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AnthonyShock1515
29-01-07, 22:43
OK, my brother is really annoyng me right, he 21 gong on 2 nd he has never had a job in his life, apart from when he worked in a carwash for liek a week but one day refused to go in and lost it. As from then all he does all day is smoked pot in his room, goes out for an hour everyday (he never tells us where he is going) and he mainly justplays on a computer all day.

My mother is clarly stuggling financiall and yet he refuses to doanything, he is increadibly abusive and is shouting and searing all the time, he s always smashing things even when there no food in, its pathetic. My mother has threatened to kick him out but she is too soft to do that and me too (hes 6ft). The only one who does stand up to him is my sister who is 23, she moved out a few years ago andhes just started to take over our lives.

Now a while ago he started being really cheeky to me, he used to scan through my personal work and check my MSN history. When it got enough I removed isaccount from my computer one day before I went o school. After my GCSE busioness class after school, I came home and my mother told me my brother had thrown another radgee and has cut my internet wire. My mother told me everything he said abotu how he said was being spiteful and selfish and tht I recieed everything that was only before my dad died when I would recieve things, I get nothing now.

But then my moter told me somethig that waqsn;t to be discussed and absoloutly chilled me to my soul! Apparently he tod my mother he found in my messages and internet history sites about homosexuality and finding out if you ar a bisexual. My mother then boldy asked me if I was bisexual or gay, and I just sowre blind I wasn't, even though I had already made my decision. My sister and stepdad was in the kitchen listening. I knew my face gave it away but I still denied it. And my mother tunred roud and said something which shocked me again "Its alright if you are, we still love you".

I always imagined coming out would be heated, you know, throwing things etc. But stupidly I still denied.

Anyways, the internet was fixed out of my mothers pocket (70) and I didnt see or speak to my brother or about 2 weeks, even after then I didnt want to speak to him. I never let him in my room because I know for a fact he tries to guess my pasword( the other day I logged on and there was a guest account switched on, so he managed toguess my password)

But this night I came upstairs from making a saandwich and he was just leaving my room and he crapped himself and turned red. He asked me if theinternet was on and I said yes, then he said some weird popups were coming up. I got in and locked my door, on the screen was the panel stating whether t create a new account and some adware with some casino adware downloading for 888. I'm not sure if he was delibaeratley trying to infect my comuter but I shut down all of the windows andgot on with busness. I went to see my mother later and kicked of and she was saying that I was being selfish and that he shouldn't have to go around my sisters everyday to play on his crappy army games. My mother told me tolet him on but I kicked off and said I donlt want him going in my room and thats that, I told that my dad bought that for me and me oly and its the one place in this world where he or nobody (except my mother:p ) can interfere.

I mean, am I being fair or just being selfish, now Im in no stropp, but I can say hand on heart that I absoloutly despize him.:mad:

Fish.
29-01-07, 22:48
No, not at all. It's his own fault for trying to infect your PC. Next time you see him on, tell him to get the :cen: off, and if your parents interfere just tell them that he tried to infect your PC.

**edit** He WAS doing this on YOUR computer right?

Catapharact
29-01-07, 22:55
My question to you is, why are you even asking this question?

This is not a case of selfishness but rather an abuse of trust and breech of privacy. Other than that, shouldn't you be talking to your own family about this rather than complete strangers?

Offcourse people around here will give you advice but no one else probably knows you better than the people you actually live with.

AnthonyShock1515
29-01-07, 22:55
yer, out of spite basically

2kool4u
29-01-07, 22:57
cat he wants advice b4 he talks to his family

Catapharact
29-01-07, 22:58
cat he wants advice b4 he talks to his family


But he shouldn't hesitate on something like that. His mother obviously isn't abusive so that isn't an issue.

2kool4u
29-01-07, 23:00
true.

Camera Obscura
30-01-07, 01:39
You need to talk to your mother on how your brother goes through your privacy and mistreats your stuff. The longer you wait, the longer you got to put up with your brother's abuse.

Fish.
30-01-07, 01:42
You need to talk to your mother on how your brother goes through your privacy and mistreats your stuff. The longer you wait, the longer you got to put up with your brother's abuse.

Yes, seriously. If he mistreats you i would talk to your mother/father, and they will talk to your brother.

Trust me if my older brother went through my stuff i would punch him - hard! Mwuahahaha!!

Lenochka
30-01-07, 01:48
Go to your mom and get her to kick his ass to the curb... He goes through other peoples stuff and he doesn't seem to do much of anything to help out around the house so he shouldn't be staying there... Letting him stay is hurting him more then helping him... Its basically just teaching him to live off of people instead of stepping out and being independent.

rewak
30-01-07, 01:59
I agree with Lenochka, especially if he tried to dump you in it by outing you to your family, if anyone done that to me id ****ing kill them (excuse the language). He sounds like a waster to me, someone who thinks they can get away with murder, and if your mother wont do it then you need to lay it down. If he keeps messing around with your stuff, get a lock for your door.

Destroyer Op 89
30-01-07, 03:08
AnthonyShock1515

it may sound a lil cruel..and i hope i do not offend..but frankly your brother is a *******....the guy gets on your personal life because he'd too pathetic to has his own..then he calls you SELFISH?!!!..i think hes selfish hes not using his own damn strenght to help out your mother and your family!!! people like that need a slap in life so they can stop leeching off of you...you guys need to have your own life and not have to put up with this CHILD..because thats how hes acting..any man out there with any self respect and sense would try finding a job ...you guys have to stand up to yourselves...it all comes down on how you want to live...dont let his tormenting be the thing you guys take down to your graves...sorry for the drasticness but thats how id think of it myself!!:o hope this message helps ya out on something

interstellardave
30-01-07, 03:25
Your brother is clearly a bum. That's a very charitable word for him, too. Your mom knows this, of course, but she's been making the same mistake a lot of people make: trying to appease him to keep him in her life. What he needs from the entire family is heavy doses of tough love, NOT this constant coddling.

And Catapharact, though often unpopular with the way he says things, is completely right as well. It's high time that the family talked about this issue together. It only gets worse when everyone sidesteps it.

Hey, you asked!

RedTyga
30-01-07, 04:46
Your brother is clearly a bum. That's a very charitable word for him, too. Your mom knows this, of course, but she's been making the same mistake a lot of people make: trying to appease him to keep him in her life. What he needs from the entire family is heavy doses of tough love, NOT this constant coddling.

So true.

To me, you need to talk to your mom and tell her what's going on with your brother first of all. Second, your mom and step father need to either get him to pay for living at the house or kick him out. Simple as that.

Or maybe you need to move out, I don't know how old you are, but if you are of age maybe it is time for you to venture out and get a roommate, yada, yada and start your own life where you don't have to worry about your brother.

Mary CF
30-01-07, 05:57
Is it just me or does everyone have a bitter good-for-nothing older brother?

I won't discuss here, but my brother is similar. It's irritating, to say the least - especially since my mom empowers him to blame his personal issues on everyone but himself, and treats him like he deserves more respect than people who work harder at everything than he does.

You're not being selfish. Always stick up for yourself. It sounds like your brother is being a jerk.

cbragg09
30-01-07, 09:49
Well, I'm bisexual myself and I havent told my parents yet, but he is DETERMINED to find me out cause he found some bi-sexual porn sites on here (and he's tried to convince all of my ex g/f's that Im gay) So I know how it feels, and if mine was even 1/3's that bad I'd go and live with some other family member :o

laracroft2122
30-01-07, 15:10
Okay. Let me just put this into perspective in too points:

1) Not only is it your choice of your sexuality, it is also your choice when you tell someone about it.
2) And also it is a breach of privacy for him to be looking through your browsing history.

No, your not shefish. If you had GCSE work on the PC and your PC got virus infected someone could delete your work.

;)

Phlip
30-01-07, 15:16
First af all, your absoloutly not selfish!, and your brother is a ****ed up *****, so I think you should get him off your personal stuff and tell your mother that you refuse to let him on the computer, he broke the original pc and internet so it could somehow teach him to not be such a foul mouthed ******* (this really angers me, so please excuse my language).

You should also get a lock for your door, and think of a password that's so random that no/one'll figure it out like, oh I donno... kitchenmonkey1313.

Destroyer Op 89
30-01-07, 15:18
throw that guy out of the house hes useless !!! :(