, it's just how to break it to him. Shes going to tell him she just see's him as a friend now, but hes the kind of person who'll be wanting a reason for it. Shes not going to lie to him, but she just doesnt know how to say it... if you understand what I mean?

ELEN
01-03-03, 15:40
The reason for seeing somebody as a friend after this kind of relationship isn't something that came out of nowhere. It's not something that only the person who ask to break the relationship has decided this. This means that your friend can't see something interesting in the relationship (therefore she can't give something more) or her boyfriend can't give something more that can fill your friend. Or he gives many things but your friend isn't ready to accept them. "Do you want to give things that I can't accept??"

Werner Von Croy
01-03-03, 19:40
"I have a friend...."isn`t this the classic line when asking for advice for yourself? :rolleyes:
If she can loose those feelings like that, chances are that she never had them in the first place.However,honesty is the best policy.There is no best way other than the truth.She needs to tell him why she feels this way and make it clear that this is no reflection of the way he`s been or the way he`s treated her.Friendship is ok but don`t make it sound like she`s had a better offer and he`s being downgraded for a better option.Or that he`s being put on hold in case his replacement does not work out.
Situations like this never end well ,the best you can hope for is a successful damage limitation exercise.Good luck to your friend. ;)

Duffman
02-03-03, 01:06
three simple words... "I am Gay"... sorry, yet another simpsons reference...

gee i miss high school, the get-togethers, the break ups, such a funny place...

well, honesty may just kill him... i know it sounds odd, but it may crack open his chest and rip his heart in two... im not saying lie, but just blurting out "I just dont have the feeling for you"... its a tough thing to say, and its not nice at all, in that, you dont want to hurt them... but... sometimes the only option is to hurt them somewhat... but then agian, be considerate, be kind, dont be harsh and dont tell them a lie...

both parties will be somewhat hurt im sure, but having a break for a few days after the initial breakup, asking friends of the his to be with him (as in dont leave him alone, and talk to him) and coming together after a few days break and saying "So how are you going?"... and having a lengthy conversation about things will ease the pain...

good luck... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

the croft woman!
02-03-03, 11:24
Originally posted by Werner Von Croy:
"I have a friend...."isn`t this the classic line when asking for advice for yourself? :rolleyes:
I know thats a classic line, but Im very happy with my boyfriend, and dont ever want to split up with him.

I promise this is for my friend, her name is Michelle shes 16, her boyfriend is called Aron...

Anyway, when im asking advice for myself, i'd say its for me http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

Anyway, thanks for the advice, i'll pass it on http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Werner Von Croy
02-03-03, 23:15
Just teasing :D http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

the croft woman!
03-03-03, 15:46
Thanks for the advice guys! Michelle says thanks to http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif But shes decided to stay with Aron, It was one of those times when you wonder about your relationships :rolleyes:

ELEN
03-03-03, 15:53
And I squeezed my head for Michelle to find a good way to tell Aron how to break up :D :D LOOOLLLOOL...

I think that it's better now... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

Trinity34
04-03-03, 17:34
Something I don't understand... why is he her boyfriend when she only feels friendship toward him? http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif

If both people don't feel the same way about each other then its only going to end with hurt feelings. Is that what your friend really wants?

the croft woman!
04-03-03, 18:35
I know, I dont get it, she said she does love him, just didnt realise how much she did actually love him... What I dont get is, what made her realise :confused:

Glombus79
04-03-03, 20:37
Originally posted by the croft woman!:
What I dont get is, what made her realise :confused: Not to sound immature or anything, but two things come to mind, neither of them suitable for posting on a board such as this. :rolleyes:

Err... anyways, I read once in the newspaper that the most popular places to propose are the big fancy restaurants (can't name any offhand), and the most popular places to break up are the cheap fast-food places like McDonald's, Dairy Queen, etc etc. (No, seriously, this was in the daily paper as part of a survey.) So, should she change her mind again in future, the first step to take might be buying him a cheeseburger... http://www.tombraiderforums.com/images/smilies/tongue.gif

the croft woman!
05-03-03, 16:02
lol :D