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Old 19-01-20, 16:00   #7
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The Borderline Personality Disorder is real, however this label is a resume of traits that, fluidly, can apply more or less on who is diagnosed. Identifying this disease helps in understanding more easily the therapy to apply and what to avoid (especially). But since no one is equal and only some traits are usually shared between each other (because the common pattern is the dynamic of the root cause, and not just the consequential symptoms, although the investigation has to start from them), this doesn't figure as an exact science and it can be underrated. Some psychologists also, don't diagnose personality disorders but only identify traits as they are, in order to not confuse/worry the patient and to operate only on the problematic traits in question (and not on the supposed root).
On the other hand there is something to consider: using this label as excuse for behaviours that damage the others is probably morally debatable, because not everyone might see it like an "handicap" that justifies everything (and I don't see it like that either; while having 3 friends with this disorder). This is probably also why other people tend to not recognize the disorder as real.
Anyway, some therapists might refuse patients with BPD because their style doesn't make it useful. A person with BPD will take the new little knowledges gained in 1 month of psychotherapy as valid and revelatory, and will try to believe in them... To then completely forget it, changing view. That makes many therapy approaches totally useless and wasteful.
So, some therapists proceed with more short-term styles without trying to heal the root from the root with a slow pace, but will only help in the superficial daily issues, without counting on the continuity of the patient. This style appears to be more useful and dynamic.
Just don't stop going to specialists until you can... BPD can become better during the time but it takes a very long time span to show -concrete- results. Like, 10 years. Sorry for saying it like this but this applies to every personality disorder, and a personality disorder is actually a "disordered personality", not just a faulty behaviour or something like that. It's something global of your actual personality. How much would a human take to change its -personality-? Decades, if ever. With therapy and the right specialists you'd reduce this time quite a lot. Don't stop going even when you think you're healed, because in BPD it's very common to have hits of "revelations" or to follow new ideals/idols, thinking they're the cure because now you're "changed" etc. These are the weakest moments instead. Keep going in psychotherapy even when you feel solved.
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