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Tombcool 03-05-19 16:48

Is it too late to change my life around at 28?
 
Hey yíall,

Ok so the past 5 years of my life have been terrible. I canít even remember the last time I did art.

However, I plan on returning to school this year and finishing up within next two years. It just feels like I wasted a lot of my life and that itís too late. A lot of people I grew up with are making a lot of money now, have stable relationships, and literally boast about their perfect lived on social media. When I run into them in person, they rub it in my face too. I have nothing to show for it.

I was and have been going through a lot mental health wise, and it just all seems unfair. I feel jealous sometimes of others.

Fantasy 03-05-19 17:05

Itís only too late when youíre dead.

Chamayoo 03-05-19 17:12

You can change your life at any age. Maybe the latter the most difficult but you have to erase this "I'm too late" thinking from your mind. Sometimes I have the same but I reason myself and say "BS !"
Try to not bother and compare you to your friends, they probably don't care and don't judge you about this anyway. Fortunately life isn't a competition. I'm sure you will find something you will be fierce, maybe the most unexpected one, who knows ?
I wish you all the courage you need !

larafan25 03-05-19 17:21

Lara was 28 in the first Tomb Raider game and she did a lot of stuff afterwards. As long as you don't run into anybody named "Crystal Dynamics" you should be fine.

Anyways, no it's not too late. It's really never too late.

In our minds, everything moves fast. Just check it out, you can live an incredible and cinematic life in your mind's eye within the span of a few minutes. But real life is not moving so fast.

Just remember all of your friends are going to die. Like, they are also going to change careers and get divorces, etc... And they too are endlessly unsatisfied, as we all are. Nothing is ever finished here. But there is always something to quell the restlessness in any moment

There is always another day. There is always another paycheck with which you can create more opportunities. There are lots of options that we probably don't even know about tbh.

Also, don't regret where you were or how you spent your time, because you have gained a lot from those experiences, and who is to say that your friends have gained the same? It's not really comparable anyways. You've got something unique to give.

There is an opportunity to turn what feels like a giant weight upon your shoulders into a realization that there is so much more that you want. It's all entirely possible, so look at that fact rather than the fact it hasn't quite happened yet. It's a new beginning.

You know yourself, that as an artist that you're not going to be stumped by a blank canvas, and that each time you fill a bit of the picture in, it helps the rest come into place. These kinds of things are all the same tbh. :ponder:

Gabi 03-05-19 17:25

It never is too late.
Wishing you strength, success and good luck. :)

JsotoTRSaga 03-05-19 17:31

Great posts everyone, I agree with all of you.

Tombcool , as long as you have life it is never too late... trust me. In fact you are still so young! I studied nursing and several of my classmates during different semesters turned out to be 28+ and I even had a classmate who was 55! he graduated and got his degree and is really happy. Can you imagine that? Well Don't feel bad and instead use all of that energy to achieve what you truly want!

Cat Woman 03-05-19 17:53

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Originally Posted by Tombcool (Post 8084184)
Hey y’all,

I was and have been going through a lot mental health wise, and it just all seems unfair. I feel jealous sometimes of others.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gabi (Post 8084208)
It never is too late.
Wishing you strength, success and good luck. :)

Quote:

Originally Posted by JsotoTRSaga (Post 8084213)
Don't feel bad and instead use all of that energy to achieve what you truly want!

Don’t dwell on the past, but look to the future. Concentrate on school and your goal. Stay positive. :)

AlexyLC 03-05-19 19:39

Yesterday I made a post on the "How are you feeling?" thread that is just about people being pressured by age. (https://www.tombraiderforums.com/sho...4052&page=2281)

It is a hard feeling when you set an achievement in life and set an age to achieve it. I don't think that should stop anyone from doing what they want. You're still young and have plenty of time to work on it! Go ahead and don't waste it! There are people who are older and still aren't happy with their position in life professional-wise.

Good luck!

FreakRaider 03-05-19 22:32

honestly not having achieved any of the things i want to by like my mid twenties would ruin me, so i'm glad i still got a lot of time until then

Lara's home 03-05-19 22:47

We always like to compare ourselves with those who have it better than us, ignoring everyone who is in the same situation or are worse off than. It's never too late to change.

Go for it, and give it your all. :)
I just saw today an old classmate finish her high school exam at the age of 28.

SpyrosMonster 03-05-19 22:51

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Originally Posted by FreakRaider (Post 8084298)
honestly not having achieved any of the things i want to by like my mid twenties would ruin me, so i'm glad i still got a lot of time until then

ok but literally how does this response help at all?

Yeauxleaux 04-05-19 00:24

A part of me does think it gets a little harder, and I'm not going to lie about that. This is because you become more set in your ways and habits as you age, and unfortunately some stupid people might judge you for not getting on earlier and therefore might doubt you and not give you chances.

However I don't believe it is ever impossible. There are so many late bloomers who do get their **** together later in life and don't really become successful until later. It is an absolute myth that you need to be in your early 20s to do anything with yourself.

Also keep in mind that this is actually quite normal for us Millennials, regardless of the few you're seeing who seem to be successful and brag about it on social media. A lot of times that is a smokescreen and not is all as it seems, people aren't as happy and stable as they look.

I think someones we're stereotyped as being a "lazy generation". Again I'm not going to lie there are some things I really do not like about our generation. However there are also some things that have been really out of our control, that we're not given due consideration for. We haven't come of age in easy financial times where it's been as easy to get on our feet as it was for our parents. Therefore a lot of us are in these kind of situations where we're well into our 20s (sometimes even 30s) and not where we feel we should be. I'm included in that myself, partly due to my own personal circumstances, as my Dad died at a really critical time when I probably could have done a lot more had it not happened (still recovering from it).

I'm not saying this to be doom and gloom, I'm actually saying it as a consolation, this is normal for us so I think a lot of us shouldn't be so hard on ourselves.

You want to get yourself back into school, that is a good thing, you have to start somewhere and you won't get where you need to be overnight. Focus on your own self-improvement and where you want/need to be rather than comparing yourself to seemingly more successful people your age.

Draco 05-05-19 19:12

You can do it at any age.

AntRaidsTombs 05-05-19 20:13

Itís never, ever too late!!!

Ellioft 06-05-19 07:59

I think you can do it. It's not the end of the line for you :)

I can say I was on the same case as you (I'm 24) since 6 years everything goes wrong and I was comparing myself to my friends/family at the time (you have a job/a boyfriend/a house) etc and it was depressing and that's what you shouldn't do. Because it's an endless spiral that only gives you a feeling of beeing less good than others.

You have to make your goals because you want it not because everyone say you should do this or that.

It takes a lot of courage to rise up and doing something :)

You still have all the time to make your live :)

I wish you are gonna be successful in the path you have chosen :hug:

Maverin 06-05-19 08:37

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Originally Posted by Fantasy (Post 8084194)
It’s only too late when you’re dead.

This.

There will always be people out there who are more successful, who've made beautiful travels around the world, who've been popular all their lives, who always had money and a sense for fashion and who everyone seems to like without them ever trying. You just have to stop comparing your own life with others. It's an endless battle you will never win anyway.

Just go out there and do the things you love, and try to become the best person you can be. Don't try to be like someone else because that won't do any good. Take things at your own pace. Rome wasn't built in one day either.
As far as social media goes: everyone is trying to put an image of themselves being happy and doing fun stuff. Yet behind closed doors, they also have their share of problems you'll never see. This is something I myself struggled with a few years ago. You care so much about those pixels on your screen, a number of likes, that you'll never be happy. Does your picture reach 200 likes? Great! But then when the next one reaches 80 likes you'll feel led down because it's not as much as it used to be. See the pattern? You'll never be happy and you'll always want more and before you know it you're just chasing a bar you've set yourself for no reason.

Please remember this: other people don't care at all.

→ you think that it's embarrassing to have fewer likes or popularity on social media and that other people will see that and talk about it, or reject you because of it. The truth is that people scroll through their feed everyday without thinking at all. They see your picture and either they like it or not and that's that. They'll just continue scrolling and won't ever think about that picture of yours again after 2 minutes. You will still be obsessing over it for the coming hours, hoping that your like count will increase, but other people have forgotten about it a long time ago. They just move on and so should you.

iWANEX 06-05-19 13:05

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Originally Posted by Tombcool (Post 8084184)
Hey yíall,

Ok so the past 5 years of my life have been terrible. I canít even remember the last time I did art.

However, I plan on returning to school this year and finishing up within next two years. It just feels like I wasted a lot of my life and that itís too late. A lot of people I grew up with are making a lot of money now, have stable relationships, and literally boast about their perfect lived on social media. When I run into them in person, they rub it in my face too. I have nothing to show for it.

I was and have been going through a lot mental health wise, and it just all seems unfair. I feel jealous sometimes of others.

I know how you feel. I've been stuck for 7 years and I'm currently 34. I want to change my life so bad and I won't let 2019 to stop me from achieving my goals. So no, it's never too late.

Art is also such an underappreciated thing these days and it should be celebrated more. If you are an artistic person, you really should preserve that. It's one of the greatest achievements of Humanity.

Avalon SARL 06-05-19 14:14

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tombcool (Post 8084184)
Hey yíall,

Ok so the past 5 years of my life have been terrible. I canít even remember the last time I did art.

However, I plan on returning to school this year and finishing up within next two years. It just feels like I wasted a lot of my life and that itís too late. A lot of people I grew up with are making a lot of money now, have stable relationships, and literally boast about their perfect lived on social media. When I run into them in person, they rub it in my face too. I have nothing to show for it.

I was and have been going through a lot mental health wise, and it just all seems unfair. I feel jealous sometimes of others.

It is never too late.

You are still 28; you are at a very young age and at your summit; maximum energy and full of youth :)

I wish you best of luck because what you plan to do is the right thing.

I just want to comment: People on social media just show you the good side, but social media is full of lies, mainly from people who want you to believe that they are living the best lives ever. It can be true with some and it can be totally fake with others.

Don't let that get into you.
You have a great life ahead of you still waiting.
You can do greater things than what they are doing.

Tyrannosaurus 06-05-19 21:34

I sure wish I was 28 again.

Ms.LaraCroft 08-05-19 14:19

It's never too late. You can turn it around and do something absolutely amazing. :)

Art is beautiful and if you love it, you should continue to pursue that.

charmedangelin 08-05-19 14:24

No such thing as a too late in life, all you need is a starting point.

FreakRaider 09-05-19 10:32

i have a lot of respect for age itself/time advancing, so iíd rather change my life for the better now. however i know that nothing can beat down a determined human being, so no itís never too late to change anything

Dustie 09-05-19 10:51

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tombcool (Post 8084184)
Hey yíall,

Ok so the past 5 years of my life have been terrible. I canít even remember the last time I did art.

However, I plan on returning to school this year and finishing up within next two years. It just feels like I wasted a lot of my life and that itís too late. A lot of people I grew up with are making a lot of money now, have stable relationships, and literally boast about their perfect lived on social media. When I run into them in person, they rub it in my face too. I have nothing to show for it.

I was and have been going through a lot mental health wise, and it just all seems unfair. I feel jealous sometimes of others.

In this case the best thing you can do now is to do what you planned, get back on track. Go back to school, 2 years will fly by really fast. And when you run into your successful friends you will have something interesting to say at last.

It is too late for some things, but in your case you still have a lot of options.

Dennis's Mom 09-05-19 12:11

Of course you can! At 57, I can confidently say life is constant process of reinvention. There is no end goal but happiness.

I guess my advice would be to think about why you're live has "sucked" these past five years. Make a list of those things that specifically made it awful. Was it people? Work? Lack of funds? Lack of purpose?

Then I want you to think about how your going to change yourself moving forward so you don't fall into those same pits. Going to school is all well and good, but we all have internal habits that keep us making the same mistakes unless we consciously choose something else.

One other bit of advice: **** social media. Never use that or anyone else as a metric for yourself. Your happiness and success is only relative to yourself.

A_De 10-05-19 05:48

A few years ago I felt the same as you now. Nothing comes to our lives without any reason. Every situation is necessary either to make you understand some important things or get another kind of experience. The problem is because in bad situations people usually learn faster than when everything is calm and "full of success". Nothing will last forever, everything passes away. The conclusion you come to - that is important. Don't waste your time for sad thoughts. Choose a worthy goal (something more than just an ability to show your success to friends), and follow it. And please don't forget that it is never too late to be happy.

Saphyre 10-05-19 22:35

The moment you realise life is changeable, that itís not set in stone, that you can poke and prod at it, twist it and shape it, is the moment you realise itís never too late!! :hug:

trfan16 12-05-19 23:53

I agree with others in this topic - it's never too late to better yourself. I was in a similar situation 2 years ago when I was 26 where I was graduate student that was holding a retail job and still living at home. Meanwhile it seemed that most of my friends were already married, had their own house, and a successful job. It took me a long time to find a job that suited my career path. I probably submitted over 100 job applications a month, heard back from 10-15 of them, and was probably called in to 3-4 of them for an interview.

I say take everything step by step - no need to try and accomplish everything at once. This will only cause you to worry and stress out for no reason. This is coming from 28 year old who still a work-in-progress. :D


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