Sex-Changes...

CiaKonwerski · 14-10-11, 01:56

Okay so...I wanted to put this in the General Chat rather than MGC because I felt as if I would get more feedback here. As a lot of you know, I am pretty sure I am transgendered. I do not believe in surgery because If feel as if you should just age, grow, whatever naturally. Some people will counter that with "Well, if you were "really" born female...wouldn't it be natural to get a surgery". And honestly...that makes a lot of sense, but I am just...not able to do it for many reasons. So, what are your all opinions on transgendered people getting sex-changes, or anyone for that matter? What do you think needs to be taken into account etc? Would your opinion change of a friend who got one?

Draco · 14-10-11, 01:58

Do what you have to do.

Though it is clear that surgery is hardly natural.

xXhayleyroxXx · 14-10-11, 02:00

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Originally Posted by Draco

Do what you have to do.

Though it is clear that surgery is hardly natural.

This. Although my opinion wouldn't change if one of my friend's got one. Why should it? They're still the same person.

CiaKonwerski · 14-10-11, 02:01

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Originally Posted by xXhayleyroxXx

This. Although my opinion wouldn't change if one of my friend's got one. Why should it? They're still the same person.

This is very true...I just, I don't want to put the burden on a friend, especially a close one. I have told a few people, but not others. I feel as if, part of them would change the way they feel about me. Conversations would change, and deep down I think something would change the way they looked at me.

xXhayleyroxXx · 14-10-11, 02:06

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Originally Posted by CiaKonwerski

This is very true...I just, I don't want to put the burden on a friend, especially a close one. I have told a few people, but not others. I feel as if, part of them would change the way they feel about me. Conversations would change, and deep down I think something would change the way they looked at me.

If they're a true friend, it wouldn't be a burden. It's not like they're losing a friend and if that's what makes you happy -- they'll probably feel happy for you also. Conversations wouldn't change -- why would they? And it might take a while to get used to for them but eventually they will and no doubt, will be very supportive.

Atlantisfreak666 · 14-10-11, 02:08

If one of my friends were going to get a sex-change I'd support them 100%.

Mr.Burns · 14-10-11, 02:09

Whatever floats your boat. I don't judge people on looks, gender or ethnicity, but on actions.

Tonyrobinson · 14-10-11, 02:09

This is a thought provoking one, There will always be a certain back lash from people regardless of your choice, I am perfectly fine being born male and staying that way but I am not against anyone else who feels they were born the wrong sex and I feel like they should do what makes them happy.

Life is too short to please other people and if your happy without surgery then you aren't hurting anyones feelings. Not to say that you would with it. Everyone in the world is 50/50 on opinions either they agree or don't I personally wouldn't care what a transexual or transgendered person done as it is their business and I sure as hell wouldn't care if someone was.

The thing is that it is the year 2011 and yes there is still prejudice and racism but it's less now than what it used to be. Women can vote, men can be stay at home husbands whilst the wife works and men can become women or vice versa. All is good.

CiaKonwerski · 14-10-11, 02:10

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Originally Posted by xXhayleyroxXx

If they're a true friend, it wouldn't be a burden. It's not like they're losing a friend and if that's what makes you happy -- they'll probably feel happy for you also. Conversations wouldn't change -- why would they? And it might take a while to get used to for them but eventually they will and no doubt, will be very supportive.

Well, I told one of my close friends, who is like a sister to me. We just...talk about different things now. We talk about guys, etc. But...I feel awkward because I do not see it as normal. That is one thing that is wrong with me, I have this perception of what is "normal" and I try to strive for it. I just...it is hard is all. I just..I don't know if I should do this, then I would have to tell people like anyone I got into a future relationship with.

Draco · 14-10-11, 02:11

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Originally Posted by CiaKonwerski

This is very true...I just, I don't want to put the burden on a friend, especially a close one. I have told a few people, but not others. I feel as if, part of them would change the way they feel about me. Conversations would change, and deep down I think something would change the way they looked at me.

The trick is to recognize that change is perfectly normal and not necessarily a bad thing. I mean your daily life would be quite different if you were the opposite sex in everyone else's life, right?

It is unrealistic to alter someone's perception of you and not expect that alteration to have some sort of effect in their behavior.

I interact with women quite different than with men. I do recognize the women who were men originally (most of the time), but I still treat them as women and not men. To do otherwise would be to disrespect the entire reason for the change, to live the rest of their life as the opposite sex.

14-10-11, 01:56	#1
CiaKonwerski Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 9,569	Sex-Changes... Okay so...I wanted to put this in the General Chat rather than MGC because I felt as if I would get more feedback here. As a lot of you know, I am pretty sure I am transgendered. I do not believe in surgery because If feel as if you should just age, grow, whatever naturally. Some people will counter that with "Well, if you were "really" born female...wouldn't it be natural to get a surgery". And honestly...that makes a lot of sense, but I am just...not able to do it for many reasons. So, what are your all opinions on transgendered people getting sex-changes, or anyone for that matter? What do you think needs to be taken into account etc? Would your opinion change of a friend who got one? Last edited by CiaKonwerski; 14-10-11 at 01:59.

14-10-11, 01:58	#2
Draco Tomb Raider Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Terra, Sol Posts: 24,188	Do what you have to do. Though it is clear that surgery is hardly natural. __________________ I'm responsible for what I say... I'm not responsible for what you hear.

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Atlantisfreak666 Professor Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Oxford, England Gender: Male Posts: 3,568	If one of my friends were going to get a sex-change I'd support them 100%. __________________ It looks like my dance career's over

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Mr.Burns Tomb Raider Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Washington DC Posts: 18,903	Whatever floats your boat. I don't judge people on looks, gender or ethnicity, but on actions. __________________ WARNING: Do not mess with the Pigeon...

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Tonyrobinson Tomb Raider Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Devil's Pit Posts: 14,141	This is a thought provoking one, There will always be a certain back lash from people regardless of your choice, I am perfectly fine being born male and staying that way but I am not against anyone else who feels they were born the wrong sex and I feel like they should do what makes them happy. Life is too short to please other people and if your happy without surgery then you aren't hurting anyones feelings. Not to say that you would with it. Everyone in the world is 50/50 on opinions either they agree or don't I personally wouldn't care what a transexual or transgendered person done as it is their business and I sure as hell wouldn't care if someone was. The thing is that it is the year 2011 and yes there is still prejudice and racism but it's less now than what it used to be. Women can vote, men can be stay at home husbands whilst the wife works and men can become women or vice versa. All is good. __________________ "Everyone has a different nightmare in Silent Hill" - Alessa Last edited by Tonyrobinson; 14-10-11 at 02:11.